Do you believe in Net love?

Japan
September 21, 2008 10:03pm CST
Do you believe falling in love on net could work? Is it possible you will have a happy ending or even meet at all? Ive heard,read, and seen on tv about ppl who met on net and eventually fall in love..some end up marrying each other and some dont. I did fell in love on net not only once and i did met the guy but we ddnt end up together.. i was confused about my feelings coz i was so in love with him before and then after a time that he comes rarely on net coz hes finishing his masters...i fell out of love. Even till now he cares for me but my old feeling isnt there anymore. I think I only fell in love with him coz he was with me then everyday on net.Did i really love this guy or it was just coz he was there?
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Hard to say if you truly loved him or not. It's very possible that you did I met my wife online, at a site where we both have journals that people can come and comment on. We met through a mutual friends journal and became friends. We knew each other a couple of years before we actually talked to each other on the phone and then more months went by before we met in person. Now, we've been together for the past six years and all is very well. (Except for mornings when I turn into Mr. grumpy ) Thanks for accepting my friend request
• Japan
22 Sep 08
wow! thats nice...i ddnt have tht much luck..your welcome
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Don't feel bad, I didn't have that much luck with the first time or two either. But, I never gave up hope
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
22 Sep 08
It can be very dangerous when meeting someone from the internet. You should always say that you must meet in a very public place where there are lots of people around to help you if the guy turns out to be too scary. Tell him flat out that you don't want to get in his car and explain why. He should understand. If he doesn't show some signs of caring, he isn't after love
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
22 Sep 08
It is possible to fall in love online. My partner and I met each other in a chat room over 8 years ago. We chatted for weeks, then talked on the phone, and finally met in real life. We've been together 8 years now. We've had our rocky moments, but then any relationship does I know.
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• Japan
22 Sep 08
waaaaaaaaah now im jealous..your very lucky
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• South Africa
22 Sep 08
wow thats nice i am also dating someone from the net but is kind of challenging but i am happy for you
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
yes i believe on that. coz u know im falling in love with this guy through chat. although i dont see him personally but he will visit me soon. but everyday we use to chat and call me. i think you still love him, just hold on and understand him as he finish his masteral and think that this is for your future....
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• Japan
22 Sep 08
i dont know..i always end up getting irritated when we talk coz he also had the case of short term memory...he keeps asking same questions over and over again..which i already answered..i guess he forgots about it coz it has of no significance or importance to him.
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I think it's possible. Love can start at stranger places and unexpected circumstances. Although for online relationship, it may seem harder because you do not really know the person at first and you have to earn the person's trust because you can start having a real relationship. Aside from that, most online relationship would result into a long distance relationship which is another difficult thing to work on. I think it's a matter of being willing to put in effort to make a relationship work out.
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• Japan
22 Sep 08
yes i think its true..in my case i really want it to work but the guys is so immature..guess i fell in love coz he was my knight in shining booter!...lol..
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• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I'm not really sure if you fell out of love because he was not the man on the net anymore which fascinated you at first. Changes are bound to happen, they're inevitable and maybe you are undergoing some changes as well. As for online love, yup, I do believe it happens. My bestfriend met her husband in the net 12 years ago. They're happily married for almost a year now. I don't think it's a question of where you met him or her, I do believe it's the question of falling inlove and staying inlove with him or her. I happen to be one of those who fell hard for a guy online and well, though it didn't work out, I still consider him the only man I ever loved so crazily...
• Japan
22 Sep 08
awww...well goodluck..i hope you will find your mr. right
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• Philippines
22 Sep 08
i do believe in online relationship and i once fell in love with this guy and had an affair for almost 4 years with out seeing each other in person. i even cut classes every time he is online especially after our fights. we greeted each other in every special occasions like our birthdays, xmas, newyear, valentines, and monsarry-- i am very strict when it comes to celebrating it. we celebrated our monsarry for 2 days since we have different time zones, in every 8th and 9th of the month. though we broke up, i treasured those moments that we shared, i will always remember how he cooked and ate in front of the camera.. it is not impossible to fall in love even here in the internet..in your case i think you almost fell in love but the communication stopped so that seed of admiration did not grow, he could have cultivated it with thoughtfulness and care. but its ok, whether here online or there nearer your place,if someone is destined to be yours, he will really come. "love, love, how mysterious love is"
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• Japan
22 Sep 08
wow that is a very good response..thnx i think your right
@lenith (1222)
• India
22 Sep 08
It was just an urge to be with someone. kick him away n get new one. ;))
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• Japan
22 Sep 08
ahahaha...your crazy..lol your the new one hahahaha!
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@vivapinay (232)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
I fall in love in the net as well. I had this profile online in AOL before and got a lot of friends. But i fall for 2 guys, of course one at a time. We emailed and chat everyday, sharing accomplishments, problems and our day to day activities. But later on when we were both busy, i fall out of love. Happy mylotting!
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• Sri Lanka
22 Sep 08
I think you fell in Love. However, it could be less than that also. Something like a friendship beyond a normal friendship. Love on the net is dangerous. You don't know who is at the other side. There are many cheatings. On the other hand if you really fall in Love on the net it can always be a true Love. The reason is you are not falling in Love for the apearence. You get the opportunity to know each other better before you fall in. That is the good side of it. There are situations where cyber love has succeeded. I read such instances of my myLot friend as well. However, cyber love also depends on how much you spend with the Internet. When you leave Internet you tend to loss all connections and that's why you would have lost feelings for him.
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• United States
22 Sep 08
Online relationships are really no different than other relationships. Some work, some don't. It has little to do with the method of communication. People fall in and out of love all the time.
• Japan
22 Sep 08
well online relationship is different coz you cant see the person even if you want to..most are long distance relationship so its quite different. On net people can just change id and you wouldnt know them even if they are under your nose
• United States
22 Sep 08
So? People in real life lie all the time.
• Japan
22 Sep 08
at least in real life you are face to face with that person..on net..u cant get your hands on him even if you want to..hahaha
@palonghorn (5485)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Sounds like you already answered your question, appears you were 'in love' with him because he was there everyday online. I never tried any of the 'dating' sites, however, I did meet a guy online 3 1/2 years ago, we were in a chat room that pertained to our respective jobs. I sent him a private im and all I said was 'I like your sense of humor', we had been joking back and forth in the chatroom. We ended up chatting in im for 6 hours that evening. The next day he gave me his work number and I called and we talked for a little while. Of course it did cross my mind 'why his work phone and not home phone...... he's probably married' lol The next day he gave me his home phone, and I gave him mine. Three weeks after we met online he was flying across country to meet me, we spent a week together. A month after he had flown back home, we were making plans for me to move to his state. Him moving was not an option at that time in his career. We have been together ever since, and still going good. So, while it can happen, it's not for everyone, and you have to be very careful as there are a lot of people who, for whatever reason, do not show their true selves online. It's too easy for many to be something they are not while they are chatting online.
• Japan
22 Sep 08
thnx..i think i had experienced enough already. I will be very carefull
@Jamian (2605)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I don't believe on that, that is not a real love, that is just a temporary attraction, real love is in relationship that started many years ago thru trials
• United States
22 Sep 08
I completely disagree with you. Completely.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
Though there's no real formula to love, we should always be cautious on who we give out our heart. Falling in love is one of the greatest feeling one can get, but sad to say, many have also been hurt because of easily trusting people. One of the highly used mediums of today to gain relationships is the internet. I could really say that about 95% of people going online and using chatting sites and programs are there to look for their special someone. Though some are legit and sincere, there are many who are in it for money or for the sake of gaining a lot of so-called girlfriends or boyfriends (they're just collecting). The problem with these types of relationship, is that you can't really see the person for who he/she is. Yes, there are webcams and they could send out pictures, but by my own experience, I'd say there is around 85% chances that how they look online isn't how they look in real. Why 85% well, in my online life, I've met so many people already (most for friendship only a few for romantic links) and I could say not all of them look the same! True! When I met my fiance, yes I did meet him online, I swear he passed in front of me several times, and I honestly didn't notice it was him! Another problem posted to online relationships is the fact that your romantic flare is limited to the use of technology. You can't really smell the person, you can't really experience the 'feel' of how he/she is in real (unless of course when you do meet up). So, when they do decide to meet, there are overwhelming differences and some attitudes may be far from what is expected. One of my experiences on this is when I first met a friend. She was really very outgoing online, but when we met, we were as silent as the tombs. I guess it was because I expected her to be loud, that's why when we met and she didn't really talk much, I had second-thoughts of maybe I met a different person. Hahaha.. But the single most common problem online is the honesty factor. In one of my readings here online, I stumbled upon an article with regards to the psychiatric activity of a person online. It said that people tend to lie more online rather than in person. I can really say it's true because around 90% of those chatting online would say that their single when in fact they're married. Anyone who lacks beauty can become the Ms Universe online. Even men become women and women may be men online. Not to mention that there are far more incidents of betrayal and cheating done online than in real life. So, given these problems posted and more. Am I recommending or stopping people from falling in love online? No. As I first stated in this discussion, 'there's no right formula for love' each person has his/her own story of love, and who am I to tell them otherwise? right? But I do have to share tips for you guys/gals there who are meaning to find mr. right or ms. right online. Here there are: 1. Try not to expect too much. 2. Meet up before committing. 3. Take it slow. 4. Meet before committing. 5. Meet before committing. 6. Meet before committing. Hehe.. No, your eyes are not deceiving you, I did type 'meet before committing' several times because this is the best way for you to have a better relationship online. It's sad that most people have built their lives over someone online, only to find out after a long while, that the person (or our views on the person) doesn't really exist. I have a friend, who was so addicted with the online love, that when one of her suitors decided to send her a plane ticket to his place, she immediately jumped in and went there. To make the long story short, she got pregnant only to find out that the 5 kids in the guy's family home (with his parents and sister) was in fact his. And she didn't know that until she gave birth! Imagine the horror. And not only that, a wife existed too! So, before plunging into the love pool. Please take a moment or two to use your minds before your heart. Yes, we might feel that we're lacking time, or view that the fish in the ocean are starting to dwindle and there might no longer be someone for you. But remember that you are a person of worth and of course as one of the most famous songs I've listened to for quite a long time now says: LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF, IS THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL. Goodluck!
• India
23 Sep 08
i cant say its love or not but i can that if u both care for both and love each other then its a true of love but its depend on ur understanding how u can make ur lovely life its also depend on that man who loves u really or not but i think that mostly girls are honest about there love but the boys are player the play with feelings of girs i am also boy but i am not like that. firstly u should search he really loves u or not.
@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
I don't, when i was 17 years old i used to chat alot and there's this one guy that i always talk to. Lets just say we are a couple in a chatroom. The guy was also a Filipino who works abroad and is 6 years older than me. After months of talking we came to point where we do not communicate at all then one day he called me up and told me he is coming home and he wants us to meet each other. I never realized that he was serious with me. All the while i though that it was just a game since we are just communicating through internet. I never believed in falling in love here. Happy mylotting!
@marzoeki (138)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 08
hmmm,, for me it's too hard too be realized,, for me,, internet can make a new friends,, but it's hard to make a new love,, so many fake identity here.. maybe love just for fun,, to say,, hay babe,, hay darling.. but it won't be so serious i think,,, so i dont believe it until now.. ^^
• United States
23 Sep 08
I believe you can fall in love on the net you fall in love with their personality which is a lot better than falling in love with looks cause they fade. It sounds like to me you put yourself up a wall not realizing it because he wasn't there as much. When you are on the net talking to someone a lot of people open up cause it is easier than when you person. You don't have the distraction of do I look ok am I smiling to much or not enough does he think I'm ugly and so on. People fall in love everyday on the net in some cases it ruins marriages cause they find someone else. There is the good side and the bad side the good is you don't have all the distraction as I have said. The bad side is that person can be acting and that is not who they are at all. On the net is not a guaranteed thing so their are many ways to look at it but in my final statement. Yes you can fall in love over the net.
@abhiroop85 (2828)
• Scottsdale, Arizona
23 Sep 08
yes , it is interesting ,if you are too shy to say hi kind of person this is actually for you, whenever we chat with someone and get personal with the person chatting with,a feeling may come ,but i am not sure if it is love,love has some deep meaning ,it dose not come so easily.
22 Sep 08
Over the internet there are a lot of restrictions and barriers. People cannot experience the other persons personality over the net so you can't get to know the other person intimately. There are a lot of barriers to cross but eventually you can get to know someone well enough to fall in love with them over the net... I mean look at World Of Warcraft...
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Hi , of course it is possible to fall for someone here online . you get to know the real person and sometimes it is easier to be more open and speak more freely and go deeper . once you meet if there is a connection there will be one in real life, but sometimes not you just have to see . also remember what made ya like the person in the first place . i have many great friendship here on the net that have went great in real life too . i started talking to my fiance 8 years ago online , so that worked lol . just gotta see and always be safe .