would you adopt?

@BriNbai (912)
United States
September 16, 2008 3:49pm CST
I have always wanted to adopt as long as I remember I knew that I wanted to adopt a child.I have told family and friends this and they always look at me like I am the weirdest person in the world. When I was really young I had a dream that I was left at an orphanage and nobody wanted to adopt me.I thought that dream felt SO real and since then I wanted to adopt a child so that they wouldnt feel what I felt..In that dream.My partner is okay with it and very suportive, of course we are going to wait a while until we start a family but I told her that our first child is going to be adopted. have you ever felt like this?what do you think about adoption?
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36 responses
• India
17 Sep 08
Yes, I want to adopt a child. Now, I am married and have a 5 year old daughter. So, I would love to adopt a boy baby. I don't want to have any more kids of my own. My husband also feels the same and we have the idea of doing it once we convince the elders in the family. I think that is going to be the most difficult part. I am praying God for things to work out.In general, adoption is a great deed. If every family could adopt a child, we all can together build a more beautiful world.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I fully agree with you if every family that had the ability to would a adopt a child a would be a beautiful world :] I will pray so that everythuing goes well when you tell the elders and that God blesses you the way you will be blessing that baby boy you want to adpot life.God bless!
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
It doesnt have to be a baby I would like adopt an older child too but to tell you the truth I want my first adopted child to be a baby that way I can start our family that way..so Ican give all my love an attention his or her entire life then, I want to adopt someone older :]
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• India
18 Sep 08
It is better to adopt a baby, because it will be easy for the baby to get along with the family than a older child. As we grow, we develop likes and dislikes unlike a small baby without any inhibitions. So, I think, I would opt for a baby than a older child, if God willing.
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• United States
17 Sep 08
i have two adopted sisters and i'm soo happy my mom decided to do i am totally for adoption if it ever came up i would do it there are so many kids who need loving homes and if you have love to give then that's the best gift you could give to our world our future as humans everyone needs that affection without it our world would go down the tube
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Totally agree.. I was wondering when you adopt a child if you tell them they are adopted?but since you know your sisters are adopted Im guessing they also know?I would apriciate it if you got back to me on that lol thanks!
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• India
17 Sep 08
i dont know whether i would adopt a child or not? i am just 20 now. but i thinked in my life once that i should adopt a child. if situation favours, definitely i'll adopt a child. if i'm nuch rich in future, surely i'll adopt as much childs i can.. but sure i'll bring them in proper way.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I am only 21 right now..and I have know for the longest time that I want to adopt..:]Im glad you are considering it
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@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Why not? There are a lot of kids who need parents. For me it would be good for both parents and the child because both will benefit from it. However if I would adopt I would make sure first I adopt a good child. I don't want a problem child to be my own.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I was thinking about that..do you remember that movie "problem child"?lol just kidding..Junior was pretty cool though
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• Canada
16 Sep 08
I was adopted at the age of 3.5. I know nothing of my biological family (which sucks). However, knowing that I was given a chance to live my life was amazing. If I could help a child, like myself, live a life I'd do it. I think adoption is a wonderful idea. It gives the child a chance to live and fulfill his/her life. So go for it :) give a child like me, and the millions of other children, the chance at a wonderful life. You and your partner obviously have a lot of love for children and I know you'll make that child feel a part of the family. Congratulations :)
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I really love to hear stories like this. This is one of the main reasons why I want to adopt my first child.I would love to give a child the oportunity to live a good life with me as their dad. It really makes me feel alot more sure with all these great answers Thank you!
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I am all for adoption. We did try to adopt a child between our second and third children. The agency wouldn't let us adopt since we already had 2 healthy children of our own. I was adopted as a child into a good family at a very young age, 6 weeks old. Was able to attend good schools and had a good education as a result. Many years later, I located both my biological parents and continue a relationship with my father. I am so thankful I was adopted and not raised by my 14 year old biological mother. My life would have been a major disaster.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Your story is one of the reasons why I want to adopt. I know at 14 I would have never been able to raise a child . I just want to make sure that I can help and a major way would be to make sure at least one child has a good home..thanks for responding
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• United States
16 Sep 08
i would adopt if i didn't have kids and i would consider adopting if i had enough room. it would be nice to be able to. some friends up the road from me are foster parents and i just think anyone who does that or adopts have to be great people with a big heart,because you are giving a child somewhere to call home.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I think that being a foster parent is such a good thing ..I know a couple of families who foster and they love it.The only thing about fostering is that they might be only temporary. and I want to start a family . but fostering iis always an option for me too
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• Canada
16 Sep 08
I don't think there is anything weird about adopting a child. If it were me I think I would prefer adopting an older child, but then I might be weird, lol! I think it is noble to adopt and give a child the love they would otherwise miss out on.
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Well I would of course want to have biological children as well ..lol I want lots of babies LOL..and no your not weird..but then its coming from a weird person so we might both be weird and not know it..
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
16 Sep 08
i think it's a wonderful gift to give to a child. to adopt them and give them your name and love. my own daughter is going to adopt. she is 31 and almost finished with college. her husband is a marine for life. she said she doesn't feel she has to carry and deliver a child to make it her own. that she could love an adopted child. i think this is wonderful. i hope your dream has a way of turning into a wonderful real life story.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I am really happy to hear that your daughter is going to adopt.I really hope that more people consider doing so.Thanks for response it really makes glad that other people dont think Im a weirdo.lol
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@Vrbani21 (197)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
17 Sep 08
It's beautiful to adopt a child, to save child's life, and to love him with time
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@psalmist (109)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
adopting is not a bad idea, i was not able to bear a child after many years of being married. it also came to my mind that adopting a child is the best option but somehow i thought i just would like to have my own. i've been longing to have a family of my own , but i guess its not yet time.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
18 Sep 08
When that time comes for you to start a family I really I think it would be a good idea for you to adopt ..:] jus think about helping a little one who really needs you more than you need them. :]
@trixyteddy (1072)
• India
17 Sep 08
Hi Brinbai, I was so thrilled to know you want to adopt as well as the kind of responses you got. This only goes to show there are a lot of good people out there. When my sons were quite young there was a 5-year-old little girl whom I wished to adopt. Regretfully my husband was against it. So I just took on seeing to the needs of other poor kids, especially when it comes to education. Again after my husband and myself separated, this has become quite difficult for me, though I keep trying with the help of others who have good jobs. I wish you all the very best.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I am starting to wonder why husband are the most resistant to adopting children?I always have thought about it and I dont see anything wrong with adoption..Thank you for your response I feel very happy to get so many good responses.
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
17 Sep 08
if i could not have had a child of my own i would have pursued it. there are so many children out there who have no one and so many people who cannot have children. the one thing that keeps people from adopting though is the great expense. i know that would have been a detterent for me if i decided to adopt.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
thanks for responding!I think that people should adopt whether they can have children or not.It would really help the children of the world.
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I'm also 21 years old and I would love to adopt too if I have the resources. I don't think it's weird at all but it's a very noble cause. In my country, Philippines, there are thousands of children who are orphans, homeless and they usually wander in the street begging for money and food. My heart breaks every time I see them. I would love to get one or two of them out of the street and give them proper shelter and education. ;D
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
That is very sweet that youre considering adoptingg one of the children that really needs her help.my heart breaks everytime I see kids like this too.
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
as far as im concern, i never think about adoption. right now, i have 2 kids and i am very much lucky having them. though me and my husband is separated but having 2 kids is enough to make me happy. i worked and sacrifice a lot for my sons... i am glad i am capable of having a kids... u know what, if you can have kids then why thinking to adopt?
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I am thinking to adopt because there is so many kids out there that really just need someone to love them. Just imagine God forbid,something would happen to you where would your children go?someone will have to adopt them and take care for them..This is why I would adopt.
• India
17 Sep 08
I think you are going to do a noble cause that you will adopt some child from the orphanage and you will be giving a new life to the flower yet to see the light of the day. If your partner is also supportive it will be a good charity and will also remove from your brain the doubt that some one had not adopted you and you were left in the orphanage. Think there is an other power which no body can see and care for those who are left helpless by the we people and society and he care for all that to make people like you to do charity by adopting.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Thank you for your response I amso glad everyone seems to agree with me on adoption and I really do wish I could help all the children that need my help but I cant, so I think this is the way for me to give back to the world.
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I think adoption is a great idea. Just imagine giving this lonely person all the love and care he or she has been missing all her life. And what makes this idea even greater is that your partner supports you. Yay! I say kudos to you sir for having the heart, for thinking of others, and for helping the community as a whole. And with those attitudes right from the start, I think you guys are going to be great parents!
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Thanks I really hope we do make great parents..It does make me a little nervous though lol..i just remeber how I was when I was younger LOL
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
i think i won't as my hubby is really against it... he really wants to have his own children... his own flesh and blood... i don't know... he might change his mind in the future... who knows?... at the moment, we are concentrating to have our own children and i really hope that i will get pregnant soon... take care and have a nice day...
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I will be praying for you so you can be blessed and become pregnant.Adoption isnt for everyone but I think everyone should at least consider it.Thanks for response!
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
17 Sep 08
I don't think anyone should have any problem in adopting. It helps a soul get good life, which is not otherwise in their fate. Yes, I am for adoption.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I wish everyone in the world thought the way the people on here are responding! Its so nice to hear how everyone aproves of adopting and I am glad to hear so many considering it..thanks for your response have a great day!
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
17 Sep 08
[i]Hi Bri, I also love to adopt to give a home to a child who needs a family! My hubby and I talked about this and maybe when time that we are ready, we are going to realize it someday! I've been active in visiting orphanage before when I was in College, we love to make those kids happy even for a day! ANyway, I know there are many people who loves to adopt and give a home to a child and I admire their great heart for this![/i]
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@lilcee (2704)
• United States
17 Sep 08
If I didn't have children of my own and couldn't have any, I probably would want to adopt. I think adoption is a good thing. I feel sorry for children who have no home or anyone to love them. I hope it all works out for you. You are a special person to want to do this.
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