From 4 kids to 6 in under 48 hours...

@foxyfire33 (10009)
United States
September 17, 2008 10:54pm CST
By this time tomorrow night we will have 6 kids living here with us! To start with, last night stepson's girlfriend's parents (phew) kicked her out and told her she was cut off and was not to ever step foot in their house again. All because they wanted her to end the relationship with stepson and she said that she was 18 and they couldn't decide who she dated. Then tonight s/o's 16 yearold daughter called and said things with her stepdad have gotten worse and she needs out NOW. So first thing in the morning s/o and stepson are driving the 3 1/2 hours one way to get her and bring her here to live. On Friday hopefully we will be seeing about getting both girls enrolled in school...Daughter is a Junior, Girlfriend could be a Senior if she tries hard. We think Girlfriend falls under some kind of "Orphaned Child Act" and can enroll herself and of course s/o can enroll his daughter. It's going to get pretty interesting having 3 kids in school. Our bussing system is pretty messed up so unless any of them want a 80 minute bus ride twice a day, they'll all have to come with me when I take the kindergartener to his school and then hopefully they can catch a bus from there that goes straight to the high school 15 minutes away. Then in the afternoon, I have to pick the little one up at 3:30 and then wait another 15 minutes for the high school bus to drop them back off at the elementary school. We could definitely use a secong vehicle right now! Then Girlfriend could just drive all 3 of them. So there's another update on this crazy thing I call my life! Plus I might be babysitting a 1 year old and a 3 year old for 13+ hours tomorrow in addition to my almost 2 year old and 3 year old (and 5 year old after school)...plus getting everything ready for stepdaughter to arrive! Oh...and it's the only day I'll have for another week without certain other adults getting in the way of my cleaning routines and what-not. The funny thing is, I'm happy not stressed. This is going to be a really good change and I'm looking forward to it!
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Wow...sounds like your gonna have a full house. We used to do foster care and more than once we had 7 foster kids, Hubby, me, my youngest brother and his g/f all in the same house. Talk about hectic! Thankfully it's just Hubby and I now...and our cat, Morgana. It's nice and peaceful most of the time. Good luck with all the kids [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
18 Sep 08
HI twoey, your beautiful cat Morgana reminds me of my cat Jaguar who I miss so much. She's beautiful! I love your profile page too!
• India
18 Sep 08
Oh your love for kids amazing. Really the woman like you are rare to do not bother to whom the kids relate but your madness for love for children and your will to serve and dedication towards your work. May god bless you more children to look after.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Aww, thank you so much! None of the teenagers are mine by blood but they are mine by love. I have always had a special place in my heart for teens with problems at home. My teen years weren't so nice and I often wished I had an alternative place to live.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I would love to adopt or foster a teen girl after my stepson moves out. I can't do it until then because we just don't have enough room. I have always wanted to have a baby of my own, but it just didn't work out.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Wow! That is a lot going on. I hope the "new" girls fit into your household seamlessly and both do well in school. I hope they both realize the wonderful chance that you and s/o are giving them and make the most of it. That high school degree is so very important to have to do just about anything in life. My stepson has found out that he needs to get his GED or he won't be able to do a thing. He couldn't even get a job at the gas station because of not having it. Good luck with all the babies tomorrow too! That is a lot of toddlers to keep watch over.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
18 Sep 08
The little ones didn't come . Apparently their mother thought it would be too hard to take them out at 5 am to stay the day here...but thought it would be easy for me to take me and my 2 little ones to their house last night to stay over night and until whenever she gets home tonight, leaving my 5 year old here with the inlaws so my s/o could take him to school in the morning and pick him up in the afternoon even though he worked a 12 hour shift last night. So her hubby just missed yet another day of work over it . (oh and they also asked if the 5 year old really had to even go to school today...yeah they wanted me to have him miss school just so I could watch their girls) My stepson has his GED test scheduled finally! He's really regretting dropping out like he did and says he misses school. Luckily his girlfriend wants her diploma rather than a GED and he's been on her about actually doing school rather than the other options.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I wish your stepson the best of luck! I tried some of the questions on the practice test. The language questions were really hard! There are some good links to practice tests in my GED discussion. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1692227.aspx
@barigwak (97)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Oh it's so good of you. You have a kind heart.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Thank you! That is really sweet to say!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
18 Sep 08
God Bless you foxy! You are something else! I don't know how you do it! I give you lots of credit! Your sure have your hands full! The good thing from all of this is that maybe now the 2 girls will be able to give you some help around the house and with the younger kids. That would be a nice change for you. Now all you need is to get stepson and s/o to help some more and you might just be set! Oh yea and those inlaws to be outlaws finally! I'm so glad that you have finally have things going a bit better for you and you sound a bit more at peace and I do hope things continue to get better. I will keep my fingers crossed!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Thanks so much Opal! I have really appreciated all your kind words. I decided to take today and get caught up on here also since I haven't stayed on top of replying to my friends...especially ones like you who have been so encouraging thoughout all this craziness. Pretty much nothing in this discussion ended up happening...I explained about the babysitting in my response to Trace and will start a discussion about stepdaughter a little later. MIL said this morning that things need to get finished up so the final appraisal can be done ASAP. The last day they can use their other camper is October 15th so they need to get the big one set up in the park by then because FIL can't stand being here with me (LOL, I feel the same way). He hides out in the little camper as often as possible.. So today I'm planning to give everything a thorough cleaning and the big boys will do outside work this weekend and next week. I've been keeping up pretty well inside so I can get the major stuff done in a day (would be easier if I didn't to work around MIL's "collections") Outside is a lost cause LOL but they can make it decent enough to get by...besides, why would we want to make things look too nice for the appraisal? The worse it looks the lower the price goes for us!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I hope things are going well for you. That is a big jump in kids to be responsible for. I hope the girlfriend stays in school and gets her diploma.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Wow, talk about change, but they do say change is good for you, so I hope a lot of good comes from this..
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
19 Sep 08
God bless and good luck! I don't think i could do it.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
18 Sep 08
woww... that is really interesting... you had lots of things happening in your life... and i'm glad that you have a very positive attitude to overcome them... most of the people will whine, complain or get stressed up if they are being faced with a similar situation like you... but you are incredible... you are happy and looking forward to it which is fantastic... hope everything will went on well... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
18 Sep 08
You will be fine because you have a good attitude about it. I've been in your shoes and in ways am stepping into some similar shoes again. I have six children of my own at at various times have taken in their friends when they had troubles at home and taken in my kids step-brother (their father's step-son not mine). I don't regret it. The kids I took in are grown now and are all doing well, so I think it was worth it to give a helping hand when someone was in need. My six (3 are over 20 years old) all still live with me and I am about to move my mother in. I still am very optimistic that it will all work out and everyone will be better for it. Take care. God will always bless you for your giving nature.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
18 Sep 08
You have a lot going on, wow. Good luck getting everything ready for step daughter to arrive and the babysitting to boot. I would be stressed out, but I am glad you are taking it in stride.