when you were in school, were you tagged as being one of the dumb or smart kids

United States
September 14, 2008 10:01pm CST
I was thinking about that the other day as I have kids in school and they are doing well in their studies and my daughter says everyone calls her the smart girl. Then I think back to when I was in school and I struggled with being called "dumb". Our class was split into the dumb kids and the smart kids and possibly coincidently the smart kids were the rich kids and the dumb ones were middle class or lower. I wasn't quite smart enough for the smart kids, but I was way smarter than the dumb kids I was grouped with. Yet, there were no in-between groups which I hope has changed. So here I was learning below my level but it was such a blow to the ego and made it harder as I progressed to other grades. Did you experience this when you were in grade or middle school and do you think it affected how you turned out in life?
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32 responses
• United States
15 Sep 08
I was deemed as creative, and I had potential, but I was not as intelligent as I could be. I was not "dumb", I was just not working to my potential. I know that I am smart, and people tell me that I am, but I do not see it. Some people have told me that I am creative and that that is a form of intelligence, but others have told be that I am not that smart at all. As I grew older, I became conflicted with who I was because people would tell who I was and who I was not. It got to the point where I rebelled against everyone, and now people wonder to this what kind of person I am? I am not smart, but I am not stupid.
@magojordan (3257)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I was part of the smart kids but of course it has disadvantages too because everyone wants to copy their homework from you. Well it has affected me more ways than one. Being considered as one of the smarts I was really conditioned to be more responsible by studying more to maintain my grades. By doing this I was able to get to a good University and graduate from it.
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@kellys3ps (3732)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I was always one of the smart kids!
@donburi (316)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I guess i should say I was in the smart ones. Although I don't really care about it. This is because I think this is how we are there will always be good or bad, right or wrong, smart or dumb. Nonetheless this experience will help us in our life. From my experience also this viewpoint of others on you will be changed as you change yourself. By constantly trying to improve yourself you'll observe that others around change as well and the smart ones will become the helpers and the dumb ones will become the helped. =)
@donburi (316)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Sorry for the double post. My computer is acting up and I thought I wasn't able to post the first one so I posted again. Sorry
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I'm happy to say I wasn't a "dumb" kid in school. I have always been with the smarter ones in school but I think they thought me more eclectic than smart, really.
@jfilips (261)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I really hate the way school kids label each other and create "groups" sometimes pushing people away just for being "different", it just annoys me but I know it's the way kids grow, and also the way they mature and realize that what they do/did was bad. Anyways, as for me, back in school, definitely the smart kid, not the popular but not the nerd either xD. No offense to anyone but I was a smart kid (my school wasn't that difficult back in the day), not a stright A student, but better than a lot of people in my classroom. And so I was very friendly with people so they treated me like that also =). Although sadly there was also a bit of that smart kids and popular kids groups at my school, but not in my classroom. I loved the people in my classroom, they were all nice people. I always thought I was lucky for ending up with people like them xD.
@lingli_78 (12859)
• Australia
15 Sep 08
i think i am being tagged as a smart kid as i am being grouped with the smart kid in the smart kid class... but i don't think that i am that smart as i am really struggling when i am in that class to catch up with the subjects and i also don't like the competition athmosphere there... and i don't think it is right to group people like that as it can really blow people's ego as you say...take care and have a nice day...
• United States
15 Sep 08
I don't consider myself smart but I used to be lumped with them because I was Indian, so I got stuck hanging out with the Asian kids, if you will. It was kinda awkward because I also wanted to meet the other people but the fact that I was lumped in with certain people made that very difficult. It worked out okay in the end, though, nothing too bad.
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
just in the middle....
@tushark1 (117)
• India
15 Sep 08
When one of my friends son was talking with me about school days and some funny things about them, i just went to my back life and was thinking about my school days. I was never a smart or so dashing that time but as year past some good changes reflects in me to face this world.
@walid1 (9)
• United States
15 Sep 08
lol, i was always the smart student, but as i got older and entered college!!! i am now the dumb kid lol
@maclanis (1420)
• Belgium
15 Sep 08
I am still in school and I think I'm considered a smart one (and I am not rich). It has always been like this, but it's not like the others are labeled as dumb pupils or anything...
@acegirl (127)
• China
15 Sep 08
well, that's a good question. I am seeking knowledge now, and I am tagged as a genius at school. But i don't care...who cares? I don't think those students who are tagged as a foolish donkey show their sadness about it. They still live happily. But I am forced to take a lot of pressure, I'm afraid of failure, because I am a so-called genius..that's absurd.
@mymelodake (1339)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
when i was in kindergarten i was regarded as the "smart kid" in my class but in elementary and all through out high school i was the smart but lazy kid. my grades are probably average. they were good grades, but they were never high enough to get me into the honor roll. with aptitude tests though i generally do better than everyone else in my class. in college, it was a different story. i was considered the smart kid and i studied just enough to get myself on the list, but i guess for the wrong reason. i liked seeing my name on the dean's list, and i think that was my first and foremost motivation. learning only came second. i think the worst type of classification i experienced was in high school chinese class where our teacher would give this really hard test and then the seating arrangement would be based on how well we scored on the test. the kid who got the highest grade gets to sit front and center, and those who get the lowest grades were made to sit in the back. those who get to sit in the front row also got prizes like mini m n m's or kitkat bars. i remember studying hard for those tests just so i could get in the front row. i never really enjoyed school and as with most of the things i do, i only excel at something when i really enjoy it.
@austere (2819)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
not to brag but i was one of the smart kids!hehehe i was the president of the student body organization. and an orator too. so i was a smart and popular highschool student then.hehehe i was always seen infront of the stage delivering oratorical pieces or i tell the students about the new rules and regulations during flag ceremonies. those were the days.
@rakittera (803)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I was tagged as one of the smart kids. Since I was in grade school, I was a consistent honor student and I always belonged to the top section. It's pretty amazing how the "dumb" kids would look up to the smart kids when in reality, they should be of the same level since they are studying in the same school. It just so happened that there are those who do well and those who don't do well in school. While it was nice to be on top of the class, it's true what they say, it's usually lonely at the top. Most of the time I see kids my age enjoying, playing without a care and not thinking about what their grades would be in the next grading period. I would like to think that "dumb" kids are luckier because they do not have the pressure that the smart kids have.
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I was tagged as one of the smart kids in grade school, even won a Math and Science contest. But when I got to high school, I got tired of all that pressure to perform and compete with my peers, so I became one of the average Joes, so to speak. One thing I've always taken pride in, however, is my English proficiency. I could mess up in Science, I'll definitely mess up in Math, but nothing will make me stray from English, which is probably why I've been working as a writer for close to ten years now.
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I don't remember being tagged as either "smart kid" or "dumb kid." But i remember both groups fought for my 'friendship' way back grade school days because i was a 'funny girl' according to them. I went out with the 'smarties,' and true that they were all kids from rich families. But i also kept friendship with the other group because i found them more interesting and fun (i liked to play tag, soccer, and get dirty more than exchanging stationeries, writing on autograph booklets, collecting dolls and stamps.) I was also into the honor's roll, but it wasn't that fun for me. Then high school came, all my friends were the smart kids but i tend to always have the attention of the other 'group' as well because as the same, they found me funny. Until now i am trying to figure out what made me funny then. Anyhow, i was tagged as one of the 'smarties' but wonders of all wonders, i ranked 42 out of 72 graduates. My life turned out pretty fine. I realized that the real "smart kids" are now having great careers and happy families. The real "dumb kids" are now either in jail, or constantly changing/applying for jobs, and are plain unhappy with their lives. When a child is tagged smart or dumb, they should be aware that this thing won't matter later on in life. They should learn how to be happy, and secure of themselves, have high self esteems, and then they will see later on that the only difference between smarts and dumbs is not grades or nor money. The difference lies in whether they are truly happy or not, without having to pretend.
@MissGia (955)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I was often labled as dumb in school because i was one of the "stoners". I love how people assume all people who smoke pot are dumb. I'm a bright and intelligent girl, and people labeling me as such never changed my mind on that. I hate labeling people because of what they do in their personal life. It's a real good way to pass up good friend, because you choose to judge instead of learn more about them.
• United States
15 Sep 08
I never got picked on I wasnt picked on because I was average Although I was smarter than other Thats is why i never got picked on everyone licked me