Do you pay your children an allowance?

@rocketj1 (6960)
United States
September 17, 2008 11:11pm CST
My kids get a very small amount of money every other week (that's how my husband's paychecks come) This is "just because" money. They have a list of chores that they are expected to do (not so many of them during the school year).So their allowance is not payment for the jobs. Rather, the jobs are to be done anyway. We all live here, right? Sometimes if there is an extra job I need them to do, then I will pay them to do it. My son is older than his sister by 3 1/2 years and generally requires more spending money, but it is not a problem as he had a paper delivery route. How about you? Do your kids get an allowance? How are they paid and are chores required of them? Also, do you ever take away allowance as a consequence of something wrong they have done? How does this whole money thing work at your house?
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Sep 08
Hi there rocketj1 I have like a behaviour chart because my kids are still quiet young. How it works is that I have 50 boxes and if they demonstrate bad behaviour they get a cross, each box represents 2p/2c so they have the opportunity to earn £1/$1. They also have a row of 10 boxes that they can earn ticks for helping me without me having to ask and if they get 10 ticks they get a special small treat. I haven't done it since we have been back at school because I have been so busy and am not back into the routine of things at the moment so they are having time out for now and no one is getting pocket money and the word 'Christmas' is being bantered around alot at the moment too!!
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Your system is interesting:) And....did you say Christmas? eeek! Thanks:)
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@Humbug25 (12551)
19 Sep 08
Sorry I did say the 'C' word!!
@Pikelet (79)
18 Sep 08
The kida always got an allowance,the amount was hinged on whether they had done there share of the houshold jobs that week or not,and if they knew that I was on the warpath for them to tidy there rooms,and the next day was allowance day,well they were in there like jack rabbits,the vacuuming was done,the beds were changed,and not a sweety wrapper to be seen
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
ah yes.... the warpath. Been there many times myself:-D Thank you!
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18 Sep 08
Of course there is the other thing,the withering look that speaks volumes!
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@mom4kids (658)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
My kids are 6, 4 (almost 5), 2 (3 next month) and the baby is 18 months. They all get allowance except for the baby. They don't get allowance for doing specific jobs but I do expect them to be helpers to me. And they are. They get paid once a week. I am trying to teach them about giving and there grandpa goes to Haiti on mission trips so we have taken to giving some of their allowance for that in which it will go to kids in need. They are also saving up for a trampoline so they put some for that each week too. My two oldest get a dollar each for their piggy banks, a dollar for the trampoline fund and .50 cents each for Haiti. My 2 year old gets .50 cents to put in her bank and in each of the other funds. I think allowance even at a small age is a good way to teach kids how to save money and even use it to help others. I only don't pay them if they have been bad all week and haven't been helpers. This hasn't happened often.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
You have some great ideas. Thanks!:)
@mom4kids (658)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
no problem :)
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• Canada
19 Sep 08
We have given the children allowances and then stopped when they became tired of doing any chores around the house . It is an on / off again thing we try all the time . The only consistent thing that we have paid an allowance for is for my son who mows the grass every summer . We have a small lawn and my husband usually borrows a ride on lawn mower for him to use and we pay him five dollars every time he does this .
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
19 Sep 08
I know what you mean about On/Off again. We have to change our chores whenever our schedules change (sports, music, church, etc.) So occasionally we take a break from a regular list and then we have to get back on track again. Thanks:)
• United States
18 Sep 08
No i actually dont for the simple fact everytime we go to the store they suually get something maybe once time outta a week they dont but other than they they do. My kids are 2 yrs old and 9 months old so i dont see a point in it right now
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
19 Sep 08
You are right. I think they are much too little to appreciate an allowance yet:)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
I imagined that i will also be giving my kids allowance when the time is right. To me, it will be their spending money at school. As for now, my daughter (the only one going to school) is going to the private school where lunch and teabreak are prepared. Sometimes she do asked money from her daddy, just to buy some drinks. As for myself, when i was at school, my parents give me money everyday to buy food at school during break. if i have extra money from not using at school, i would save it in my little 'piggy' bank. ;) i also get rewarded when i got good results during examination. As for my children, we have not reward them with money, perhaps with a gift if they wget good results at school.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
19 Sep 08
That seems like a good way to handle things:)
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
18 Sep 08
To be honest we give our son money. I'm not sure if you would call it an allowance though. Only because he is only going on 3 years old. We expect him to pick up his toys and that is about it. But during the day if I'm cleaning and he helps me without being told we will give him a dollar for helping. Now if he takes the dishes to the sink by himself and for some reason we never tought him this but he will take all the dishes to the sink so we will give him 2 dollars. So I gusse you could say we give an allowance then. He then at the end of each month will get to go to the store and pick out something he wants usually it is little cars or mini trucks that makes music or noise.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
19 Sep 08
sounds like a successful plan:)
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
18 Sep 08
I don't believe in paying children in weekly allowance. However I do pocket money out of my own will whenever he does some house chores to save it in his piggy bank. But I make it clear that it is not a payment for his work, its just out of my free will to help him save money to buy something nice.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, we don't want to be paying our kids to be good. OR neglecting to tell them we love them with a no-strings-attached gift of a little money. Good point:)
@my2boys (821)
• United States
18 Sep 08
My son is four years old and he gets $5 a week for cleaning his room. It is a way of teaching him responsibility and how peole have to EARN money. Also, before I started the $5 a week thing I could never get him to clean his room. Now he does it with no problem because he knows he will get his money.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Dr. Phil would say that you need to "know your kids' currency". In this case, it is literally currency! Thank You:)
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Mine started to get an allowance, when they started preschool. Just something small to teach them money management and responsibility. They have their set chores and are expected to do them with or without money. If they don't they lose privileges. Now that they are older they can ask for extra chores to make some extra money. As of now they are pretty good with keeping up with chores and saving their money rather than spending much of it. I don't think I would take away the allowance if they did something wrong although I had threatened it once when my oldest went on 'strike' for a week, lol. She ended up being grounded instead, which seems to hit her harder anyway.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, I think the social threat would work better on my daughter too. Thanks:)
@rainmark (4303)
18 Sep 08
My son is still very too young. But i would like to share my experiences when i was a kid before. My mother always giving us an allowance, just a minimum and usuall amount. If we would like to increase our allowance and get extra penny,we need to work at the house like cleaning, washing clothes or helping in the farm. So because i have always lots of wants i always work for my extra allowance. and i think thats a best way to teach kids about money that you can't get it easy,and you need to work for it.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes, that is a good way to instill a work ethic in your kids! Thanks:)
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
18 Sep 08
Actually its a good habit getting kids to do simple chores because its their house too. My son unfortunately never got to do anything because he was the only child and he has grown up to be a little lazy where chores are concerned. He takes money from us as he goes to college and only works in the vaccations. Here in India, its so overcrowded that even simple jobs like paper delivery are grabbed and left for the unfortunate uneducated and poor. Uptil now, my son has never been denied anything within reason and he too understands and asks for what we can afford. If not, he does not argue or mind. He understands. What he has earned in vaccations, he spends on college trips, his dental care, some clothes which he fancies etc.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I think that maybe boys are harder to get to do their chores. It is just not that important to them. But that's probably just in general. Thanks:)