Do you think that life is unfair?

@mona269 (133)
Philippines
September 17, 2008 8:08am CST
I have a friend who's always whining about how unfair life is or how unlucky he is in life. For a while, it was okay with me to just listen to his stories about how all the businesses that he's started always ends up losing money or how people seem to always put him down. However, as time passes, it just irritates me whenever he starts whining. GRRRR! Isn't it that life is how we make it? I know that somewhere between the lines of my friend's stories is a huge flaw in his character that he keeps on masking by blaming everything on the fates or on others. For me, life isn't unfair. Before we start pointing our finger to blame anything or anyone for our misfortunes, we must begin examining ourselves first. We reap what we sow. How about you? Do you think life treats you fairly?
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22 responses
@douchrti (176)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Ive always believed that life is a journey to better your soul. My grandmother taught me that. Each life we are given is a way to achieve that. Although it can seem unfair as in my mentally disabled son who is 28 and has a intellect of a 2 yr old. Or that my childhood sweetheart of 25 yrs was taken from me in 2000. So yeah, when you see those who think the world owes them something, who do not contribute in any way, I can see where you can think life is unfair.
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• India
18 Sep 08
100% true that life is a journey to better soul. And now its upto you that how you are going to take this challenge. As a fighter, I always love the challenges which life put forward to me.
@rocker21 (2717)
• India
17 Sep 08
If its fair, its not life!
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• China
17 Sep 08
It must be fair,time will tell you,at last you will get what you pay.
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@rainmark (4307)
17 Sep 08
Life is sometimes unfair sometimes fair. It's not everytime that life is good to us. there's time that it brings good times. It's the matter of choose and decission and how you handle things in your life.But some are really misfortunate and even how they do better the more it get worsier. Maybe it's need new strategy and good timing. Tell your friends not to blame someone its his life and he is responsbile to it not someone.
@zhaosonghan (1039)
• China
17 Sep 08
Life does not like you think,it will not turn back for you effect at a short time,but you must believe that life must give you should get,time is only problem. There are so many people who alway complain unfair,they should think more what did they do?and is this all right?If you want to get some thing,first you should pay more.Life is really fair,you can look yourselves,and make a right remark for yourselevs.
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@klaudine (3653)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
I used to think that life is unfair. I used to think that life gave people different opportunity for each people and that is unfair. But when I grew up I thought about it over and over again and I came to the conclusion that life is a chain of cause and effect. It is true that every people are given different opportunity, but still they are given an opportunity. It is all about how they use the opportunity to make their life better. Sometimes people just keep whining about themselves and become jealous of other people's luck, it makes them cannot see the real opportunity in front of them. I really care about this things, and I believe many people has missed one or two opportunities in their life. Some struggles to make their own opportunity and some give up. So how life should be unfair, because people themselves set up their own fate...
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@MissGia (955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Sometimes i feel that way inside i don't go whining about it. I read news and watch news and i realize that life for me could be a lot worse. My biggest problem in life is my financials, times get real bad sometimes. But i know that one day everything will get better. I made it a point to go back to school and work on a degree, so that one day life and my financials will get better. So you are correct, life is what you make it..alongside that nothing will ever get better if you do nothing about it.
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@angelface23 (2502)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I think life is treating me unfairly. Maybe I am not in the right state of mind right now so my opinion may be influenced by hormones. I try and try to make a good life for myself and it never works out for me. I am constantly getting the shaft especially at work. Money is my biggest worry and it seems like no matter how hard I am trying I don't get anywhere. So yes life is unfair to me.
• United States
17 Sep 08
Life isn't fair, but it isn't productive to simply sit around and complain. One must actually do something to try to level the playing field. No, life hasn't treated me fairly, but I am determined to get what I want-- what I have worked and studied hard for. I know that sitting around and complaining really doesn't get me anywhere.
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• Philippines
18 Sep 08
yeah... life is unfair... we never get what we want... or they way it should be...
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Knowing Life is not fair, then all we have to do is make it fair for others. Its in the way we think. It may be positive or negative depending on how we see it. For me I stay optimistic and positive in everything that I do. Even if my expectations are not met, I always say to myself that what I want is coming soon. In that way, I can do the best I can to reach it. It is true that we must start within ourselves, acknowledge our faults and learn from our mistakes. Let's always hope and pray for the best. :)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
No matter how much we try, life can't be fair. I believe that if your life on earth is perfect, you wouldn't want to leave this world. You would want to be immortal. You wouldn't have the desire to be good to prepare for afterlife or go to heaven. About your friend, maybe he had a series of bad luck. As his friend, help him stop whining and instead, help him realize that he still has a lot to be thankful for. He may have a rotten luck the past few weeks (or months?) but instead of thinking how unfair life is, help him see his blessings. help him see things that he should be thankful for (like having a friend like you perhaps?).
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
life has never been fair, that's the fact of it but no matter how we hate that unfair rule we cannot deny that its what makes life exiting. who will fight for a battle if we all know that no one will win? life is a game, so we have to live it that way. if we want to succeed we have to set our minds to it. besides God will not spoon-feed us of everything, we have to work hard. life will never be fair, but we can always turn it to the way we want it to be, its us who will make the final decision anyway. in this game there will be a winner and a looser. we just have to choose where will be our position.
@Acmeous (47)
• India
18 Sep 08
I agree what you said is that Life is as we make it. I also agree that is a journey to better soul. If you are confident to something, your luck is definitely going to bend before you and give that opportunity to you. But, ya you may also say that sometimes you see many people going up so easily and you are struggling all the time. But let us take out the profit of it. Those people who has golden spoon in their mouth are nothing in comparision to your strength to struggle and survive. And thats what life needs from you. Making you tougher and helping you to re-discover your capabilities.
• United States
18 Sep 08
Life is very unfair. All of my life I have been thrown curve balls, and I get sick of it. I am always sick, I am always behind on something, I am always slow, I am always stupid, I am always losing someone or something... no life is not fair at all.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I remember my American Boss in my previous company. He told us that life is really unfair. So we should not get hurt the way things are going around us. It should not pin us down but instead makes us stronger. And we should always start positively everyday of our lives.
@tianli (311)
• China
18 Sep 08
In my opinion, the life is unfair ,and it starts with a baby if he has a great family background ,then his life will be more wonderful than others.He will have a good education , own a respectful job and have much wealth.
• United States
17 Sep 08
I used to think that life was unfair but now I realize that sometimes it's the people that are unfair. It's true that a person reaps what they sow but there were plenty of people that experienced some very unfair things that they never asked for. Looking back at the slavery time, slaves never asked to be treated with disrespect, to be killed and abused. It happened because people were unfair and abused their power. I do agree that some people reap what they sow but there are also some unfortunate things that happen to people that don't deserve it. We have to take what life gives up and learn lessons from those experiences, even if they are unfair. There is always a lesson to be learned in something and it's up to us if we want to take it or not. I do understand that it can be frustrating to be around negative people that complain about their lives always being the worst and unfair. It slowly brings you down as well. I don't know your friend so I can't really make the judgment that they have some flaw that makes people react to him in that way and bad things happen to him. I do believe however, as someone has alluded to in another response, that focusing on the negative things is bringing him negativity. I believe that a person needs to focus on the good things that they are given in life instead of only on their misfortunes if they want to bring about change in their life. Focusing on the bad just gives them negative energy and giving out negative energy to people will just get you that. Personally, I would say that life does treat me fairly. I used to be really depressed and stuff when i was younger but now I have a different outlook on life and I realize how lucky and blessed I am. I just have to look at those countries where there are people afraid to step put of their homes for fear of being bombed to see how lucky I am. I don't feel like I have a right to complain about life being unfair to me when there are so many people all over the world suffering and worse off than I am.
@Saiyan25 (86)
• Canada
17 Sep 08
I think that life is pretty fair with everyone. Some people just don't realize the good things, just the bad things and they whine about them. I think the good and bad will probably equal out at the end of your lifetime. Sort of like karma. So if there's a lot of bad stuff going on in your life, eventually, there will be good coming up.
• United States
17 Sep 08
I think life treats me fairly and I'm thankful for it. But I would definitely say that life treats some in a very unjust way. There are millions of people in my home country and else where where people live in poverty and misery hardly getting to eat one meal a day. They are deprived of education, health care, and so many other privileges of life that we enjoy. It really pains me to see their plight :(
@thea0322 (66)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
life is unfair, but it's whether or not you let that fact affect how you live is what really matters. if you let that rule your life and complain all the time, then what does that say about your character? if you still push through now matter how unfair life is then it'll make you a better person. just my two cents