Do you and your partnet argue a lot?

@pehpot (4762)
Philippines
September 15, 2008 9:01am CST
My husband and I always engage in arguments, or debate in a more politically correct term. He loves to argue with me, on things, on life and even on simple decision. Like a while ago while we were eating we were discussing about dinosaurs. Our simple meal turns into heated argument, but of course we never get mad at each other. just simple mind stimulation debate, and as always I am on the losing end, he is very good on debates Sometimes even things like left and right we argue, sometimes I am on the left and he is on the right, or sometimes he is on the other side and me on the other, always like that, we argue and we enjoy it. It is our bonding moments, that usually ended in sweet moments (that is when I lose and I pretend to get mad at him and he would cuddle me) [i] How about you guys? DO you engage yourself in a debate with your partners?[/i]
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
15 Sep 08
We argue all of the time.. You can't be with someone for 40 years and not argue.. We are sometimes as different in our thoughts as night and day, but we never try to hurt one another.. We do have some good arguments or debates, as you so nicely called them, but they are good ones no matter what.. We never really get mad and never say hurtful things that can't be taken back, but we do argue.. Life gets so stressful sometimes that you can't help but disagree with each other..
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@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Wow, 40 years!! Congratulations! Not all couples reach that number of years,moreso in countries were divorce is allowed. I salute you and I hope my husband and i reach that number of years and more.
• United States
15 Sep 08
Thanks for the comments and I snet you a friends request.. I love the picture of your little princess Gia, she is adorable and I can imagine spoiled, she would be if she were mine..
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
40 years! oh wow! My hubby and I is now our 8th year of being together. yes arguments and healthy debates keeps us together and closer too
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Making up with my wife was the best part of a heated argument and well worth the effort it took to start it. :-)
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
o yeah! I bet you you always start the argument
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Sure I would start it. Most often that was the only way to cure here headache or a number of other excuses she could come up with. My wife would have told you she won every argument we ever had but there was a few it looked to me like I won.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
wife would always say that! I know my hubby has some points when we argue but I like to believe I win!
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 08
Yea, I often have these kinds of 'debates' with my hubby. Sometimes it can get rather heated - we are both rather obstinate in our opinions, and I can stand very firmly by my views. However, it pleases him that he has a 'sparring' partner, because we debate about a wide range of topics from politics, economics, business...to education. It's rather fun - we don't get angry with each other too - it's just airing our opinions and thoughts!
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
isn't that nice when you have partner like that
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@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I always believed the more a husband and wife could talk even if it was arguing the more likely they were to build their marriage into something worth having. It's when the talk stops that your are on shaky ground in a marriage. Each one must be willing to bend a little to have a marriage that is worth the effort. Some times it is hard to merge two different lives into one and that is the first step to building a good marriage. Never close the lines of communication. If you do you are killing all possibilities of coming to an agreement.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
My wife and I could not be more opposite in many ways and there are a number of topics where we will surely diverge if discussed. But we do have some common ground which keeps us comfortable and not continually fighting. This has allowed us a modicum of peace in our house.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Hubby and I are also opposite, I act on feelings while he is a very objective person, but our discussions never turned into fights.
@rkrish (3003)
• India
15 Sep 08
yeah before marriage i do with my girl friends but after marriage i never with wife..as the liner says...in marriage life always one person is right and other is the husband..so why unncessarily getting into problems...but we argue i never won so i leave it and now a days i am not bringing anything so no issues
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
when we argue he always won but when I pretend I am mad at him, he softens
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
its depends in your guys perspective of views. me my self also sometimes having some misunderstanding point of views. its normal in our life. but the arguments should be in healthy ways MEANS do argue until one of you get bored and fed up and than undergoing divorce process. DONT. Just my 5 cents of view
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
we argue for fun
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
its ok then if u arguing just for fun. make your life even more healthier and enjoying your self. do u have any kid/s?
@nlcapricorn (1115)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Hmmm We do argue but not as always. Sometimes it will lead to big misunderstanding? Sometimes we will just sleep without talking about it. He will try to talk to me but its me who will not. He will just stop and sleep and in the morning were fine lol..Most of the time we argue is just a very simple thing and its always me who had a problem. haha..well i am just measuring his patience anyway.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Oh you love teasing him?
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Yes a lot. I like it much because he will hug me and then kiss me just like that..Or he will always say that dont look at me like that your face will be ugly..and then sometimes i will laugh..haha..his really fun
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
16 Sep 08
would if i had one.lol y'all have debating & whatever else it brings up.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
16 Sep 08
left out the word fun. sorry about that.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
it is fun all the way!
@kleynie (129)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
oh yes!! it's a matter for a relationship, sometimes it it the one that makes the relationship stronger..me and my partner used to argue a lot too, things like you didn't inform me about that story, you should have said it earlier story, you should not be there story, and many other things that spun at the moment..and yes, because of these things we manage to stay together and right now we are on our fifth year, fifth year of arguing but still loving..wahehe!!
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
oh yes they do make the relationship stronger! thanks for dropping by!
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
What do you mean by argue? healthy debate or fight? well whatever, because we do both most of the times (just kidding!) I am not good in healthy debate because when I am on the losing end i tend to get mad at him and also my hubby is the quiet type. if you mean to say fight, well I think when we fight I just talk and he just listen then it would come out on his other ear, he never minds me, but it is OK sometimes because when he do minds me I think we will fight more, but sometimes I get more mad at him when he don't listen to me, but when it time that he is the one who is angry, oh I guess that is the time that I have to use my best weapon.. CRY LOL!
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
18 Sep 08
Pehpot fighting is good if its within control. A little bit of fighting helps to grow the relationship. We argue, fight, we reason and at the end of the day we love. That's the beauty of it. But never go to bed reserving the fight and never carry it over night. Tomorrow is a new day, always. Happy living.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Yes I believe in that one too.
16 Sep 08
will tell u as soon as i get married
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
when?
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
Last time I used to argue with my boyfriend but now I am lazy to argue with him. I think it's no point to have arguments in relationship. It's always good to find peace in a relationship. That's what my boyfriend taught me actually. Last time I was the one who found things to argue about. It was always ended up with bad mood and got angry with each other. Of course it would affect our relationship badly. I think it's always the best to discuss rather to argue between couples.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Oh no what I mean is healthy discussions, but anyway thanks for dropping by!
@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
My husband and I used to argue every now and then in our very early couritng days. We courted for 6 years before we got married. As the years went by and our relationship progress and we began to understnad each other more, we argued less. And now that we are married, we hardly argue. We discuss over stuff and come to a conclusion. we have discovered that arguing won't get us anywhere especially in the area of who is right and wrong in a situation. My husband always says the problem is the problem and we have to settle the problem , no pointing of fingers at each other as you are the one I am the one.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Oh no I didn't mean that kind of argument
@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
yes, a lot! hahaha from petty things up to the point where i won't talk to him or text him in a day. Sometimes it would last for a day or two. I know it is not right to let your arguments last for a day or to even sleep without patching things up.But sometimes you just need to let it go with the flow, let your temper lower down then you can talk to your partner after that. Happy mylotting!
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
that kind of argument, me and hubby never let the day pass on without settling it, and usually he is the one who patch things up first
• China
16 Sep 08
I seldom argue with my girlfriend,I always comply with her ideas.I love my girlfriend, I think that she staying with me is my biggest enjoyment,divergence is not important,but of course,you and your husband's arguement just like a game,that is more interesting to life.Different people have different ideas to life,we have a different choice at this point.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
yes i guess we have different views on it. Cheers!
@rinaisyu (45)
• China
16 Sep 08
Sometimes,My wife and I do the same thing,maybe life just be so!hehe
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
It adds up on the relationship, talk about some spices!
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
16 Sep 08
I do get into alot of arguements with my partners in the past, and with most of them dun ending up well.. hehe ^_^ I guess, both of us just dun like to lose, and there are times whereby i give in to her, and let her win the debate.. But there are times whereby i'm speaking from experience and real knowledge, which is totally different from what she thought, and this resulted in a heated argument because she lost badly.. haha U are very lucky to have a husband like that, and u being his wife, is also being very understanding ^_^ It's just so sweet to know the cuddling part ^_^ hehe
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
My hubby is like that even on heated arguments, even if I am at fault, he is still the one who says sorry and the first one to cuddle. He is afraid of losing me
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@salonga (27986)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Yes, we do a lot of discussions that sometime it would turn into debate. Sometimes my son would notice we are nearing to get heated up so my son would say... Oppps, time out! Then we would all laugh.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
It's nice to have a referee,but now my kids are picking up our debate/discussion attitude, and now my first born would always debate me on things, it is taken its toll on me!
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
yeah!!very much, even on single things we have different insights towards it and sometime we end up quarreling,lol. And i think we are really poles apart, only one thing where we agreewatching the new detective in discovery channel.lol
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
oh at least you have one thing in common