What would you do?
September 15, 2008 12:52pm CST
This woman has been my best friend for over 20 years now. There is nothing I could ask that she would not do for me and is always there for me when I need her. I have one problem with her. She is an alcoholic. She is Bi-Polar and is on medication but continues to self medicate with the alcohol. She also recently had open heart surgery at the tender age of 43! She calls nearly every day but I won't answer if it's after 3 PM because I know she is drunk and can't talk coherently. I have tried and tried to talk to her about it, I have even flat out told her "Do not call me if you are drinking". But she thinks I can't tell she's drunk so she calls anyway. My husband says I'm a horrible friend for not answering the phone. I don't know what else to do. Should I just bite the bullet and answer anyway or really come down on her? She is about 600 miles away so it's not like I can go over there and drag her out to AA.
15 Sep 08
I would not say that you are a horrible friend at all, I mean if you do not want to talk to her when she is drunk then that is up to you. It is hard to talk to drunk people anyway and it is always so emotional so it is probably not a good idea. I personally think that you should come down on her, being too soft with someone does not help them at all.
• United States
15 Sep 08
I have come down on her so hard she cried and then I felt like dirt. I have shamed her in front of other people to no avail. I guess I'm just going to have to keep on loving her for who she really is inside and pray hard that it doesn't take another heart attack to wake her up. Thank you, I really appreciate the input.