do you ever yell at your kids then feel guilty?

Maybe you need a break between work and children? Children are badly affected by loud voices and it can be viewed as a form of child abuse so beware! If you shout too much then they will become immune to it. I have only shouted at my son (aged 13) 3 times in his life - twice when he was about to run too far down the path towards a busy road and the third time when I came into the dining room and saw him standing on a chair and I thought he woulkld fall. Immediately he jumped onto the floor and curled up and sobbed his hear out. It taught me a valuable lesson of the effect that shouting has on kids. I remember my parents used to shout towards the end far too much and I would shrink away from the noise. It had a powerful effect on me as a child and I hate raised voices even now. All forms of discipline need to be proportional and relevant. If the child understands where the limits are and what they have done to earn your disapproval then maybe they will elanr from this. If the rules are consistent and logical then they will know where they stand. The problem you may have is that you may only tell them off when you are tired and hence one day the rule will be enforced and not the next. This adds to children's confusion and you may find they are naughtier more foten in an attempt to discover where the limits are. Try and get some relief from the stress and try and take a deep breath before reacting, your children will be grateful for it in the long run and you may find that they are better behaved as a result.

I do sometimes catch myself yelling at them its not often but it happens sometimes. I do feel guilty for it and do apologize to them for it and tell them i love them and that im sorry.

Yes, this has happened to me quite a few times. I don't yell at them without a reason although I feel if I had been cool and calm, I might have dealt with them differently. But, I am not able to yell too much these days because my throat doesn't allow me to . Then my voice will force me to calm down so that they actually understand what I am upset about. But I don't feel guilty for yelling as much as when I have punished them without enquiring about a whole episode. Sometimes, my daughter does some mischief and when I ask her, she doesn't give me the whole picture.. she just says 'because I want to' and has no further explanation. At those times, I give her a time out and later, she gives me a reasonable explanation. That's when I feel guilty.

my child is only two years old and he is our only child. my wife had a lot of miscarriages before we hit the jackpot and she decided not to get pregnant any more. she is more of the disiplinarian than i am. she said i spoil our child. because when i raise my voice ifeel guilty and give my son a hug thats the reason why sometimes i am angry already and my son does not listen to me. not like my wife she has tough love so when she is angry my child listens and behaves.

Yes I have. But what is most important is that I later apologized. That is the best example that we can give our kids.

Yes it has happened and then I felt so bad about it after the fact.

I have felt guilty at times when I yell at my kids and I know I am really yelling because I have had a stressful day rather than because they were bad.