why do we have to say no to someone that we love?

Why are you saying no? you didnt put that in your discussion, i was best friends with a guy for 5 yrs, i always fancied him and never knew but he felt the same way, eventually we got things straight and dated for three years, we were passionately in love and laughed all the time, i could lie and say were still together and things are great, but theyre not, were not even friends, we were just two different people and ended up going our seperate ways, but i had my first love, and as the old saying goes "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all", i wouldnt change it for the world, three years is a long time and we had a great time, but he just wasnt the right person for me, but what oif he had of been?? and we hadnt of given it the chance and gone for it?? we could of missed out on sharing those three years altogether. Go for it. he doesnt have to be mr right, but he may be mr right now!

i say if you feel the same go for it! you neva know you might jus be ment for each other dont hold back jus coz u dont want to get hurt or are scared it could end bad. your relationship with grow & strengthen, my partner & i were besties for 4 yrs & he wanted to b wid me & i turned him down even thought i loved him for 8 months n now were happy as every and have been toget ehr for nearly 4 yrs. so if you do hav feling for him i say follow them

you should yourself about that question... maybe, you are just afraid to take an commitment., but you cannot just stick to that.. you should take the risk.. in loving, you will not just feel all the good one, you will, eventually feel the pain and be hurt.. just go with the flow... you'll never know, maybe you already let go the man you ever wanted...:)

It hurts to really let someone go despite of the feelings you have for him/her. However, I just totally wonder why would you let him go despite the fact that you love him? You didn't mention your reason in your discussion why you did that.