What does a persongain/lose by winning an argument?

India
September 17, 2008 5:49am CST
How much argumentative are you? What does a person gain/lose by winning arguments while interacting with others,may be with one's boss,friends or relatives ? Some persons are in the habit of abruptly getting in to arguments even on small and petty matters and find a great pleasure in winning arguments in their favour.What does the behaviour of the argumentative personalities reveal?
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@Erin88 (348)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I usually avoid arguments. I like to keep the peace and won't get into an argument unless it is something I really feel very strongly about. Usually I'll just listen to what the person has to say, then I'll either be quiet or say something neutral that hopefully does not offend them. I think what it says about people is those that like to argue may be more aggressive or competitive than those who do not like to argue.
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• India
22 Sep 08
Thanks for nicely responding and sharing your thoughts and view points.I do appreciate your attitude and approach. Have a nice day!!
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@Raymo23 (465)
• Uganda
19 Sep 08
I am an argumentative person. It developed when I was still in high school. I was a year younger than the average age of my class, and smaller and playful. I was also weaker and was bullied a lot. Because I could not fight back physically, I sharpened my mouths, words, and learnt how to argue myself out of delicate situations. With time I was good at arguments, something that has remained with me now. What do I gain from it? Confidence; I win most arguments because I am articulate, and, and, intelligent.
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• India
22 Sep 08
Thanks for nicely responding and sharing your thoughts and view points.While I do appreciate you skill and competence in arguing,still I somehow feel that we should avoid arguments as far as possible,since it creates lot of heat,friction and misunderstanding in the circle of our friends and relation;we may even lose a lot of our best friends. I feel,it is better to go for a healthy discussion than getting in to an argument. Have a nice day!!
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
17 Sep 08
i do not like to arue but if i know for sure that i'm right about something i will. my mother liked to arue about everything. drove me nuts. all you gain is the satisfaction of straightening out whoever is wrong if that satisfies you. i hate to hear someone sitting up telling a big tale that u know is not right.
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• India
22 Sep 08
Thanks for nicely responding and sharing your view points. I appreciate your straight forward approach,but sometimes being argumentative may cause a lot of heat, friction and misunderstanding due to clash of ego.If you come out with flying colours in an an argument and it hurts someone, may be your friend or relation,what kind of victory is it? Even if you feel yourself right and prove the other person wrong,is it still worth arguing? I think,it is better to go for a discussion than entering in to argument. Have a nice day!!
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
I am not an argumentative person in life. I always lost in debate because I am not a good speaker. But in virtual life, where I can speak up anything by text, I can do that better. I can even edit my words before I really submitted it to be seen in public, and to be honest I really enjoy it. But still I don't argue in small things, only things that interesting for me. You see... The argumentative person is not necessarily a bad person, I think they are become argumentative because they are smart and critical about small things. They care with simple things so that they questioned it when something happen not the way it should be happened. I don't think that there is a win-lose in the arguments. In many debates, people think the one who wins is the one who can provide the best arguments. But for me the winner is the one who is able to conclude the truth given by so many arguments based on facts so that they can imply the conclusion in life
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• India
20 Sep 08
Thanks for nicely responding and sharing your thoughts and view points.I do agree with your poins.But I feel It is always better and nice to discuss and give a patient hearing what the other person says than entering in to an argument.An argument creates a battle field where two persons try to throw arrows to each other,where as a discussion creates a forum for exchanging knowledge and information.Ifyou win an argument,but it hurts someone and you lose a friend,What do you win really?I feel one should try to avoid arguments as far as possible,as argument is nothing but a situation of clashing of egoes of two persons who try to defend his/her case,not giving due weightage to other's views. Have a nice day!!
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
17 Sep 08
When I was so young, I used to argue for things and issues. But as I matured, I realised that it is not important to win arguments but to win the people. So I put a full stop whenever the argument starts. We are not going to win anything if we win an argument. But we win a lot when we loose in an argument.
• India
22 Sep 08
Thanks for nicely responding and sharing your view points.I absolutely agree with you.I do appreciate your sense of understanding and realisation. Wish you the bestof life and happiness.
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