When I say I turned it on, does it mean I have to answer it all?
By pehpot
@pehpot (4762)
Philippines
September 22, 2008 3:45pm CST
OK guys a lot of you know that I turned all my friends notification (if not all 200 at least) oh well, some of the discussions I found, I really don't know the answer and some offended me and some, I already made a similar topic (and sometime almost the same as mine) and some I just have no interest in answering. Now my problem is, I feel guilty when I don't post a response on it. The first few days I turned it on i was like answering all of the discussions even topics I am not aware of. but as days pass by and my inbox about to burp, I started deleting some discussions that I cannot answer, well more than half of it were deleted and I notice that I have some friend that the discussions they started are of no interest to me (like ptc types of topic) and some as I have said made discussions that are similar to what I had before.
So guys do you face the same problem as mine? do you feel guilty when you cannot answer friend's discussion?tell me what you think.
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17 responses
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
22 Sep 08
I am amazed that you have still managed to keep notifications ON pehpot! Mine were tunred off within a week of me joining because I was going crazy. I honestly never expected that you would hang in there for this long! 
I wouldn't feel guilty if I was you. It is almost a human impossibility to respond to ALL of them!
I wouldn't feel guilty if I was you. It is almost a human impossibility to respond to ALL of them!2 people like this
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
of course not. if you find the discussion interesting then go respond to it. if you dont know what they are talkng about feel free without guilt not to respond to it. i do that. when they ask about spouse i dont response. i am a single parent. if they ask about cat or dogs, i dont respond for i dont have any pets. but sometimes i feel sad that some of the friends i have on my friends list does not respond on the discussion i am starting. oh well as long as i know what your discussions are all about then i will respond to it. like this one. 
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
22 Sep 08
I do feel bad when I can't find a way to respond to one of my friends because it would be nice to respond to all of them but there is no way I would be able to respond to everyone . I have over four hundred friends and like you said some of them you just don't know what to say or you have already answerd a topic like it how many times already that day .
I don't have mine set for my email and answer right from Mylot itself and try to answer as many as I can but there would never be a day that I would be able to answer them all so even though I feel bad , I feel that others must run into the same problem :)
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@ferdzNK (3211)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
We're only human my friend Pehpot. We certainly could not answer them all especially those that has mature contents - these are too much for us. We'll just have to do the best effort for these things, we have to consider too quality responses, aren't we? And I certainly know what you mean with having an inbox full of them. Enjoy myLotting my friend.)
. We certainly could not answer them all especially those that has mature contents - these are too much for us. We'll just have to do the best effort for these things, we have to consider too quality responses, aren't we? And I certainly know what you mean with having an inbox full of them. Enjoy myLotting my friend.)1 person likes this
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
yes it is, back when I first turned it on, I really made an effort to answer discussions even though I have no idea what is it, I do research sometimes, but when I am here for a long, sometimes my mind is not working anymore, and even discussions that I can relate to I have a hard time responding.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Sep 08
no, i dont feel guilty. some just dont interest me and i feel other of their friends will answer. therefore, i rush through my mail to see, then answer what i can, delete others. and all my friends are notification on.
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I have my notifications turned off on all of my freinds. I was overwhelmed with new topic in my inbox everyday. Besides, I am not interested in most of the topics my friends write. I only answer ones that I have knowledge in or am interested in.
I go into my friends topics through mylot now. It is easier for me. I noticed that most of my friends don't respond to me so I don't feel guilty about it.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
hello there friend! i have to answer your post...its like paying you back..you have been answering my posts all around and im very glad that you are....as to your question..in my personal opinion i do not have to answer all..its not in mylot rule to answer back..its really up to you if you find the discussions of your friends..interesting to you or not...i turned off most of my friends notification...my inbox drowned already.hehe.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
I try and answer my friends discussions if I can but I do not feel guilty about the ones I do not respond to as they do not all respond to mine. I do not see the point in trying to respond to a discussion if I cannot contribute useful information. I do not think I am doing my friends any good by just responding for the sake of responding.
There are so many discussions on mylot and I only get time to answer a few of them. I had my notification turned on for a while but it there were too many emails to get through. I check my friends discussions under the friends section in the discussions area so I know what they are posting and I respond if I can.
@Foxfire1875 (2010)
•
23 Sep 08
I do feel guilty if I can't respond to a friend's discussion if I have no opinion or no nothing on the subject but I hope they understand that.
I start discussions that I know some friends won't be able to respond to and I don't mind at all if they don't respond and hope they feel the same.
What makes me feel more guilty is if I've missed a discussion I can respond to just because I have so many friends now the discussion drops down before I see it.
I would like to take the opportunity here to say if any of my friends have a 0 response discussion they know I could respond to please please pm me.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
That was so nice of you my friend, yeah that one part where you miss an interesting topic of a friend, as of now I am sorting out my mail and see if a friend has topics that are of no interest in me, when I see that more of a friends topic is no interest or no relation tome, I might just turn off their notification.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
NO don't feel so guilty. Mylot is about sharing your opinions as well as not sharing them if you don't want to. I really don't feel guilty not answering. What would make me feel guilty is that if I answered but really didn't know the answer, I might be providing wrong info on the person who started the discussion.
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
hi there pehpot. as you know im just new. i have added several friends and i noticed my inbox unread message is getting higher. as of now, i made a separate folder for myLot messages, so automatically all messages from myLot will be transferred there. I havent open all the messages, its just there unread. I immediately delete messages that says im approve or there is a friend request since i can also see it here at myLot. I also delete those messages that says somebody responded to my discussions. so maybe you can also do the same, so you will not get confused in your inbox. take care
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Hmm, a separate folder is actually a good idea. I think it's just me but I don't like seeing unread messages in my inbox. With the number of friends one has here on myLot, I think I'd go crazy just looking at the boldfaced unread messages/notifications in my email.
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
24 Sep 08
I have all the notifies turned on too. And you are right, it is impossible to answer all of them because you simply do not know what to say to many of them. :) You don't have to feel guilty for not answering. It is perfectly normal and natural not to answer all your friends' discussions.
Cheers and happy mylotting
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
26 Sep 08
I too turned on all my frenz notifications in mylot, and i too dun respond to them all, because some of those discussions are not to my interest and i dun really know what to comment too ^_^ Since that's the case, i will just leave it, and carry on to other discussions ^_^
Though we may be frenz, but not all frenz share the same interest, so it's understandable, and unless your frenz responded to all of your discussions and yet u din manage to respond any to theirs, then in a way, u might feel guilty..
Other than that, there's no reason for u to feel so ^_^
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
4 Oct 08
I had all my friends notifications turned on until very recently, but an overflow in my inbox just made it impossible for me to get through them all. I have turned all mine off for the time being until I have caught up with all the ones I have. I cannot answer every single discussion that a friend sets, sometimes it is just impossible and yes I do feel guilty but if I were to answer to it then it would just sound daft because I would not be knowing what I was putting and so it would just be a load of rubbish.
