Can a man get career-focussed at the age of 30? Or is it too late?

India
September 16, 2008 4:26am CST
Friends.. can a man who's quite intelligent and sharp-minded but has been too unfocussed and lazy all his life, turn serious towards his career at the age of 30 and establish himself professionally? Now that he wants to settle down with his beloved girlfriend, he seems that he's turning serious towards his career and life. He seems to be making all efforts towards making a good professional backing. But can it happen? Can someone's lazy, lethargic and callous approach towards life change after 30 years of living? Can someone turn focussed and laborious at 30? Is this change permanent or temporary? Pls suggest.
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19 responses
• China
17 Sep 08
yes, it's possible. everybody has a process till he is mature, before 30years old, he is lazy and unfocussed, maybe he is not mature, he didn't know the truth of life, he didn't know how to treat hs love and job. after 30years old, he is mature. this is quite possible. in china, there is a say. 30years old man is a flower. that means 30 year-old is the man's golden age that make profession and family.
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• Sri Lanka
16 Sep 08
If he is lazy by nature, this situation would be a temporary situation due to the influnce of his GF. He will be the same person after some time. 30 is not an big age even though many things should have already done. If he has his own will to start his life and proceed he still have time. At the same time if his GF is strong enough to control him and pursuade him in continuing his effort to succeed the change could be made permanent.
• India
16 Sep 08
So, as per you the chances of things turning positive are just 50 per cent, right? And that too depending on the girl...?
• Sri Lanka
16 Sep 08
That's what I think. In fact it's highly depend on the girl and amount of influence she can do.
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
16 Sep 08
Look some people are late starters or achievers. Look at me I am 39 going on 40 and I am thinking of pursuing a career in Law. I believe that whatsoever a person wants in life no matter the age group he/she can do it. He was lazy? Maybe he just needed someone or thing to get him focussed. Yes there is hope for him - he is still young as a matter of fact much younger than I am.
• India
17 Sep 08
Your response is really excellent and quite reassuring... You got a point there. Good ya. N thanks.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Well its never too late to make amendments in someone's life. They say that life begins at 40, which I think is true. Maybe that man didn't realize it when he was in his younger self. It never too late to catch up, after all he has everything needed and fully equip with his brain, provided also that he will carry things more seriously now. Our views changes and our wisdom sharpens when we got older. Its still the right time to start a new beginning. Banzai!
• India
16 Sep 08
Your approach is quite positive and promising. Thanks for your quality response ya.
• United States
16 Sep 08
I think so. My mother didn't start her career life until 27. You really have to work at making the change and work on getting connections, education, etc. It can be done.
• India
16 Sep 08
But what about a man? Can a casual, irresponsible, unfocussed man be relied upon in matters of the heart and financial security?
• United States
17 Sep 08
I think that it's quite possible that a 30 year old man can become career focused at that age if he's serious about it. I don't think there's an age limit to that. He's still young. It's all up to him if he's determined to make his career successful. It's hard for people online to determine if this is temporary or not because we don't know him personally and even if we did we can't really predict that. It is possible that he's realized that time is going and he needs to make a change in his life. I think that the girlfriend can try to keep him on track and working by encouraging him that he can do it. Sometimes people need to know that someone believes in them to drive them to do good for themselves.
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
maybe it depends on the profession!? me, im going to graduate after 3years from now. and i am already 22 years old.. since.. the career starts when you pursued and prepare for it. age 30 is not to late. expectancy of life now is up to 60 yrs old.. hahahah i expect that because.. i felt so strange.. hihihi.. the hot climate used to affects me too much.. always making my head ache
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
i think so... nothing is too late for anything... if you want to make efforts and concentrate on it, you can definitely do it... but you have to be really serious and have lots of will and determinations to do that as it is not that easy to change bad habits... and i think it works for both men and women... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yes he can start his career anytime no matter what his age is. It is better late then never.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I don't see why not. We follow a general life pattern, but it can also be a very case-to-case basis for unique individuals. Maybe there was something life changing that he underwent which led to him having a different outlook. Anyway, 30 years old is not old at all! It's actually the perfect time to be more goal oriented. By then, guy start thinking of settling down and having a family. And in order to be a good father, he must also be a good provider. I think 60 years old is too late to be more focused, but a man in his 30s is just right on track. :)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
Of course they can. If they find a job they love and are good at I think they can. Just keep cheering them on and supporting them. However, also help them balance their work and their social life. Workaholics aren't fun.
@Luvxoni (135)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I don't see why not. Maybe he's just now finding himself, and realizing exactly what he want to accomplish out of life. If he is truly interested in making things happen and working towards his goal nothing can stop him. Just keep an eye open, because if he becomes lazy again, then I'd agree it's a lost cause. He may have been putting up a front to keep the girlfriend.
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
16 Sep 08
well what i say is to never doubt anyone no mattter what kinda situation their in , but yeah on the other hand kinda lazy of him to wake up and finally get his stuff together finally ,but ouch 30 !! really really cutting it thin right there lol
@my2boys (821)
• United States
16 Sep 08
It is never too late to do spmething positive with your life. I am currently in school and my career will probably not start until I am close to 30. I know lots of people that have even went back to school way after they reached 30.
• India
16 Sep 08
i think so age is not a factor in resolving matters personal to your life isn't it anyone may be lazy but if they change their mind and try to be a hard working person then you must encourage him/her to persuade in life to be a better person .
@gemini_rose (16194)
16 Sep 08
Well I am hoping so, I am a woman of 35 and I am hoping that I can turn my life around and establish myself professionally and have a career. I am not lazy, well I am a bit, but I have been at home for the last 9 years looking after the kids. I was training to be a nurse but gave it up. I will not be going back into that but I am looking to be doing some qualifications next year when my last child starts school. But yes, in answer to your question I totally believe that someone can do it, in fact it is probably a good age for it because at 30 people more or less know what they want.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
My dear, I don't think it matters at what age a man (or woman) starts getting serious towards establishing his career. It differs - some people establish their careers early in life; others achieve their success late in life; however they still get there. The important thing is that, they realise that it's time to make an effort and be responsible for their own careers and lives.
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
It's not too late. Good that such man has realized his worth and never gave up. It's always nice to start a new phase of our lives and be happy again with how it goes. Success is just there waiting for us when we'll work hard to achieve it. Kudos.
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
It can happen. I mean, perhaps, the person has already found in his heart to get serious with his career or forever he will remain lame. The change can be permanent, and I guess one has to be happy for that person because finally he finds in his heart the desire to get serious.