why do our kid/s has more respect to their father?

@bombshell (11266)
Germany
September 21, 2008 7:09am CST
my little one sometime dont listen to me.it needs 3 times repeat till she is listening to me but to her dad only looking thru the eyes or one talk tehn she listen to her dad why is that?
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@pkraj111 (2459)
• India
21 Sep 08
I think it is because children are taught so. When a child does a mistake the mothers often say wait till I your father knows that. This creates more fear in the child.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
hmmmmm more like.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
21 Sep 08
its a sad that that moms talk more than dads, that mom's sometimes will let them do things even if they say no - if dad says no - his next step will probably to get up and stop it - and then she won't be happy.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
yeah i guess most of the mothers do that i am one of them.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Sep 08
r some reason she tends to listen to him maybe she is a little afraid of him. If grand daughter dont listen to her mom her mom starts counting before she gets to 3 grand daughter does what she is to do. Her daddy dont make her mind!
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
uhhh i see.yes she is afraid coz if daddy gets angry and dad is very seldom to get angry.and being a mom sometimes cannot resist.i said no, but i´m still buying it.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
22 Sep 08
When saying no ya have to mean it and stick to it. No matter how sweet they act to get thier way sounds mean when I write it but thats how it is. I tell grand daughter no and she goes to someone else ususally daddy lets her. lol
@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I think dads are more intimidating to a child. Maybe it's the tone of their voices or the fact that mom is ther more and they learn to tune mom's voice out. Especially young children.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
22 Sep 08
hmmmmmm...you are right in that direction too thank you.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
22 Sep 08
My daughter also in the same way with me as a Father who only one call as quick as she can she will go fast but if I will be the first person but if it is her Mother she will answer if you will call her by her name but not going as quick as I call her maybe I think it is because of the Masculinity reason or maybe it is because my Daughter is also a daddy's girl........
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
22 Sep 08
yeah i guess thats the reason"daddy´s girl"
@mands61123 (2098)
22 Sep 08
I think it all depends on who enforces the rules who is stricter etc i don't have children but my pets are all more obedient for me where as my boyfriend lets them get away with stuff and has less time with them as he works. He isn't a strong enforcer of rules he's very laid back and tends to see things as funny where i will not accept it and wll work with them to teach them good/bad etc. Hence i'm kind of the boss and they show me more respect don't know if i explained it clearly but thats what i'm trying to say.
22 Sep 08
ps. sorry just had to add that i am still scared of my mother now (i'm 27) i stopped being scared of my dad at around 7 he moved out shortley after and i didn't see him for a while then started reguarily visiting on weekends. My mum raised me and I spent more time with her but i know when she says it she means it i guess it's just the stronger, more powerful personality that gets the respect.
@lkoenig07 (289)
• United States
21 Sep 08
Me and my siblings were the same way with our parents. When my mom would get mad at us, we'd laugh at her (I know it sounds mean). My dad would tell us to do something once and we'd listen. Maybe you're not as tough on her as her father is?
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
i am tough but i guess she knows thats only in my mouth not deep in my heart.and sometimes i dont keep my promises like i said to her,i dont buy toys or dress if no ocassion but cannot resist to my girl.
• United States
21 Sep 08
i think its because they arent around their dad enough to know how far they can push his buttons.. i was raised and not around my dad since he was the only one working and he had a temper so i never knew how much i could ask and i was obeying out of fear.. but even if he hadnt had a temper its not like i knew if i could get away with things as much just because i wasnt around him as much.. my mom i knew how far and what the concequences were lol
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
yeah you are right while reading your reply i am imagining of my little girl if she is asking something to buy like "bratz" .her dad said no!there is no ocassion! then she appproach me and try to negotiate me.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 08
I think it is the stern look of a man and the less presence of their father at home that drives the children in fear of their dad. Like us we are always around the children and this makes them less fearful of us. With one word their dad say my children will keep quite and behaved well. But when I say something it is just like a passing breeze. I think children are all the same when it comes to the different attitude towards each parent.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
yeah thats the situation of me just like you.only the look of the eyes of her dad and she behave but me?as you said like passing breeze.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
21 Sep 08
Perhaps men are stricter with children than mothers. But it does not mean that the kids do not respect their mothers. Children just play with the feminine emotional aspect of their mother and try to use it at their own advantage. Men are also looked upon as authorities in certain countries and therefore it lays upon them the onus of handing discipline when necessary.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
yes i agree.father is very seldom to get upset but wait if he is angry maybe thats the reason and i dont keep my promises.like i said to her i dont buy toys anymore but sometimes i cannot resist for my girl.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
21 Sep 08
[i]Hi bombshell, hahaha...I remember I am like that to my Dad and Mom before..LOL! Maybe because Mom is soft and more understanding and tendency is that they have all the patience for the kids, Dad is more disciplinarian![/i]
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
yes che hubby is very strict.and me i dont keep my word thats my problem.like i said to her if she dont behaved no buying but sometimes i cannot resist my girl.so maybe thats the reason for it.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
21 Sep 08
i think it's the tone of our voices.. we have a deeper and louder tone. plus i know my kids did they knew i had no problme with spanky them and my wife wouldn't
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
hmmmm right..
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
i think i am not one of those har har har. my son is more respectful to his mom. my wife disiplines him so when the voice of my wife change to angry mode my child will obey everything she says. well maybe when he is big enough that is the time that he will be respectful to me than to his mom. i dont know i have to wait and see.