HELPLESS!!!!!!!!.....Nothing works........why??????????????????

Feeling so helpless - when dreams don't come true, do you feel helpless
@apsara60 (6612)
Israel
September 18, 2008 4:58am CST
Hi friends......Did you ever feel helpless in life, no matter in past or in present...Helpless when you tried very very hard to achieve something and yet did not succeed. So did you give up....or are you still trying.....does it make you angry....to me yes, it makes me very angry and frustrated.....why is life so difficult for some people...lol
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28 responses
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
18 Sep 08
HI DD We all have our problems, only thing is that mine is greater than yours. This is so true! Trust me we all go through problems, sometimes predicted, sometimes out of the way, sometimes strange and sometimes when you no clue. Life is a mystery and we would not find any answer (unless the scientists do with theirBig Bang upshot...). I think what makes us different is in the way we withstand the hurdles. I have into lot of problems and upsetting times. I did not know how to be happy. But see, here I am responding to yours. No one is indispensable and nothing is eternal. Difficulties come and go and we get to realise our worth. So, just chill, try to let go and fight it out. We have to use our strength, poise and brains or else they would go ashtray! Smiles....
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
Hi dear mimpi.....nice to see you. As usual, you have mentioned something very true, each one feels he is the most unlucky person and his problems are greater than anybody else..... Yeah I will not give up dear.........no way I am going to ashtray.... Thanks for always being there for me. Have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
19 Sep 08
Mimpi! You have learnt a lot from your experiences and have given some excellent suggestions in your response.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
18 Sep 08
Hi friend,Past 2 years am working hard to achieve ,but am not able to reach that aim.whatever I do everything results in failure.I wonder how is it even when we work hard somuch we are not able to attain.but am not able to change my way also to attain that goal.so becoming frustrated and getting wild.Am also in the same situation.lets wait and see,when god is going to help us.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
Dear friend.....you can feel how well I can understand your feeling as we both are sailing in the same boat.........I just wish that soon God takes pity on us and finally fulfill our long lasting wishes. Only trusting God and working hard with hope will bring us happiness so lets continue our struggle.....Thanks for your response and have a nice day.
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• China
18 Sep 08
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• India
18 Sep 08
even though i felt helpless i think god will help me. don't be angry. its bad to health/ lol.. just make your mind that you are doing a good work and at any cost you are going to achieve it. never give up if you are doing a good job. this is my principal. i won't sleep also till i achieve it. dudes cheers up.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
you are doing the right thing suprabha.......having faith in God and praying to him is only way to achive peace of mind...... we all are doing the same..............Thanks for your reply.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Sep 08
apsara oh yes right now, my son,our soul breadwinner is out of work, we have a three day notice, bills,no income and I as 82 yr old am handicapped and cannot work. so yes I feel very helpless and angry and upset as well God seems not to hear my prayers yet I do believe.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
I am reading your discussion after 4 days.......I am sorry,.......how are things now.......please don't feel sorry, you are 82 years old and I am sure you worked hard as long as you could work.......you have done your duty........it is not your fault.....I am sure your son will do something to meet two ends........God cares for everybody.....please don't loose hope....please don't feel helpless.......Have faith in God.
• Canada
18 Sep 08
be happy,everyday people fail at things. , but we are all the best at somethinig and that is being ourselves, the things that make us unique. dont be so hard on yourselve and try and enjoy life. later
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
I will try to do that friend........thanks for your reply.
@balasri (26553)
• India
18 Sep 08
Yes I too have gone through this phase in my life.In fact every body goes through this rut.But only a few like me and you accept it without any ego.And I know this is all a passing phase.Hope and good news usually comes from out of the blue from a new contact when our turn comes in the fortune wheel.It is a matte of time before the gaze of the God falls on us.This is my personal experience.Your day will come and you are going to remember me on that day.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
Dear Bala, I am feeling as if it is not you but some God's messenger who is speaking to me....your words sound so pure and holy that it makes me feel that soon my wishes will come true.....I think God choose you to speak with me.....I hope your words will soon come true bala.......I hope finally God's gaze will fall on me and me and my family will be blesses...Thanks for such a positive reply Bala, I really feel much lighter now....... ab aru kya khauoo" Tumhare moh meh ghee shakar."....Thanks for your reply.....Have a great day and great life.........
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
yes many many times in my life...im having problems financially reslly and also taking care of my three small kids...if do not ever want help from my family i will never have to come to them and help me but for now i am just helpless...and when im really hurt i cry inside the bathroom...this is happening very much often lately.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
andak dear.......I can understand how you feel.....specially when you have small kids for whom you are the only hope and happiness. This is time to make adjustments dear.....if family is helping you...do take help from them for your kids.....God will change your time from bad to good.....so trust him.....don't cry dear, instead take good care of your health, because you have to stand strong for your children.......soon children will grow and become strength for their dear mother , it is just matter of time so.....be strong and leave the rest to God
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• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
hi apsara 14 years (1993 ~ 2007) lost just like a dream, my whole youth gone ... Now I dont even remember what it was like ... The one mistake i did was to fall in love .... although i love him dearest and he is now my husband .. for those 14 years i suffered, begging him to marry me i was so stupid i just did not want to give up easily i wanted to win the challenge.. He did so many things for his family said no to me.. my parents were hurt along the way .. i fought with my brothers and sisters , my friends called me stupid and ask me to leave him ... he was enjoying life with this friends, drinking. Suddenly there was a period of him becoming so devoted to god ... so much money he lost in investing (listening to so call friends) ... THE MAN HAD ONLY HIM ON HIS MIND AND I WAS STUPID TO WAIT FOR HIM .... Yes !! finally i won but i lost my youth and i will never get it back ... I do not want to think of anything bad ... Today he is my husband, changed person at his own will .. fought agaist his family after 14 years, we were married last year .. we had 3 grand wedding dinners inclusive a hotel dinner, my home and his home Well, my religion helped me ... as it was my KARMA and i have to go through it ... and he was my soul mate .. Now i dont even remember the small details of those years
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
There is so much pain in your response. We girls are so emotional and make so many mistakes in life......sanjana... I will now tell you only one thing.....like your forgot so many things.....also forget that you made this mistake....just try to enjoy what you have now.....you lost your past, now don't loose your present....do you have children, I think you should quickly plan for a child and that will fill rest of your life with happiness. If you have good news , do let me know so that I will also be happy for you. God bless you dear. Thanks for your reply. ah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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@mayka123 (10756)
• India
18 Sep 08
Yes I do feel frustrated and helpless at times..almost feel like giving up. But then I look around and see that there are others who are suffering more and that makes me feel that I am much better off than them. Ofcourse there are times when I do feel helpless and then I just get angry or sometimes cry.....
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
Yes mayka dear, You have said the truth. We are just deceiving ourselves by saying that atleast we are better than others etc etc, but deep inside we know that we are killing ourselves feeling helpless, tears do roll down our eyes but we wipe them even before they can dry.....lol. Life indeed is not very cool......... Thanks for your reply dear. Let's both have a nice day.
@mayka123 (10756)
• India
22 Sep 08
If life gives us rocks Dont sit back and blame life for that At every turn of our life It gives us choices which we fail to recognize So when life gives us rocks Its still your choice whether To build a wall or to build a bridge.....
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
No wall and no bridge ,,,,,I just want to build a house dear....only a little decent house, which I want to decorate with my love and affection so that it will become home sweet home for me and my family.........but when.......when dear.....when will I do that.....my children want to leave the nest and fly...and I have nothing to offer to them, nothing to stop them .....feel so helpless dear.......
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
You are helpless if you are in a situation that you can't do anything at all to help. That doesn't mean you are useless, it just that in that particular situation, you can't do anything to help. Yes it is frustrating for me or for anyone. But I think life is difficult for some people because they chose a difficult life. And instead of doing something to get out of that situation, they are either wasting their time dwelling on their "messed-up" situation or too scared to take the risk of making changes in their life (staying in their comfort zone). Almost in any situation, the World Wide Web is there to help us. Whether we admit it or not, solutions to our problems may be available online :D
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
you mean if I am going to ask for financial help online they will help me........if yes then will you please help me by giving such websites.....I don't much hope they will help....but I will try if you are so confident.......Thanks for your
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
well for financial problems, you can search the net for part-time/full-time/freelance jobs/business ideas/opportunities based on your skills, or you can ask for advice online - maybe the problem is just budgeting your expenses. maybe a complete stranger knows the solution to your problems. anyway i said "almost". there are situations that only you can resolve.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
21 Sep 08
yes I know this is a problem that only I can resolve.......thanks anyway.......
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
19 Sep 08
Hi Apsara Thanks God it never happened to Me Akllah is really kind to us and blessed us with every thing, Well, u should never give up and keep on working and work with determination and u never know whats lying for u in Next future so why loose hope Loosing hope mean loosing Faith in Allah. and u know its never Acceptable as Allah is always there to help us So dont be angry, dont be frustrated and think why u r not successful with cool mind and work hard with determination and with Faith in Allah God Bless U
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
Hi Cupid....Thanks for your blessings........yes I trust in Allah and he will surely listen to my prayers some day.....hopefully very soon........ Have a nice day.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
23 Sep 08
Sure Yaar He will listen to U Just Keep it up Best Regards
@SViswan (12071)
• India
18 Sep 08
yes, I have felt helpless and I do indulge in self-pity sometimes. But I do not give up (unless I really make up my mind that the particular thing is something beyond me). In fact, sometimes, it makes me more stubborn and I try harder to achieve what I want. My father has always taught me that the trying is more important than the gain or the win. And he always said that if one didn't fail, one would never know the sweet taste of success. And I believe that. There are so many things in my life that I am still trying for....even if it takes me years...I will still work towards it because I know I can do it.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
Dear Sandhiya.......I do believe every word of yours.......I know you are not weak and you will fight till the end........and so will I.........so lets gather new strength and start our struggle again.........nothing can stop our dreams from coming true.........have a nice day and take care dear..........
@SViswan (12071)
• India
22 Sep 08
Yes, Apsara. Sometimes, it just takes a little bit of moral support from our friends to keep us going. I know you will strive for the best...and am sure you will succeed. If ever you need someone to talk to...to lend the shoulder you need, you can count on me.
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
18 Sep 08
I believe in the dictum -"Either change the circumstances, or adopt to the circumstances". If I cannot change the circumstances, I better try to adjust to those cirumstances. Many a times I also feel helplessness in me, when I do not find things going my way, I try to reason out myself and try my best to find some solutions to the problems. If I cannot break the ice, I better make myself understand and come to terms with the realities. Life has to be on the move even if we feel helplessness.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
so you give up easily...lol........Just teasing you. Deepak, like you I have also adjusted with circumstance my whole life, but when you don't even get your basic needs, then it is really frustrating....... I have adopted to present circumstance and have also try to smile.....but I wish, I could make this smile real one coming from deep depth of my heart.... Hope some day I will really smile and world will smile with me...Thanks for your reply........have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
19 Sep 08
LOL! Adjustment may not be equated with giving up. I can understand your feelings. May one day you get all the happiness you are hoping for and I also wish I could be there to share your happiness.
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
This is what we called life. Of course we have ups and downs in life. Keep on trying and don't ever give up,maybe these are all the challenges which god gives you. You can see the failure as a chance to learn,you would be feel better in this way. Good luck.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
Yeah this is life........I agree........will keep going as long as I can.......thanks for your reply and have a nice day.
@mrsjbelle (1641)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I feel that way to. But please don't beat yourself up about it. Try to look on the bright side. I feel talking helps. Do you have any trusted friends or family members? You did not mention what your frustrated about. Could it be work? Friends? Boyfriend? Hang in there.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
Thanks for your positive reply.......I will try my best.....have a nice day.
• United States
18 Sep 08
Sometimes, yes, I do feel helpless and I feel like a failure, but I always get back on my feet. We can be pushed down several times, we can fail over and over again, but if we get back on our feet and do what we need to do, then we can get somewhere. Everyone has failures in life, but it is what we learn from those failures that makes us stronger human beings.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
yes friend.......failure do make us strong.....and surely we should keep going on....but sometimes I feel.......how long.......how long it will take.....hope our wishes will be fulfilled before we leave this world.......time is running friend.....can't stop time.......can we........??????????. Thanks for your reply.
@Vrbani21 (197)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
18 Sep 08
Just give up who cares
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
Hi Vrbani.......it is easy to give up if your demands are just limited to youself.....but if happiness of your children and your family effects , then it is not easy to give up.....only smile on lips of your loved ones can make you smile. This is what is called bounding.........it is not easy to give up.........thanks for your reply.
@sirnose (2440)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Yes,and for some unknown reason i always find a way to snap out of it.As long as you are breathing i don't think most of us give up and are still trying to make sense of what life brings to the table...I believe in the boy's and girl's scout motto "be prepared" that all anyone can do about this life we dwell in.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
hi sirnose, nice to hear about scout motto " Be Prepared" I was also a guide and together with scouts of our school we went for so many camps and hiking.......gone are those wonderful day.............Thanks for reminding me.....yes I will not give up........I will be prepared........Have a great day friend.
• Australia
18 Sep 08
Yeah i hate when you really want something or really try for something and still don't get it, or circumstances shange making goals out of reach. I have felt failure i hate it. I suppose i keep trying, not always at that goal. I dont lose my determination, just feel embarrassed and dissapointed.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
22 Sep 08
Yes most of us are like you friend, feel disappointed and depressed, yet keep trying.......life is a struggle and we are struggling........have a nice day and thanks for your reply.
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I always did, life is unfair. I don't want to be negative here, actually i posted before a topic about my life and even want to end my life because life is full boredom. Maybe we do take things uneasy, or we are very sensitive? I don't know what to do too, I hate life. I almost think life is full of 99% problem and 1% happiness. I wish someone can enlighten us. Presently, there are still many problems ahead of me and I am still hurt, but I still live to the fullest and do what I can do to improve my life, I am still hopeful but still have thoughts that life is unfair.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
18 Sep 08
Dear grecy, You will not believe, my 17 year old son speaks exactly like you.......he sees no point in life...only boredom....... and I tell him "life is what we make it".......but to you I cannot say the same, as we have enough experiences of disappoint in life.....you know grecy, I sometimes think, why are people bringing so many children in this world.....what future is here.....lots of unanswered question are hindering us, but we are again helpless and can do nothing. Thanks for your reply dear and you are appreciated for your hard struggle for survival.......