Long Distance Relationship

Indonesia
September 17, 2008 3:50am CST
So, how about long distance relationships? Anyone has any experience on this kind of relationship? Since my work sue me to go out of a town for a week or more, as long as i needed, i don't have any trouble to manage a long distance relationship for now , but i'm a little bit afraid if someday i must stay out of town forever, how could i manage it if this is happen? How about you? Share your experience here, any experience are welcome, whether you succeed in this kind of relationship or not
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• Philippines
18 Sep 08
My boyfriend, before succumbing to his disease, studies in China. we managed to stay together all through out his stay there. Its not as difficult as ages ago coz of technology. We chat, email and text each other almost everyday. Although its quite expensive, we try to call each other once in awhile. But to really survive a long distance relationship, first you must have strong faith in each other. Coz it won't work if trust is not there. For me it was also fun coz we didn't run out of stories to tell since we're far away from each other. And I always have something to look forward to every summer.
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
I'm happy that there's so many mylotters who has a long distance relationship works until know, i'm a little bit confident right now, i hope i can make any single contact with him in my future job ...
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• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Good for you! Tell me if ever you get into that soon.
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Hi there.:-0 I am dealing in long distance relationship right and for 8 months that we not together,everything is fine and great.The idea to be successful in long distance relationship is TRUST...Trust is really important because that is what really needed in this kind of situation and second thing, KEEP IN TOUCH..Me and my man always keep in touch to each other..We are 3000 miles aways and we are really making away to contact each other everyday and there are lots of possibilities with that because of technologies..Internet is really helpful for us because it minimize the long distance expensive calls so we are just using the skype..Well when you are dealing with relationship,you better avoid arguments or solve it quickly because person to person is really different to call or sms messages.:-0 This are just simple advice to make your relationship better.:-0 GOd bless and have a nice day.:-0
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
If i'm facing an arguments, how can i solve it with? By phone or just text msg? Which one is better? btw thx for the tips
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Dont deal in txt messages,it will be more complicated.Best way is call.;-0 GOd bless and have a nice day.;-0
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
17 Sep 08
H[i]i maxi, My husband and I were also in a long distance affair for about a year, we just make it a point to set time to talk often, actually we were chatting twice a day before..Yes, it was hard but we can't do anything about it those time! In your situation, as long as you're there for each other always like txting, calling or chatting, things will be fine! [/i]
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
I see ... at least we have once a week to communicate each other then everything should be fine ... i hope i can do it, happy to hear our experience
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• United States
18 Sep 08
I know you can...LOL! SOmetimes, our mind will think that it is hard and will think ahead several negativity about the situation but when you live with it, you will realize that you can handle it and time flies!
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I had a long distance relationship once for about a year and a half. I moved to Denver when i was dating someone from my hometown in Sioux Falls, SD and she would come out about once every month or two and it ended up working out just fine in fact we're married now and have a 10 month old son. The key for me i believe was just relize how good i had it even though i was in a big city with alot of beautiful women. That and keep it fresh always do something new wether dating or in the bed, and for me that was easy because i moved to denver where she's never been before so i had alot to show her and alot of new places we could go on dates.
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
What can keep you still faithfull with her before you married? You say that once you moved to a big city with alot of beautiful women arround .... i'm listening i can use this trick to keep him just like you did
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I did. And it is really hard. i could afford the day of not seeing him. But what I can do. I choose to love him. And so I have to take our situations. Even how hard. Because we are living apart.
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
Love ... that is everyone need in this world ....
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
17 Sep 08
I thought I was getting into one once. She was in Miami and I was here in Port of Sapin. Things didn't happen exactly as I planned though, work and the incredible interferences of the job saw to that but I still think it would have been good. What you say in a piece of writing has a magic and transportance all of its own. I think you should try it.
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
Yeah, i didn't think about the job when we are far away ... maybe the intereferences of the job could make me forget each other for a while, i may considered this one for my future job
@rainmark (4306)
17 Sep 08
I've have a long distance relationship and it works on me and my husband. It's depends on the couple on how they handle that kind of relationship. If they saty faithfull to each other and trust and most of all the love.
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
Well i'm not married yet, so how can we keep this long distance relationship? ... i think it's a little bit easier to handle if we already married, should i request it before i go away?
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
17 Sep 08
I am in a long distance relationship, my husband is working abroad, we just got married and after a month of being married, he has to be away for work. I cannot describe how much I am crying when I miss him. Missing is something that is really hard to get used to. But the key is constant communication and trust. It is not easy... but if you love each other too much. Distance is not an issue, distance will just remind you that this space in between will be crossed. And time, will just be a reminder that you will see each other soon. Keep your faith on your love and keep loving each other.
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• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
Hi ... i'm much more calm hearing your experience here i know it's hard and maybe i'll cry just like you did sometime, thx for remind me that time will just be a reminder for us to meet each other
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
As of now, I'm in a long distance relationship for almost 5 months.. I just graduated college last march and I move to other city by april to find job.. Since, my boyfriend is not yet done with his thesis so he need to stay in our place until he finish it.. But even we are far from each other we always make sure that we communicate everyday so that we won't missed so much each other present and to know what's happening to him every now and then.. When I'm at work, we always chat and if I'm at home we always talked in the phone or text.. At first I thought that it is really hard to have a long distance relationship since I will not see him but I realized now that it is not that kind of difficult because we both always have communication.. Yes, of course I still miss him since I don't feel his presence but at least through communication it lessen the feeling of belonging.. Another thing is for as long as you trust each other so much as what we've doing then I think it will really work.. I know that sometimes it is hard not to think of so many "what if" and not to listen of what other is saying then I think everything will be fine... I can say all of this things because I'm not afraid that my boyfriend will hurt me cause I know he won't do that.. I know that even we are in a long distance relationship, our love will always remain and we are always hoping to be together very soon... Just always think positive and trust want you want to believe..I know that it is difficult there is nothing wrong to give it a try.. Right?? If you fail then that only then learn from it so that for the next try it won't be the same again.. Happy posting...
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
It's kinda hard to do without his presence ... especially when there is no communication, any, can deliver a conversation to him unless vacation day coming and it is the only chances to meet, i'm afraid that i will face this in the future how do i manage thisssss? hix Do we need a commitment first? Like engagement?
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
2 Oct 08
Long-Distance Relationships.. I have stopped believing in them somewhat until and unless they turn out into real life relationships as soon as possible.. I had been in one relationship which ended up after 3 years but we could not see each other even once in 3 years.. I met a girl online, about 5 years back. We had a nice chat and we continued to chat on alternate days for about one month. By that time she had given me her phone number so we started talking on phone. We exchanged our pics and did like each other. I even proposed her after 2 months or so and she accepted my proposal after another month. We went away nicely. But unfortunately couldn't meet each other ever. We loved each other(as i hope) and everytime i could think of meeting her(we lived in different cities) some or the other thing happened which won't allow us to meet. Situations were turning against us.Then after 2 years or so, some incident happened with her due to which our relation started declining. She was not allowed to talk to boys. And i kept on asking her for time so that i can come over to her place to see her. But unfortunately we ended up and i still don't know the reason..WHY?. So as far as i m concerned, i used to believe in long-distance relationships, but i am afraid to take any chances now. I have seen a 4 year relationship ending up in 4 months just because they got separted after 4 years. So you really can't belive.. Whats gonna happen?
• Indonesia
2 Oct 08
I think whether it's called long distance relationships you need to see her even once before you decided to get serious relationship, i think we all really need these meets between us and the person in our relationship, even once ... i'm not like to say this ... really but i think if i'm not sayin this to you others will ... if you never meet and she/he doesn't want to meet you even once then they might be a liar ... sorry to say it ...
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• India
3 Oct 08
Well, i guess you are correct!! But it wss not so in my case. She wanted to meet me!! but circumstances went against us. And then later on it was too late!! Anyway thanks for ur advice.
• Indonesia
17 Oct 08
I'm sorry to hear that , i hope you'll have better relationships next time
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• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I haven't yet. But I will, a month or two from now. Sigh. I don't know what to do. I don't know what will happen the moment he leaves me. But one thing is for sure, it will hurt. A lot. :((
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
i hope you won't, it's really sad .... hope you still be together forever
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Sigh. I do hope we'll be together forever. He's my first boyfriend, and I want him to be my last.
• Indonesia
22 Sep 08
yes, both of you can do it! i hope and we all hope
@nlcapricorn (1115)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I never had that one. Maybe i can experience it i am just hoping that all will work for us. Anyway nowadays there are a lot of ways to communicate..On those old days that there is no internet or cellphone it was really hard. But now there is internet you can see on webcams or call by phone. SO there no reason to miss because every means of communications is there.
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
Well how you manage this, if you go to some country that there is no chances or a way to make any communicate with him unless you go to his town in a vacation? It's a small town exactly ...
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Is that possible?For now we are always together. We are planning to go abroad me to Canada and him applying for a job in the sea,,because he is a seaman. We are now in a high technology. They always inventing means of communication. Well is there a place in canada that has no internet or maybe a signal? I dont think of that. Talking about him if his in the sea, that all the time he will be there without a signal too. SO there no worries on that to me anyway. If communication lost maybe because one has seen someone...Yes.. because if you truly love each other, you will always wait each other.
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
I don't live in Canada, i never been there, so i don't know, well technologies is invented here too, but that's the main problem, the signal! gosh it's really hard to find a signal in the small town where the forest is arround you
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
i have tried and experienced several long distance relationships but it did not work out for me.i guess long distance relationships are really hard to manage.before engaging on one one should be mature enough to face the consequences and responsibilities this type of relationship offers.but i do believe that long distance relationships are posibble.it just a matter of virtue.trust,loyalty,fidelity,understanding,maturity and a lot of love.
• Indonesia
6 Nov 08
Yep you're right ... it need a lot of it, i guess i need to do all of it if i still want to pretend my relationship
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Long distance relationship will definitely be base on each other if it will work out or not. If both dedicates time to each other either setting a time or schedule for communication mainly on webcam chat then possibility is that it will work out. But if both is busy on working and tends to forget time for communication then love will fade. It depends on the intimacy and impact of ones love to the other. It is how serious their relationship is.
• Indonesia
22 Sep 08
i hope we'll keep survive tough both of us is busy with our job ....
@chabawel (330)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Depends really on how both of you can sustain the pressure of a long distance relationship. There's so many temptations along the way. Also, your commitment for each other will be tested again and again. How will you manage being away from your love one? There's no easy way actually. But it depends on you how you manage the longings in a positive way.
• Indonesia
19 Sep 08
Yeah i know , there must be temptations in the middle of the road, that's why i wrote this thread to listen what other experiences, so if i'm facing it, i already have experiences from you mylotters to guide me
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I have tried this one. Its just last year. It worked and it last a year. It started just for one text message and turned into that relationship. A month after, we meet and we became more closer to each other. Every month she comes for me here in my place and even the fact that she is from manila and im from baguio. Even its not too long distance i can say that its like really long distance. This kind of relationship can work to others and not for others. Only the trust for each other will help you both to make that relationship work.
• Indonesia
19 Sep 08
What happen with you both? why it's only lasting for one year only?
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
i had that kind of relationship recently but we broke up, lack of trust, time, consideration and respect, but if you really love each other, distance doesn't matter anyway.
• Indonesia
19 Sep 08
Can't say a word .... i think i must do the opposite from it
@modstar (9610)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Well my long distance love affair could be the worst! I've waited for my girlfriend for more than a year only to find out from her friend that she's pregnant from another guy. The bad thing was, my girfriend broke up with me 3 months after she got pregnant without even telling me the reasl story. She told me that she's just too busy that she can't maintain our relationship anymore. But don't fret, not all relationships are the same. I still would go for long distance relationship if needed.
• Indonesia
19 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear that hope your next relationship goin well and better than before
• China
18 Sep 08
when I see the title,to be frank,I was at a loss and rather sad.I am a college student and my boyfriend is a Shanghainese.I flied to Shanghai this midautumn Day.We had a wonderful time together~As everyone says,long distance produce beauty~I felt no beauty at all but large quantity of missing feelings~That's perhaps the so called hurt with happiness...I don't know~
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
The hard part when we meet them is when we are leaving our beloved one again ...
@dinomutt (62)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
well, me and my girlfriend have been maintaining our long distance relationship for 5 years now. Since we started then, I had to further my studies in a different state of my country. Things are not always bright along the way, but we manage to get over it.
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
5 years?? how did you manage it? can you share?