I did a little research about the effectiveness of having friends here on mylot

@sbeauty (5870)
United States
November 6, 2006 7:46am CST
I just discovered something about my friends here on mylot...and it has been a sad awakening. I have been religiously going through all 62 of my friends and responding to at least one of their posts every day. However, then I got the idea of looking through my posts to see if they were helping me out in the same way. I was shocked to find out how few answers I had from them. I only went through the 20 most recent posts in the interest of time. I found that out of 132 responses and many other comments to these topics, only 21 responses came from my friends. 12 friends had responded to 1. 3 friends responded to 3. And I'd like to thank helpful_friend for responding to 5 discussions. My research showed me that only 16% of the responses to my most recent posts have come from friends. If they aren't there to help me out, why did they want to be friends. I thought that was the whole purpose of having friends was so that you could help each other.
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• Singapore
6 Nov 06
oh im sorry to hear that! That's really hurtful!
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Yes, it does hurt. It makes me feel like I'm being used just so they can add to their earnings. If we all made a point of responding to our friends' posts instead of just the general discussion board, we could really help each other out. Thanks for your kind respose!
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• United States
6 Nov 06
im so glad that you started this discussion i feel the same way used i have all these people on my friends list and they dont help me out.but i respond to there topics all the time. so i have been slowly but surley deleteing my friends list.
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• Singapore
7 Nov 06
after your discussion here, I made it a point to check through every single discussion from my friends and post in their discussion (try to reply as much as i can, that is)
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@marciascott (25554)
• United States
6 Nov 06
WELL I'M RESPONDING, I HAVE SO MANY FREINDS I CAN'T KEEP UP. I THINK YOU ARE MY FRIEND. I HALF TO GO BACK AND CHECK. HAVE A GOOD DAY!
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Thank you very much for responding. I don't believe that you are one of my friends, but I've read a lot of your posts and think you would make a good one. I try not to have any more friends than I can respond to each day. When I get to where I can't answer them all, I'll weed out the inactive ones and stop taking new ones.
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@Jellen (1852)
• United States
6 Nov 06
That brings me to a question. I get at least one friend request per day. I look at their profile first, and if it's not to scary, I agree to add. But I am like you in that I believe it is a way of piggy-backing into better profits. I wish we knew for sure. I for one, would like to move some "friends" off my page, but I do not wish to hurt feelings and I am not certain of the ramifications. What do you know about this?Also, I hope I am responding to your discussion. I believe you are one of my friends. I do the same technique as you do about responding to friends. You'd think more folks would do it. Friends are more partial and would be more apt to give a plus or a best response to someone familiar. Also, the discussion questions are so much better than the general selection.
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@frosthon (2250)
• Singapore
6 Nov 06
That's some very nice research you have got there. Sometimes, good intentions don't get any good results. But don't feel despair, just keep doing what you have done. I'm sure you will get your rewards very soon.
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Thank you for being such a sweetheart and cheering me up. Now THAT'S what friends are for!
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• United States
6 Nov 06
Well, you are part of my discussion group and if I have something relavent to say on any of your topics, I try to chime in. You are smart and outgoing. I enjoy your conversations.
• United States
6 Nov 06
Make sme wonder how many poeple in the discussion group even bother rating since so few actually respond.
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Thank you very much! I, too, try to answer all topics my friends post that I know anything about. I also rate responses, but I don't know how to tell if anyone is rating me. Do you know?
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@missybal (4492)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Well sorry for that, I allow friends because they can only send you personal emails if you are friends. I try to answer their questions also and some of them I answer a lot with but I only respond to questions that I have an answer for. I like to go to a persons list of questions and answer all questions that I have a response to right in a row so I may even leave a response to all of one persons questions. It works great for me. I will be now trying to answer as many of yours as I can.
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I liked your response and decided I'd like to have you for a friend. I'm planning to weed the people out of my friends list who never participate in my discussions and build a list of people who reciprocate and respond to my posts like I do to theirs.
@mshenzi (246)
• Kenya
6 Nov 06
Try having good friends like me. Not all friends are friends. Friendship withers like the roses only good wen u smell it. They were not ua friends but pretenders. I think now u know whom ua true friends are. Cheer up.i have one.(pity me)
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
I hope you're true to your word. I have requested that you become my friend. Thanks!
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
6 Nov 06
NO I DON'T HAVE YOU FOR A FRIEND DO YOU WANT TO BE MY FRIEND.
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Thanks for becoming my friend. I always like reading your responses!
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@tusharb (3159)
• India
6 Nov 06
oohh thats bad..
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Yes, it's a bit discouraging. If we don't help each other, how are any of us going to get ahead? Thanks for your response.
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
7 Nov 06
Well, I am going to work on going from Friend to Friend and see who responds to mine also... and respond to their. Lately I have been so Busy I have not been on here much at all. I am way behind with Posts right now, and I am working on it if it will ever display the stuff I have done correctly.
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
7 Nov 06
It's extremely hard to keep up with everything even working at it all day every day. I can't imagine how people who work elsewhere manage. I suppose the answer is that they don't. I had one gal yesterday who started replying to all of my posts. She generated more responses for me than I've had the rest of the time I've been here put together. My discussions had disappeared into that mylot la la land until she dusted them off and got them going again. If we all did that for each other, we could all do so much better than we're doing with our earnings. Thanks for trying!
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I am on your friends list and I have been responding =) I do that for everyone on my friends list
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I know. You are a wonderful friend. Thank you for everything you do to make mylot a quality site for everyone.
@Kerisa (55)
• United States
7 Nov 06
Hi I'm new here and I love your idea for friends helping each other out. I wasn't sure how to get earning. Do you also give your friends a + when you respond? Which area should you +, I see them all down the page?
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
7 Nov 06
Yes, I give a + to everyone who gives a meaningful response. To really get going you need to research the discussions that have already been posted, think of something new and different to post, and post a lot of discussions. Then you need to add friends who will help you get your discussions going. In turn you should help them get their discussions moving. By doing that you will help keep each other's posts in front of the membership to be responded to. If you have time, you also need to post to other topics you're interested in. It will keep you busy to be sure. You won't earn much, but these tips will help your maximize your mylot experience. Thanks for your response.
@flex90 (1443)
6 Nov 06
Aww, thats really sad. Maybe some of your friends just haven't got around to it. Maybe some of them do not even know that they were expected to do this. Give them a chance. If they can;t be bothered, then I think you shouldn't bother with them. This discussion might give them a slight nudge. I think it is great that you have been doing this by the way.
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I was hoping that this post would generate a little more feeling of helping each other by answering posts. I really think this is one of the secrets to success on mylot. Thanks for replying.
• United States
6 Nov 06
I started out responding to all my friends too. But not many respond back. I felt like i was wasting my time. so now i just respond to topics that interest me and hope they respond back.I am still enjoying myself here its lots of fun for me. If you want I'll add you to my friend list and make it a point to respond to your topics if you do the same for me!
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
7 Nov 06
Thanks for becoming my friend. Maybe we can get a group going who will actually answer each others' posts and help each other. I will make a point of answering as many of your discussions as I have time for and that I know anything about. I don't believe in going into a discussion and just saying "I don't know".
@suzieque (2336)
• Canada
6 Nov 06
What a let down! It's good that you done a research on it.
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
At least now I know the problem I can start reorganizing my friends list. Thanks for your response.
@sadaff (328)
• Pakistan
6 Nov 06
the key to happiness is keeping minimum expectations from others!! i no it hurts...but only if u let it... ;)
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@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Wise words for sure! Thanks so much for your comments.
@Aeval39 (774)
• United States
2 Dec 06
When I make friends with someone, it's because I see that they have meaningful discussions and posts, and I know that if I ever can't find a good discussion to reply to, I can just go to their page. I don't make and accept friends because I expect them to reply to all my discussions, so I don't take offense if I don't get many replies from them. I don't go to my friends' profiles every day, but I do go to 'discussions my friends have started' and go through the first 10-20 pages of discussions for new ones that I haven't replied to yet. That way I can get to more of my friends than if I go one by one.
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@happygal68 (3277)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I try to do the same thing. I try to respond to my friends posts as much as possible. It is hard to always keep up with everyone though. I don't have alot of discussions going for my friends to post to, wish those topics would flow off the top of my head so I could have more to offer for discussions lol. Maybe with this post, all of your friends will realize they need to help you out too and respond to your discussions since you try so hard to respond to theirs.
@meeoww (1174)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I didnt do the math but I'm finding out pretty much the same. I admit, it is hard sometimes to go through so many posts due to sometimes computer being really slow (but I see others complaining so maybe it isn't my computer after all). Also, I'm sorry but I prefer to participate in at least relatively meaningful conversation, not "who's better angelina jolie or somebody or other else". And, quite frankly, if I can't understand what they're asking in their post, I'm not going to try to pretend that I'm answering it! So I do try to participate with my friends. I would like to send you and one above a friend request. You seem like nice and helpful people. Aloha!
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@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
27 Dec 06
im so sorry to heard about that ma'am:)maybe im the one also are not responding to your discussion's, but i do all my best to one by one to all my friend list to reply to them. i admit that sometimes i can reply because of im at work as waitress specially if you carry a heavy things like a tables. because the boys of the restuarant are tooooooooooo much lazy to carry the heavy things. and i encountered also that not all of my friends at my list are not responding to my discussion's, i don't know why? or maybe they don't like my discussion's or maybe my discussion's are not good command in english. and mostly the people who respond at my discussions are not on my list and im thankful becau
• Kuwait
27 Dec 06
because your are also responding my ugly i think discussion's. God bless ma'am and have a prosperous new year:)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I will help you out add me as your friend
• United States
7 Nov 06
Friends - care bears
I had to repost my image didnt shopw up lol