What kind of friend are you?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
September 17, 2008 2:27am CST
I'm at a situation right now. I treasure my friend that we're really close. But since I've stopped this semester, I couldn't look after her. Even though our other best friend is there with her, their gap is starting to widen up more. I'm worried about it. This friend I'm worried about doesn't want to listen to what we say. She got back with her ex boyfriend and we can feel and see that in the end there's a big possibility that he's gonna hurt her again. We try to tell her to take control because as we can see she's like being obsessed with the guy that she's going to his school to fetch which is totally out of her way home after school. He's like controlling her and we're afraid that she'd still get hurt specially that she's putting too much effort to care for their relationship. We're trying to warn her to get in control but it seems she doesn't trust us. She thinks we just want to ruin their relationship and break them up. My two friends ended up with a quarrel but I ended up my conversation with her with "I'll let you handle all this situations that's happening and that will happen, just remember if you need someone, I'm just here." I don't know what's better. Is it better to be a friend who tells you what to do and bumps your head for you to wake up in reality like what my other friend did? Or is it better to tell her but then let her still handle the situations herself until she's hurt much and realize that we're right all along like what I did?
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@arjai_12 (40)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
im kind of a friend that sometimes a bad influence. just a little happiness. but when there's a problem. i am sure that i am always at his side no matter what happen. im willing to help.. and sometimes i am the good friends a balance one.
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@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
thanks for sharing. happy mylotting.
17 Sep 08
Honesty should be the guiding principle of true friendship. That no matter how hurting it may seem to your friend, you need to be honest with her in your views regarding the situation she's in right now. If she won't listen to you, let her alone handle the situation--it's her life anyway. But on your part as a true friend, you've not done the sin of omission to her. Good luck!
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@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I didn't omit my views. I also told her what to do but she seems to be blinded and is deaf of things right now, that's why I told her that I'm letting her handle it herself. But if she cries in the end, then I'll still be here for her.
• Singapore
17 Sep 08
hii i think i am a very loyal friend and I will never betray a friend provided that person doesn do anything wrong to me... all i know is that I cant forgive some one who betrays me no matter what.. maybe its just that i ve experienced such stuff ...
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@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
well,those aren't friends. Friends won't betray you.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I think what you did was just fine. In love most of the time people don't see the faults of his or her partner. For me if a relationship fails the only people you could come back too are your friends and family and most of the time we feel more comfortable with our friends when it comes to these problems. Just give them time and they would realize that friendship is something too important to lose.
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@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I can see myself in her. I've experienced how that situation is so I'm really afraid that she's also suffer the things I suffered then. But since she won't listen, I'll just let her handle these situations herself but if she needs anyone to help her or someone to confide to, I'll just be here I told her.
• India
18 Sep 08
I will be a good friend for always who make friend ship with i never forgot my friends up to my life end but some are mis utilize the friend ship they utilize their friend ship for their basic needs if their work will complete we forgot them but i cant who help me in bad situation i never for got them, In my list friend ship a great never buy that with money and we cannot make friend ship with others for money i hate such type of friend ship i like real friend ship, if any friend need our we can do definitely then only we have great inspiration on friend ship. so make friends in your life they get your life more colorful u expected in your life