Do you stay single for fear that you might meet THE ONE after getting married?

Philippines
September 15, 2008 8:26pm CST
hi all, just want to ask if you avoid getting married because you are afraid you might meet THE ONE after? i am very much afraid, i confess for fear of hurting my future husband or kids in case this happends to me. and i can't even imagine how complicated my life will be if this happens to me. what about you guys?
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• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I know what you mean. It's like the song: "It is sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along..." (By England Dan and John Ford Coley) But you have to think that when you decide to get married, you already know in your heart that that person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Make sure that you chose the right person, the one you truly love... so that you will not look for another love. Be contented of what you have and accept him with all your heart. If that is your frame of mind, you will not find true love because you are already telling your mind that the "right one" might come after when you are married. Then what do you call to the person you married? Is he not enough to be called the "right one"?
@nik00lai (195)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I'd say that my spouse is the right one. We've been together for like, 9 years ( 5 years as boyfriend girlfriend, and 4 years as married couple). Even now that we're married, we still date, and the courtship is still there. I guess I'm just one lucky person..
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
i totally agree hanasadako... and that saong just makes me feel very sad! you see, i've been with my boyfriend for 10 years already. we were supposed to get married before but i had this nagging feeling that "it's sad to belong"....
@nik00lai (195)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I think it should be in a way that one should make the perfect relationship rather that look for the perfect person. There is no such thing. What if one day you wake up and it's like 40 years after and you still haven't found that perfect guy. You didn't marry because you kept on waiting for him, you didn't have kids and grandkids. You missed the chance of the very essence of a being woman, to be a mother. Just a thought.. cheer up.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Yeah, true. Very well said. It's just a matter of making the relationship strong. Relationship is also about braving the storms, and holding to the principle of fidelity.
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
17 Sep 08
no dear dont wait for anything or anybody..thers no point in waiting take life positively maybe the one whom your are getting married is the one you were waiting..i think thats the bottome line the one whom a person gets married to is the partner whose made for you...dont think negative from now..take them person whose entering your life as prince or princess of your heart and hunt no more and wait no more...take care..all the best.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
16 Sep 08
it can happen. may be you are having this fear too much. but believe me it is not so common fear. may be you can take a chance if only you are reday