What does a persongain/lose by winning an argument?

I usually avoid arguments. I like to keep the peace and won't get into an argument unless it is something I really feel very strongly about. Usually I'll just listen to what the person has to say, then I'll either be quiet or say something neutral that hopefully does not offend them. I think what it says about people is those that like to argue may be more aggressive or competitive than those who do not like to argue.

I am an argumentative person. It developed when I was still in high school. I was a year younger than the average age of my class, and smaller and playful. I was also weaker and was bullied a lot. Because I could not fight back physically, I sharpened my mouths, words, and learnt how to argue myself out of delicate situations. With time I was good at arguments, something that has remained with me now. What do I gain from it? Confidence; I win most arguments because I am articulate, and, and, intelligent.

When I was so young, I used to argue for things and issues. But as I matured, I realised that it is not important to win arguments but to win the people. So I put a full stop whenever the argument starts. We are not going to win anything if we win an argument. But we win a lot when we loose in an argument.

i do not like to arue but if i know for sure that i'm right about something i will. my mother liked to arue about everything. drove me nuts. all you gain is the satisfaction of straightening out whoever is wrong if that satisfies you. i hate to hear someone sitting up telling a big tale that u know is not right.

I am not an argumentative person in life. I always lost in debate because I am not a good speaker. But in virtual life, where I can speak up anything by text, I can do that better. I can even edit my words before I really submitted it to be seen in public, and to be honest I really enjoy it. But still I don't argue in small things, only things that interesting for me. You see... The argumentative person is not necessarily a bad person, I think they are become argumentative because they are smart and critical about small things. They care with simple things so that they questioned it when something happen not the way it should be happened. I don't think that there is a win-lose in the arguments. In many debates, people think the one who wins is the one who can provide the best arguments. But for me the winner is the one who is able to conclude the truth given by so many arguments based on facts so that they can imply the conclusion in life