Is it true all ladies become unreasonable when they get pregnant?

@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
September 15, 2008 8:41am CST
I wonder how true is this statement but my colleague told me so. His wife is pregnant now and he is having hard time with his wife sometimes. His wife always crave for unusual food in the middle of the night which are sometimes impossible to get in midnight. He feels stressed when his wife is craving for all sorts of unreasonable stuffs. What do you think? Do you think all ladies are like this? Is there any exception? I am quite afraid if I will cause many problems to my husband when the time I get pregnant. Please share your opinions.
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@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I suppose it depends on what you consider unreasonable? I know when I was pregnant with my son I craved tacos - mexican food. I ate lunch at the same restaurant almost every day. But I never sent my husband out to try and find whatever I was craving at the moment. Just because we crave something doesn't mean we have to have it immediately. I think the biggest thing for me wasn't the cravings, but was the hormonal emotional changes. I could cry and or laugh at nothing. My mood swings were crazy. I'd be happy, then sad, then happy in the space of seconds. LOL But, its a small price to pay for having that little one to love.
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
15 Sep 08
it is true to some women. different women will behave differently during this special period. some women demand for unreasonable things but i don't think it's their fault because the changes within themmake them do so. husbands should give them special care so that they can be in good mood.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
I don't think it's about being unreasonable. I think it's because of the fluctuation of the hormones in the woman's body that she tends to be overly sensitive at times and also go with the cravings. But I don't think it causes much problems. I think men should understand that carrying a baby inside your womb is something that is really a magical thing to happen. Not only that, they should know that it's not easy to carry your weight plus the weight of the baby. Insecurity levels go up, so the man must be twice as understanding and supportive. I have a lot of friends who have gotten pregnant. And their husbands would complain to us jokingly. But I haven't seen a couple separate or having a huge fight because of these things. Don't worry about being unreasonable to your husband. It's a natural process, and if your husbands loves you, he'd understand that sometimes, you wouldn't be as perfect as he thought you were. Just be happy and don't worry too much.
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• United States
15 Sep 08
Do women become unreasonable while pregnant? Sometimes, depending on how you look at it. Some women become very emotional, or very ill, and it can cause problems and moodiness. Most women do not get cravings to the extreme your colleague's wife is getting them, but there ARE cravings, and they can be pretty powerful. The important thing to remember when a person is pregnant is that her body is changing constantly, and the baby takes a lot of energy, even though it may not seem like it. Being pregnant can be very stressful, and extremely tiring, so I would say the way most women react while pregnant is NOT unreasonable when you take into consideration everything they are going through. Husbands should just make sure they know as much about what's going on with their wives during a pregnancy as possible, so as not to be caught off guard by changes in the wife's mood, energy level, etc - and then the husband might not think of his pregnant wife as "unreasonable" - he'll just know it's all a result of the beautiful life they created together, and he'll understand a bit better.
@rainmark (4302)
15 Sep 08
It's normal to pregnant woman because of hormonal changes. But not all, some women are very unreasonable and very moody when they are pregnant specially on 1st to second trimester of their pregnancy but after that it backs to normal. When i was pregnant my husband wasn't around for a long time coz he is on abroad. So he was so lucky not always fighting my moods and craving those foods. I was craving the doughnuts, chocolates, ice cream and stingy fruits and those are prohibited foods for me.I ahte it, because my husband is very strick and really don't allow me to eat those foods. So when he was flew back to Uk i was celebrated coz i can eat whatever i want, the result is Ceasarian section coz my baby is so big and i don't have much exercise when i was pregnant. Happy myloting.
• United States
15 Sep 08
Is any blanket statement true? The simplest answer is "no." However a pregnancy - as far as I have heard... I'm not a woman so I can't say for sure - affects females in many ways and a lot of them may alter their behavior. It could stem from hormonal changes or just changes in self-perception thanks to the protruding belly. I think though that there are bound to be exceptions, maybe a lot of them. I don't know the true nature of this except that it is sensationalized. That is, people who have strange cravings are known, while people that don't tend to go unheard, you know? So maybe ask around a bit more. Still, I don't think it's entirely unreasonable to have those cravings - it's understandable, and your husband should be understanding.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
16 Sep 08
i never been pregnant before... so i don't really know the answer to this question... but i think it is normal for pregnant women to have cravings and mood change as the hormone in your body change as well... my sis-in-law had cravings when she was pregnant with her first baby and my brother had to entertain her as well... we can't really avoid it i guess... but every women had different cravings and we wouldn't know it until we experience it ourselves... so there is really no general answer to this question... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
16 Sep 08
Some women can be very unreasonable when they are pregnant, but not all women. A lot of women can be very reasonable when they are pregnant. Yes, women are moody at times, they eat a lot, and they feel more stress when they are pregnant. Some women feel like they must really be treated like queens when they are pregnant and I think that that is ridiculous, unless you are in a high risk pregnancy, then that is a different story. I know plenty of women who were very rational when they were pregnant. Now, in the beginning, and at the tail end of the pregnancy, yes women are going to feel emotionally overwhelmed and physically ill at times. Being pregnant is not easy, but it is bearable, and it can be pretty enjoyable for a lot of women.
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
16 Sep 08
is not that they're unreasonable, is the hormon increase that make them look like unreasonable, you have to be atient with them and understand the situation.. Nun
@Ina926 (172)
• United States
19 Sep 08
When I was pregnant with my now 6 month old daughter, I had my share of cravings after all the nausea was gone. My husband never complained though, he totally understood, I guess because he had more cravings than I did. LOL :) I'm not sure why but, sometimes men get the cravings and the nausea so don't worry, maybe your husband will be the one with the cravings at all hours of the night.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Well, I guess it is. Most women craves for something very unusual when they got pregnant. It might not seems logical in a man's part cause he doesn't experience bearing a child. I guess, its a normal reaction in women, maybe an aftermath of her bearing. They asked for a ripe mango and let their man climb up the papaya tree.
• India
16 Sep 08
Yes, it is true. When we are pregnant our apetite increases as the baby consumes all the food we take. So it is necessary for us to eat a lot and nothing wrong in eating at midnights too. Craving for unreasonable stuff is also quite natural during pregnancy . But there are exceptions and not all ladies do so. I used to take milk at midnight when I was pregnant though I used to have cravings for a coffee. But I controlled myself from having coffee throughout pregnancy as I felt the caffeine might harm my baby.Don't worry about causing problems to your hubby. He has to adjust for you have taken the great job of carrying his baby.
@Miziou (35)
• Poland
16 Sep 08
My wife had one craving - for ice cream and that was it. I don't remember, but I think 2 or 3 times we got into awful fight because of (...........) fill in the gap with some completely not important issue. But most of the time she was sweet and sensible, as she always is. Ah, and terribly tired - all the time :)
@Hope32 (119)
• United States
15 Sep 08
You do have cravings, but everyone is diffrent. When I was pregnant I had may one or two cravings late at night,thank God Wendy's was open.lol
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
16 Sep 08
My DIL turned into a witch when she was pregnant. She lived with me, it was so hard dealing with her moods. When I was pregnant I had a few cravings, nothing unusual.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
When a a girl, lady, or a wife gets pregnant, her behaviors are just part of being pregnant. Those are one of the psychological symptoms experienced in every pregnant woman and there's nothing to worry about it. Blame it on the hormones that envelop the life of a pregnant woman. :)
@yuna15 (2706)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
That is absolutely untrue in my case. When I was pregnant I wasn't the type who asks for something in the middle of the night for something that I want. Nothing really changed in my case when I was pregnant my belly just ballooned that's it. I just got a couple of headaches during that time. Well I guess I was just lucky that I didn't feel a lot of things. But it's actually true for a lot of pregnant women especially on the first trimester of pregnancy. The baby will even make you eat something that you don't really eat at all. She/he will also make you NOT eat something that you eat before. The growing baby if I'm not mistaken alters the sense of smell and taste of pregnant women. By the way, don't be afraid about what will happen most husbands should be ready to understand what women are going through. Just the way they understand you when you have your monthly period. God Bless you and I hope you get to have your own baby in the future.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Good day... It has a medical explanation and it's called pica. Pregnancy causes lots of changes specially hormonal coupled with behavioral. I guess as husband we just need to understand them and remind ourselves that pregnancy is not an easy thing for our wife.
• China
16 Sep 08
hello,this is long i do not think so .last year.my sisiter get pregant.but i can not see some different.but she eat too much.
@vivapinay (231)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Not all true. When I am pregnant, I just like to eat but not the the extent that I will feel bad if I cannot eat what I want. My sister in law craved for green mango. She has to forced her husband to throw stone at the mango. Her husband would sometimes get it with a stick but she does not eat it. She prefered a mango smashed by a stone. :) Funny but true!