Are you outgoing or are you shy?

@BriNbai (912)
United States
September 22, 2008 3:53pm CST
I would say I am an outgoing person.When I walk into a room I try to meet a least one new person and I am always introducing myself and talking to strangers.The funny thing is I wasnt like this when I was younger. As a kid I used to hide behind my mom whenever we went anywhere and If someone tried to talk to me I would literaly cry.LOL i was SHY!..When I got little older and started going to school I slowly started to be less andless shy and Now I would say I am pretty outgoing. :] How about you?are a shy or outgoing person?or does it depend on the situation?How about as a child?or a teen?
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@vimaal (3365)
• India
30 Sep 08
Hi brinbai, iam not a shy person. Iam a outgoing person.take care.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
1 Oct 08
That sounds good. Outgoing people are fun to be around :] thanks for responding!
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I am very outgoing and friendly. I mingle very well in a crowd and very often am the life of the party. Don't have a phoney bone in my body and do genuinely love people and the interaction for me is very satisfying. I, like you, was so shy as a kid. Most of this shyness came from my home life. My mother always told me I talked too much so as I entered junior high and high school, I didn't say much. Once I graduated, began working, entered college, I changed drastically. My confidence grew and I blossomed into being a young woman who understood the concept that others wouldn't hurt me emotionally. I ran with that theory and have lived this life ever since and am loving each day.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Well I am glad that you were able to get out from your shell and enjoy crowds the same way that I do. It seems like mostly everyone who is now outgoing was aat one pooint really shy. well thanks for your response!
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I’m between the two. I’m neither a shy person nor an outgoing person. I could talk to strangers if they talk to me. I’m not the type of a person that starts the conversation; I’m more of a respondent type of person. I will answer there questions politely and if I find them nice, I could add them to my friend lists. Though I can entertain strangers, I don’t really like the idea of socializing. When in gatherings, I want to watch people rather talking to them.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I totally understand what youre saying. Sometimes I feel this way too. I would rather sit back and enjoy the atmosphere than to go and start conversations with strangers.But this is only some times LOL thanks for responding
@crazydaisy (3899)
• Canada
24 Sep 08
Yes I am very out going person I enjoy being around people they are allot of fun. cd
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I am glad to hear that:] I love your attitude. SOme people are just no fun to be around though LOL jk.
@chaska (170)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I would have to say I am a little bit of both. When growing up I was very shy and no matter what I tried to hide that. I forced myself to do things that shy people do not do. I was into sports and really active in school activities. I tried to be very socialable. As an adult I am still dind of shy however I know that with my job there is no room for it. I have to just put myself out there and not really worry about what people think. I do not do weird or bad things, but if it is something that I believe in I do not hold back I go for it. The worst thing that I think could happen is that I wanted to do something and did not try just because I inhibited myself. It is so true that sometimes the very worst enemy can be yourself. I consider myself to be a very bubbly personable person and love to be around people . Outgoing has been my hidden nature all this time.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Thanks for your response. I think that being if nott outgoing then at least social as the work place is very important because bosses look for that confidence. If youd dont hacve the confidence then they think that you wouldnt make a good leader and sometimes they dont give you promotions because of it:] !
@Metalchick (1387)
23 Sep 08
When I was younger I used to be a very shy person but as time goes on you kind of sus out how life works and you gradually come out of your shell. Although nowadays i'm louder and a little more raucous I do tend to have my quiet, shy moments when im in new situations i'm not comfortable with or if a guys flattering me with compliments which alot of the time I find awkward to accept because I never know how to reply. When im around new people, people i've never met before...I always find i'm quiet until I get to know them. Well unless i've been drinking then i'm oozing confidence and chatting away till my hearts content.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Yes I totally agree with you about being shy at first and coming out your shell.ANd I think everyone has their shy moments :] thanks for responding!
@lkoenig07 (289)
• United States
23 Sep 08
As a child and into my early teens, I was extremely shy. I think it was around my junior year of high school that I started opening up more & being more outgoing. Now I'm not totally outgoing all the time; it depends on the situation. I can be, but I can also be kinda shy. I am always very outgoing with my friends or people I know well though.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I am like this too.Sometimes when I am in a large group and I dont rreally know anyone I tend to be shy but then I start talking to someone and I become friends with them in no time:] But wit people I know its so easy to get along with them :]
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
23 Sep 08
i am outgoing person but i dont introduce myself unless they ask me. when i was a young girl i always hiding behind my mother but it was change when i start to work away from my province.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Im glad to hear that you are outgoing now..thanks for your response
• United States
23 Sep 08
It depends on the situation. I am usually a really outgoing person, when it comes to people that I know. If I do not know people, yes, I will be a little on the shy side, but if I see someone who looks pretty friendly, I will talk to them.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I think once in a while I feel the same as you, I get a little on the shy side if I dont really know anyone but then I just start talking to random people and I get over it LOL..:]
@anjielyn (535)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
When I was on teenage period I am very shy .... i don't know why? When my mother introduced me to anyone my cheek is blushing & my hands is chilling! But later on ... i found myself participated on any activities in my school. Socialized here & there ... like as "i don't want to missed a thing"
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Some teenagers are specially shy, But I am glad to hear that your were later able to enjoy your school expirience and join all the activities you wanted :]
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I'm actually both - outgoing AND shy. If I'm in a large group of people I'm shy and don't know what to do. If I'm standing in line at the checkout shopping I have no problem talking one on one to the clerk. Small groups I'm ok at being outgoing with. Larger groups and I tend to feel overwhelmed and turn into a wallflower. LOL
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Well I think can be intimitated with large groups of people.When Im in a situation like this I usually just start talking to one person and now its more like small groups of people rather than ONE large one LOL. Thanks for responding :]
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 08
Hi Brinbai, I would think I have a split personality ! If it's work, I really have no fear - I could walk up to a stranger at a seminar or exhibition, and start talking. And usually I am able to get the information I need. However if it's a social thing, I prefer to stand aside and observe people and happenings. If given a choice, I would not socialise after work; rather stay at home and do the things I like - reading, watching TV or myLotting!
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
How funny! well I am glad to hear that you do so well at work :]. As for social things its always nice to sit back and observe everything around you..thanks for responding :]
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Well, I guess it depends on the situation, to the people around me and my mood. When I was a kid I'm a really shy kid but I dont cry, I just smile and thats it. As I grew old, I encountered different people and personality so I guess I inherited some of their personality. There are times I'm out going and sometimes just kept silent. I realy don't approach strangers but when I need to approach them I have to especially asking directions. LOL!!! But I'm a bit choosy on approaching people. LOL!!!
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Some times I am choosy about who I start talking to too..LOL there are some weird people out there!LOL jk..Thanks for ur response!
@checapricorn (16069)
• United States
23 Sep 08
[i]HI Bri, I was extremely shy when I was younger, I don't talk to anyone I don't know and will not entertain guests even our relatives! But, I changed and improved my personality when I was studying specifically when I was in High School and College! It helps me build self-confidence and self-esteem![/i]
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Oh wow you were shy! I am glad its different now. I do believ its all about having confidence
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
23 Sep 08
i am quiet and mellow but i like meet people and socializing. when i was a kid i was very shy and refused doing anything oral reports. the first time i did an oral presentation was in my mba program. as i got older, i didnt care anymore.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I think we were all shy kids once , Like i said I was super shy And now I dont care Ill talk to anyone at anytime LOL..thanks for ur response :]
• Malaysia
23 Sep 08
Hey there, I am in fact, a very shy person and I am trying very hard to cure myself from these 'disease'. I am so shy that sometimes people think that I am arrogant because I seldom socialize. So, nowadays I try to focus on my job and try very hard to not be self-concious and just focus my attention to other things rather than thinking if people are looking at me etc. ^^
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I dont think people should think of you as arrogant just because you dont socialize.they should take the initiative to come and talk to you. :] But I also think you should start small by maybe just greeting one person a dday and go from there :]
• Canada
23 Sep 08
I would say I am more shy then outgoing . I used to be really shy until I worked at a call center a couple of years ago and somehow this helped my out with being shy and I am no longer as uncomfortabel around people I don't know then I used to be but I am still uncomfortable in a setting where there are many people I don't know . The more people I know in an area the more at ease I feel .
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Well its always ok to be a little shy as long as it doesnt stop you from doing everyday things and talking to people. i think it takes everyone a while to get really comfortable with others not just shy people.:]
@mhrmasum (678)
• Bangladesh
22 Sep 08
I AM ALWAYS A OUTGOING PERSON. In my childhood i feel shy but in teen it is changed
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
This is exactly how I was too :]
@littleone3 (2065)
22 Sep 08
I still can be shy at times but i do try to talk to people and make new friends. As a child i was painfully shy when i was at nursery i would only talk to one child. I would not even talk to the teachers. They actually thought that i could not talk. So my parents done a tape recording of me talking to prove to them that i could talk. I have found that once i get to know someone that i no longer feel shy with them.
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
How funny! I cant believe your parents had to prove that you can actually talk !LOL. I think when I was in preschool I only talked to the teacher for a while LOL..Well I am glad to hear that you are able to warm up to people and longer be shy. :]
@savypat (20247)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I am a very shy person that's why I like mylot so much, I don't really have to meet anyone, I just get to know them by writing to them. It works well for me.
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Well I am glad that mylot works for you :] I would ahve never known you were a shy person