What do you think about your childs daycare?

United States
September 15, 2008 9:59am CST
My Boyfriends daughter is in daycare right now. I picked this daycare out because it had a 5 star rating and when I had a tour of it I was so pleased at what I saw. Now looking back on it I think it was all a front. When I went for the first tour (which was over a year ago) The classes were small and in the preschool age class they were working with each child one on one and they were doing activities. Everyone seemed to be so nice and got along. Well now it has been a year later and I see no improvement in my soon to be step daughter. When I go to pick her up she is always dirty, They don't do activities like they did when she first started. They spend most of their day outside on the playground. I don't have a problem with that but, they are accepting way to many children and not enough people to watch them. Everyday my daughter comes home with a bad note or a note saying that she has been hurt. They always have her in time out and never a reason why. And when I ask her if she has been bad she will say no, but that someone else has hit her or something to that nature. I'm so confused on what I should do. I want to switch daycare, but there are waiting list every where I go. most of them are until next may or until someone leaves. She will be starting head start next year so should I just leave her in until then? What would anyone do in my situation?
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I think that the only way you really know what goes on in a daycare is to make a visit in the middle of the morning and then again in the middle of the afternoon. I run a home daycare and I never interview people in the evening. I want them to see exactly what is going on here. I also have an open door policy , so the parents can stop by any time during the day. I ask my parents not to knock, but to just walk it ~ this way they will feel comfortable knowning their children are safe all the time. It sounds like you are in a public daycare. I would suggest that you look for a home daycare. I think that the children get much better one on one attention when in a private daycare.
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• United States
15 Sep 08
It seems to be that at home daycare services here is hard to come by. I've called several and they all say they are filled to capacity. I have tried the show up visits and I must come on a good day or the bell on the door is an alert to let everyone a parent is there and to shape up.. lol Thanks for the advice though. When I send my youngest to daycare I do want it to be in someones home where she can get that one on one attention.
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• United States
16 Sep 08
I honestly dont know about daycares just because my kids dont go to a daycare because im pretty picky about whos watching over my kids when im not around. I tried a daycare once and after what i seen i wasnt impressed at all by no means what so ever.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Sep 08
sweetbkky sounds like a very poor daycare, try to find a relative of yours or you husbands who is reliable and at home and is willing to baby sit for a reasonable wage for the hours you need.this will be a stopgap until she will be in headstart. sounds like they have too many kids to look after them properly to me.
• United States
16 Sep 08
Thats what we are looking for now. I had an Aunt that was going to do it,but she recently found out she had a brain anyerism and is going to have it operated on. So hopefully she will have a full recovery and will be able to watch her. At the same time I want her to be around other kids because I feel that is a big part of getting her ready for headstart. I don't want her to be too sheltered.
@loved1 (5337)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I think you should trust your instincts, but also make sure you are thinking things through. I also run a home daycare and know that there are always 2 sides to the story. I have a statement in my contract that says parents are not to be surprised if their child is dirty at the end of the day. We play and getting dirty is often what happens. Of course I wash their faces and hands, but I don't get upset if they get dirt on their pants from playing outside. Centers have to follow child to adult ratios just like home daycares so make sure they are in compliance. What kinds of improvements were you expecting to see in your child's behavior? Did the center promise to correct certain behaviors? Are you positive they are not doing any activities? Many times at this age there is no end product of an activity. My kids do playdough, shaving cream, etc and have no "project" at the end of the day to show for it, but we DO activities. Also, many times when a young child paints they are not satisfied with their picture until they have painted the paper to shreads. lol For a young child, it is about the "doing" not about the project they end up with. I am not saying I don't believe you, just giving you some things to think about. If you contact your local childcare resource and referral agency they should be able to give you a list of registered home daycares in your area that have openings. Oh, and as far as the star ratings go, don't put too much stock in that. Amongst the many home daycare providers I know that system is a bit of a joke. You are better off checking their references and listening to what the other daycare parents have to say.
• United States
15 Sep 08
I see what you are saying. The outcome I was looking for is they stated in their contract that they will get the preschool age children 3-4 ready for Head start or Kindergarten. At her old day care that closed (because of state funding) they did reading started to teach them how to count and read, just the basics that should prepare them to move up in the class. I have had much experience with the two sides to every story..lol.. I get a different one from all the parents I talk to. I will have to research the at home day cares. Thanks so much for you response.
@kezabelle (2985)
15 Sep 08
Personally I would just turn up one afternoon no warning nothing, and demand to look round if they refuse ask why. and go from there really, warning them of your intended visit will do no good they can easily get cover in to make everything look good. Surpriseing them will be the best thing and then make your choices from what you find. If you think its that bad report them aswell, and waiting list or not id remove my child if I thought they were being treated unfairly!
• United States
15 Sep 08
Go with your gut and get her on some lists just incase. It scares me when daycares fit to many kids in. There are limits for a reason and saftey should be their main concern. Have you tried to talk to them? maybe if you let them know you are watching they will atleast treat her better if not everyone.