do you feel irritated or frustrated when someone says 'whatever'?

Singapore
September 13, 2008 8:20pm CST
personally i feel irritated and frustrated when i say something to the person and he reply me whatever. it is like he/she does not give a damn of what you just said. just yesterday, when my friend asked me about a maths problem, i explained every detail to him, instead of a thank you, i got a whatever. hey if he did not care in the first place why ask me? how about you do you encounter such ungrateful people?
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
Oh hell yeah! All the time from my sisters! And it is really frustrating especially when you are trying to put a point across. And when you do the same to them, they get angry! Many a times when they say whatever to me, I really feel like giving them a good slap across the face or head to wake up their idea. I mean, it is so disrespectful. Young people now a days totally do not have any respect for the people around them at all. Sad, isn't it?
• Sweden
14 Sep 08
If I were you, I'd be irritated as well. But it quite of depends how and when they say whatever. Like if they're mentioning things - ie. questions, computers, jeans, pillows..whatever - I don't mind. But if I'm trying to say something important or something I'm worrying about, and they reply me with a whatever, then I feel upset and irritated.
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• United States
15 Sep 08
Your friend was probably just frustrated because he did not understand what you had tried to explain to him and did not want to look like an idiot or something. Whatever is one of my favorite words to use when I can't be bothered to argue about some stupid sh!t someone is trying to pawn off on me. I'm glad to know it leaves people feeling as irritated and frustrated as they were making me!
• United States
15 Sep 08
I agree, I think that was the reason the friend responded in this way. I think he was just frustrated but at the same time he should have said "thank you". Maybe he didn't mean it in a rude way though, sometimes simple things like saying "thank you" just slip our minds and we might not realize how rude we're being.
@Hatley (164354)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Oct 08
freakingman this is usually a teenager who thinks the world revolve around him or her, I hate that whatever, and feel' like smacking that smart as* along side the head. I feel for parents who get this answer from their teen daughter or son. Also some people, adults this time, think that that kind of answer makes them look oh so sophisticated, when all it does'is make them look like stupid louts.To me its a sort of verbal way of sneering at you, and it deserves a quick angry retort like why did you ask if you didnt want to know, whatever?
• United States
15 Sep 08
It depends on the way the person says it to me. In your situation I would be annoyed because you took all that time to explain just to get that response. I say it all the time but in a joking way. It depends on the context that the person in saying it in. If I'm talking to someone about something that's important to me and they give that response I get the impression that they don't really care about what I have to say. If I'm being serious I expect a thoughtful response back.
• United States
15 Sep 08
I also feel frustrated when someone says this to me, i think it is a downright rude thing to say. Does anyone know where this phrase started from? I would like to know? Anyways, sometimes when i am talking with my brother, hell say whatever, and im like, okaay. It feels like im being dimissed on the spot, and whatever i just said was ignored
@rekcart83 (149)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Yeah it really makes me mad when someone says that to me. Explaining something for that person and then you'll just get an answer like that it makes me wanna smack him/her. Lol. Really I just stop talking and get out of that persons face. I'll just pay him/her next time she talks to me again. Hehe.
@hunandi (288)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I dont like the word hate much either its is such a strong harsh word but it this case. I hate it when people say whatever!! Its like something you expect from a child not a grown up. Come one there are millions or words and all you have to say is whatever. Frustrated is just the being. You have the right point to say why did they borther to ask in the frist place. I'm sure your reply to the question ws worth much more .The worst thing about it is that I have found over and over again it tends to be important things that people say whatever too. That should put up a red flag that they need to care more about what goes on in theyre lives and around them as well.. So to your question Yes I encounter such ungrateful people too in my daily life.
14 Sep 08
Not really, but sometimes i do, when i ask something like: "So, can i have my money back?" "Whatever"... Thats pretty anoying :P
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Honestly speaking,I really dont feel irritated or frustrated when someone says WHATEVER.. because here in the Philippines there's a comedy show here,one of their segment is "WHATEVER,YAYA!YOUR SUCH A LOOSER!" and the hit of that tv show to the watcher is really fun.. that's why I used to hear WHATEVER without any feeling...
• Canada
14 Sep 08
I agree with you completey !! Whatever means the person does not care enough about what you have to say and that is downright rude . It seems to be a big answer with the younger generation when you try to tell them something or explain to them something that they have wrong . If one doesn't want to know the answer then one shouldn't ask a question if they don't care to hear the answer .
@gemini_rose (16193)
14 Sep 08
Sometimes "whatever" can be the most irritating word ever. I think it depends on the tone in which it is used, if it is like the situation you described then I would be irritated too. If it is when deciding something and the person says "whatever" as in what you want to do then it is not so bad.
@fordham08 (131)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Yes, I encounter a lot of people like that. Like what you said, if you don't care, why ask about it? But some people, just use "whatever" as a regular expression just like "Oh my God!" or "What in the world!" but we should be really careful in the words we use, because sometimes you just think of them as a common phrase but for others they can really hurt--a lot!
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Your friend really was ungrateful especially because you took the time to explain a math problem to him. I don't like teaching because I don't have the patience, but I think math is one of the most difficult subjects to teach. Anyway, some people say whatever just to fill the silence. It might not really be out of spite or because he's not grateful. In your case, it's really clear that he just doesn't care, but in other cases it may be otherwise. SO I just walk away and leave the person who answers me with "whatever." Whatever, all right!
@Sir_bobby88 (8243)
• Singapore
14 Sep 08
I won't feel that way , since they don't give a damn why should we bother him/her yea . Just ignore it and continue with our life and work yea . happy myloting yea .
@sid556 (31000)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Yes it is a very rude response and never fails to make me feel that the person just doesn't give a darn about what you just said. I here it mostly from young people but it burns me even more when an older person says it. There is no doubt that it is rude.
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
14 Sep 08
as far as i am concerned,"whatever" is not a proper word. if you say this word when asked for an opinion,people consider you as either easy-going or softheaded;and most people get irritated when hearing this word.as in your case, i think your friend mzy be confused by the maths problem, he may not be clear how the problem works out.i bet you would be happier if he adds" thank you ,anyway" does that make sense?haha~~~~~~~~~~
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I don't think all people who use the word 'whatever' are ungrateful. I have one grandson who uses it lots. We will be talking and if he doesn't understand what you mean, and gets tired of talking about it, he'll say 'whatever'. I just laugh at him. When my husband and I are talking at times,I'll look at him and say,"whatever" and then say "like (name of ) grandson.He just laughs!
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
I really do get irritated when someonesays something like that specially in a sarcastic and snobish type of way,they are just pointing out that they dont need my opinion or I dint count as a person who should talk to or person he or she dont want to be friends with.Hope you liked my response and have a nice day.
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
In most cases, I get irritated when someone say "whatever" to me. In your case, I would be doubly irritated. He asks for help and then gives you a whatever. I've actually had that happen to me. My friend was asking for my advice with a girl and then when I gave him my advice, he just shrugs and say "whatever dude." It's even worse when the person you are talking to gets pissed and then gives you a "whatever" response.