regression (child)

United States
November 6, 2006 1:42am CST
I have a 3 year old that is going through a lot. Me and my boyfriend just got cousdy of him 5 months ago. We had a lot of work to do to make him be a little boy again. One of the many things we had to do was potty train him. Well all was going good untill the judge made his real mom and step dad visit him. He was going to the potty all by himself just pee butit was a good start. Now he screams if we ask him if he needs to go and I had to puit him back in pull ups. If any of you out there have been through this or something like it Help.
2 responses
• United States
15 Nov 06
Poor guy. I hope his mom and step dad aren't abusing him. He sounds really messed up (which can happen even if there is no physical abuse). I hope you guys get it all straightened out. I wouldn't push him too hard because it sounds like he has been through a lot. Just show him lots of love. I have a feeling he will regress like that every time he has contact with his mom. It is probably all very confusing and scary to him. Good luck. Oh and if it is any consolation my 4 year old was just potty trained this past summer. She was 3 years and 8 months old when she finally started using the potty every day and I no longer had to put her in pull-ups during the day (she still wears them at night). She just turned 4 last week. So every kid is different.
• United States
16 Nov 06
As far as we know there was no physical stuff going on. He is doing soo much better now We are staying dry all day (with reminders often). I haven't pushed him with anything really. Just took it slow and easy. When he came to live with us he got a real BIG family that loves him sooo much and that supports him in every way. I had many kids ranging from 2 to 17 at his 3rd b-day party (this was are 1st one with him). My physical youngest son didn't potty train till he was 3 and my oldest did it at 1 1/2 so I am well virsed in how they all are different. Thanks for the support I reallyed needed it. That is him in my arms.
• United States
16 Nov 06
Dakota's party - most of the kids at the party
here is a pic of the party guest
• United States
16 Nov 06
I'm glad he is doing better. I bet it was all just the stress of everything going on. You know how some kids just don't handle change well. I hate the whole potty training phase. It is so annoying. I had to do it 3 years in a row and it got so old. I couldn't wait for my middle daughter to be out of diapers and expected it to happen before the baby was born last April but she wasn't and it threw me. I never thought I would have a 3 1/2 year old in diapers for most of the day still. My sister in law was the one that finally convinced her to use the potty. Good luck with getting him all situated and adjusted. Sounds like he has a loving family looking out for him and he should do great.
• United States
15 Nov 06
Wow, you have a tough battle. Pull ups are great. I wish I had them when my kids were little. Is he seeing a counselor? Maybe you should consider this. It may be helpful.
• United States
15 Nov 06
Pull are great but he looked at them as dipers. We are now going potty again. We talked about putting him in counsing. But he came out of it on his own. Well we had help from the grandparents.