How you manage when the child adamantly wants some thing during shopping?

@sivanj (1263)
India
September 19, 2008 9:27pm CST
This is common that children make some adamant request to buy soemthing they like when we go for shoping. Assuming that you are ready to buy that item for some good reson. How good are you in managing them? What will you do to keep down their adamant request. Will you beat the child?
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6 responses
• United States
20 Sep 08
Hitting a child never solves anything. The best thing to do is to not start buying the child the same thing during shopping trips. It gets them used to getting it all the time so they get frustrated when they don't get it and throw a fit. Better yet, the best thing to do is to NOT take the children shopping with you in the first place if you can help it. That will cut down on your temptation to buy them something to keep them happy and it will cut down on the chances of them throwing a temper tantrum when they don't get what they want.
@heaven11 (1161)
• United States
20 Sep 08
no i wouldnt beat them . i have that poroblem quite often but i have somewhat got my son to realize if you ask once and i say no i have a very good reason but if its something he wants really bad he will begg and beg but i do not give in
@k1tten (2321)
• United States
20 Sep 08
I don't have children but I definitely wouldn't beat my child if they did that. Children really learn nothing with being beaten. It only harms the child. I would try to get on their level and try to explain why they can't have what they want. If that doesn't work then I'd remove them from the shopping trip. I would literally stop shopping or have my spouse take them out of the store.
@relundad (2312)
• United States
20 Sep 08
Beat the child? Why would that be an option. It is understood in my household that I am the final decision. My son knows that he can ask for anything that he wants and either I am going to get it or not. If not is my answer, then there is no discussion. I've watched kids have tantrums and fall out in the floor because they want something that the parent isn't willing to or can't get. The child normally acts this way because at some point it got him the results that he wanted.
• United States
20 Sep 08
I definitely wouldn't beat the child. It's normal for children to request things during shopping trips; after all, they don't know whether or not they have it unless they ask. If I know going into a store that I will not be purchasing anything for my children, I tell them so. I also try to steer clear of the toy section and other areas where they are likely to find something they want. Once they start asking, you must be firm in telling them no, but calm, and not mean. If they keep asking, you speak a little sharper. If they start to get upset, remove them from that area and away from the item in question - they will calm down soon enough. I usually get my kids away from the item and then explain to them that although we won't be able to buy it today, I will keep the item in mind for the future - birthdays, holidays, etc. It usually helps to let them know that even though the answer is no this time, they may be able to have the toy eventually - as long as they are able to calm down and behave respectfully.
• Canada
20 Sep 08
OMG NO I would never beat my child for any reason . I have found that if you stand firm on what you have said that it works best . I remind my children that if they kick up a fuss in the store that they will be taken to the car and will remain there until I am done , if no one else is with me then I turn around and go home . I won't leave my children in the car alone . They also know that if they land in the car for causing a ruckus in the store that the next time I am going somewhere , they are not coming with me . They enjoy coming with me when I go some place so they are always pretty good in the stores with me . The little one's do not leave my side and the older children understand that no is no and if they do act up , which they have on occasion with the , " but why , I really want it " , then they do not come again for any reason .