Your body. Then and now. Has it been kind to you after all these years?

@James72 (26832)
Australia
September 23, 2008 9:37am CST
I am now 36 years old. I am by no means ancient just yet but I sure as heck ain't the spritely young man I once was! Well, mentally maybe but my body is but a shadow of it's former self! If you were to compare a picture of yourself at 18 to a picture of yourself today would you be happy with what you see? Have the years been kind to you or do you look every bit the age you are now? I am not too concerned to be honest but there is a tremendous difference in my physique between then and now! I invite all my fellow "oldies" to jump in on this one but of course everybody's welcome! For you young 'uns, do you ever worry about getting physically older? I f someone could show you a photo of yourself 20 years from now would you like to see it?
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@juhi06 (1850)
• India
23 Sep 08
yes dear james well said . there is a real slow down in energy levels from ones prime!! it is bound to happen!! but what is strange that my grand mother at @75 is more punctual than my mother and my mother is more punctual than me . whatever criteria be set my granny seems to be having more energy than both of us!!
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
Oh my energy levels are as high as ever too! It is just interesting to think back to when I was a kid and looking at people the age I am now and thinking to myself how OLD they were! lol. It sounds like you have some good genes to keep you going into older age then if your Grandmother is this spritely at 75! Thanks for responding juhi.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
23 Sep 08
Oldies James,Who ? Me? It's all in the mind isn't it ? Seriously speaking the only difference has been some greying of hair and some slackening of muscles. But that's on it's way back. It's a constant struggle on my waistline though, not the way you imagine, but how difficult can it get to keep your waistline constant so that your pants don't keep falling off.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
We are close in age it seems alok! Yes, it is definitely mostly in the mind and as far as I am concerned, age is but a number! I have had grey hairs since I was in my early twenties actually. Apparently if I exercised etc I could look better but that sounds like complete madness to me. It sounds like you are on a comeback so good for you! As for the waistline, many of my friends (And me) have the same problem area so it must be God's way of challenging us! Thanks for responding and keep at it!
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
24 Sep 08
Now that you have suggested the dumbells. Why not ?
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• China
24 Sep 08
Oh!Friend! I want to be looked tough!So I wish I wound grow up quickly.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
Tough? Well good luck with that then ningyhuhui! Thanks for responding and welcome to mylot too!
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@Bluepatch (2481)
• Trinidad And Tobago
23 Sep 08
I'm glad you brought this up. When I was that age I started taking vitamins and now that I'm 57 years old I'm so gratefull that I did. You can't stop age but if you do some things you can make the years work for you. People think I'm a lot younger than I am and I really don't have any serious health problems. Want some advice ? Take the vitamins your body needs from now and you will see the rewards when you get on in your years. Guaranteed !
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
I am glad that you are glad also Bluepatch! lol. You can definitely make moves to at least SLOW the aging process somewhat, I agree. I am a sporadic vitamins taker at best actually. I will go on them for a month or so and then use up the jar and not buy more until I suddenly get inspired to go another round! I need to make more of an effort with this AND exercise I think. Thanks for responding to the discussion and I wish you continued health and youthfulness!
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
well, so far fortunately i can say yes... thanks to God's grace and mercy in my life all these years... in fact, i didn't really change that much in terms of my looks and physical appearance since i am a girl until now... i still look the same which is good because people always tell me that i look much younger than my age... take care and have a nice day...
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
Lucky you! Being told we look younger than we actually are is a compliment I am sure most if us would love to be receiving! (Unless you're a teenager I guess! lol) Thanks for responding lingli and you have a nice day also!
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• United States
23 Sep 08
I'm only 24, but at 18 I was obese and have since lost 100 pounds. I in much better shape, and when compareing pictures of myself @ 18 and myself now, most people don't believe it's me! I also know people who I once worked with who decided to hire a trainer in their 50's and 60's and are now in the best shape of their lives. It's all about how you take care of your self as you age.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
100 pounds? WOW! That's a champion effort! It is never too early or too late to start taking care of ourselves! I just need to be a tad more disciplined I think. Thanks for responding trudy and welcome to mylot too!
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I am also 36. Since I started working an office job almost 9 years ago.. I have gained 20 lbs. I DID manage, 3 years ago, to walk all the weight off, back down to where I was when I was 18. Now.. its all back again . But its my own fault, once I lost it, I figured I could stop walking, stop everything that I did to lose it all in the first place. Chalk that up to another bad idea. I would like to see myself 20 lbs lighter in my future.. BUT I have @nal glaucoma... I don't see my @ss being that small 20 years in the future
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
Up and down then up again dizzblnd? Sounds a bit like me actually! I got quite heavy at one stage many years ago and ended up losing around 27 kilograms (About 60 lbs I think) I have put on a little since then but nowhere near to what I was at one stage! I would like to lose maybe 10 lbs or so I guess but I am not much of an exerciser anymore. I do need to change my mindset on this front though because the older I get the harder it will be! Thanks for responding and I hope that the 20 lbs lighter future you seek becomes a reality for you!
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I am a forty year old woman and I would say I am a little happier with my body now then when I was twenty. I am a woman of average build and when I was very young I was very skinny. I don't feel like I really had much of a shape. Twenty years and two pregnancies later it sort of helped my body get a little bit better. Child bearing can cause some small scars but not too recognizable for me. I guess I have been pretty lucky. Sometimes I wish I had a younger face but I am trying to grow old gracefully and not smoke or drink.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Sep 08
Hahaha I think, I have aged gracefully and nothing much has changed nor vertically neither otherwise. I am still that young, innocent and shy person . I have always been a plump kind and am still like that. And dear I still get pimples, a lot actually. But only thing that has aged is my brain. I guess, it has done over time all these years and needs time out. smiles...
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
Ageing gracefully is an achievement I think we would all be happy with! I seem to get pimples still and can teeter on the edge of plump myself. But the occasional putting on of weight is because my wife loves me and feeds me well so it comes from postitive influences! lol. We all need to rest the old brain every now and then but it sure isn't easy. Thanks goodness for sleep otherwise mine would have burned out years ago! Thanks again for your inputs mimpi.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
24 Sep 08
You know what, even with the 8 kilos gain you can afford indulge yourself in your wife's pampers. Lucky you! I think you have an excellent BMI. Sleep is a great thing helping in recharging but I am sure screaming and letting go help as well. (courtesy: Mr. James)
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
My BMI is messed up actually. I am not a tall guy by any means and stand at around 5 foot 9 I guess, but even when I am quite skinny on the outside my weight is still up there! I once had a Doctor tell me I had a heavy bone density or something? I have never broken a bone in my life and have had some horrendous falls etc so maybe there is some truth in this?
@SViswan (12072)
• India
4 Oct 08
I'm 32 now....and I don't look much different from how I looked when I was 18. I think I look better (ahem! ahem! thank you) because I was very thin when I was 18 and my mother said I looked like one of those kids who are starved (well, she was exaggerating but she wasn't very far from the truth). I haven't put on too much weight...but the right amount after motherhood. hmmm...I think I've inherited my dad's genes and I wouldn't mind seeing a photo of myself 20 years from now. Hopefully, I would remain the same:) I wish I had a pic of me at 18 (scanned) that I could let you judge if I had 'aged'. I'm going to go look for one.
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@SViswan (12072)
• India
4 Oct 08
I hope to age gracefully:) And you are right about the men part. My husband started gaining weight when I was pregnant the first time and hasn't stopped since. I've got back to my original size after 2 deliveries...but he's just increased! My dad's the only man I know who has remained the same way for around 30 years.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
4 Oct 08
Well if your Father has managed to maintain his weight etc for so long then you definitely have some good genes! You are very fortunate for this.
• United States
23 Sep 08
Hmmmm, well, when I was 18 I weighed less than 100 pounds and looked like a stick figure with big bumps. 2 kids and 31 years later, I am sure nobody would recognize me if I went back to a high school reunion. I am a bit more proportionate than I was at 18. When I look in a mirror, there are some things I would like to change, obviously, but all in all, I am happy with the way I have aged.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
Less than 100 pounds?? Good Lord! Funny thing is I don't think people would recognize me either at a reunion. Back then I was a gym junkie with very long hair, earrings and an attitude! lol. Thanks for responding Bo and keep that positive outlook. We all wish for the odd change the older we get but what you have described today sounds a damn sight better than the waif you said you once were!
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• United States
23 Sep 08
*LOL* Yep, I weighed a whole 98 pounds when I got married. Looking back, I am kind of surprised I didn't blow away in one of our Texas wind storms.*L* I think about some of the guys I went to school with who had long hair, and an attitude(and why the heck were all us girls attracted to those guys, anyway?) and laugh at the difference in them then and now.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
Oh if I could take myself back in time to the 80's and see myself as another person dressed, acting and looking the way I did I would probably kick my own a@@!
• United States
24 Sep 08
The VANITY of it all... As a woman of 53 years, I like what I see in the mirror. I've never been much on cosmetics or facial creams. Back when I worked in cosmetics I started reading about the different chemicals used in them and researching the hazards of many products. I'm the oldest of five girl siblings. When we get together I find myself looking at our mom and all of the others. To be quite honest, I see two of them that jumped on the band wagon and started using all the "acid based" renewing creams years ago... aging faster that I am. Those same two have bad stretch marks from having children. The youngest girl and I didn't get stretch marks because we did use lotions on our belly. She used Aveeno, I used Pure Stick Cocoa Butter. The wrinkles I see in the mirror represent the tears I have cried, the smiles I have smiles and all the mixed emotions that have crossed my mind. I love every minute of them! My age caught up with me 6 years ago because of the shock of grief. My whole body went through an emotional uproar and my hair really started graying. But, I don't think I will ever try to cover the gray again. Hair dyes are not good for you!
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
53 and lovin' it! Good to hear RhythmWalker! I too have read about the use of many harmful chemicals in a multitude of products out there; but thankfully as a male, cosmetics aren't on the agenda! Yes, the wrinkles and lines we have and continue to get are but a map of our memories, trials and tribulations. Wear them with pride! I once read a story of a woman who's hair turned white overnight because of a trauma. I am not sure if it was validated or not but I do see how the stress of grief could cause these changes over time. I thank you for taking the time to respond and I appreciate your inputs. Stay away from that hair dye!
@gemini_rose (16193)
24 Sep 08
I am thirty five, on the outside the years have been kind and everyone thinks I am 28 which is pretty cool!I probably look better now than when I was 18 actually. But on the inside it is a totally different story, I really have a lot of problems that over the next twenty years are going to probably get worse. These problems have arisen from bearing children and are affecting my health considerably.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
You are one year younger than me then gemini. But no-one thinks I'm 28 though! It sounds like you have a good grasp on the physical and I hope that you are also able to gain control of the inside as well as best you can. I obviously do not have an understanding of everything so am somewhat reluctant to elaborate more on that front! Thanks for responding and I wish you every success.
@alphason (233)
24 Sep 08
It's a scary thought, but I am also the same age as you and yes I wish I had the energy, stamina and physique I had in my early 20's. I never used to worry about it much but now I am more concerned, not so much with body issues but life issues - especially when you think you are probably getting close to having half your life passed already.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
It's only scary if we think badly about it alphason! I like to think along the lines of my life having an even better half to go rather than being half over! It will always be what you make of it! Thanks for responding to the discussion.
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I will be 30 soon. My ex-husband who I was married to in my early 20s almost passed out when I told him that I weight 135 (he thought I weighed much less now). Almost the entire time I was with him, I weighed 115-120 and when I got up to 125 I felt like a house. Now at 135, I am still a size 8, but not that happy. I need to get back in the gym. I had dropped down to 130 a few weeks ago then got off track.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
We all need to work even more consistently at it to maintain a certain look as we get older. But I can assure you sedel that there would be MANY people reading this that would LOVE to be at 135 lbs! lol. Thanks for responding and good luck reaching your goals then!
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
Well I am 52 now and yes there is a big difference between what I am like now and when I was 18. I especially noticed the difference once I hit 50, it was like my body suddenly got old. When you are young you think you can deal with anything, stress, late nights etc with no real problems you just bounced back. But once you hit 40 you really need to be careful of all the stress and long working hours because your body just can't handle it as well. There is not much you can do about it except to try and stay as healthy as possible. They can make people live longer but they cannot stop the body wearing out and it certainly does that.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
I agree with you about the mindset when we are younger sharra. When I was under 21 I pretty much thought I was invincible and could put myself through ANYTHING and bounce back just fine! This is certainly not the case now and I need to be far more mindful about what I eat and what I lift etc. We can't STOP aging but we can trick it a little! Thanks for responding to the discussion.
@Samanthavv (1387)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Well... I'm almost twenty, but I look a LOT better than I did when I was eighteen. I looked really bad when I was eighteen. My weight went up and down a lot and I never slept right so I always looked god awful.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
24 Sep 08
Still so much of a young-un Samantha! 20 seems like a century ago for me! At least being younger means our bodies respond so much faster to positive changes so I am glad you are happy with the way you are today. Thanks for responding to the discussion.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Wow, lotta responses from people who are aging "gracefully". Well, I'm a bit only than some of the posters here (I'll be 49 next month). At age 40, although I wasn't in bad shape, I was not happy with my changed body. Menopause does a number on you! Anyway, I decided to do something about it, so I took the plunge and had the tummy tuck, lost 43 lbs, and began working out like I used to back in the day. I'm proud to say I fit into that pair of jeans that hangs in the back of the closet and you've never gotten rid of for the memories (I think everyone has one of those) and I'm able to wear a bikini and look good. Granted I had cosmetic help,but you've gotta make it a point to really eat correctly and exercise, drink a lot of water and stay out of the sun. I always felt energetic, but now even more so. Have a great one!
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
Wow! So a whole new di! Good for you! The fact that you backed up the surgery with exercise, diet and overall lifestyle changes is excellent! So many people look for a quick fix from cosmetic procedures without doing the hard yards in parallel, so it is marvellous to hear you are not one of them! Thanks for responding and I wish you continued success with it all.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
23 Sep 08
"only the cow is getting old" well in my case i dont ashame that i am getting old.i just proud of myself coz the more i get older the more i get sexier hehehe.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
That's the spirit bombshell! If you check some of the other replies you will see a number of people that appreciate themselves more and more the older they become! This is great news! lol. Thanks for responding.
@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
23 Sep 08
As my father used to say, "youth is wasted on the young". I miss being as slim as I was when I was 18 but I appreciate my body much more now than I did then. Back then I was never satisfied. I felt I was too skinny, too tall, not shapely enough, etc., etc. Now I realize I had the ideal build for a model. Now, however, I feel good in the skin I'm in. I'm not fat by any means but I'm no longer skinny. No longer have the ideal model's body. But I just care anymore. I strive to be healthy and healthy is beautiful to me. I focus more on what's on the inside than what's on the outside. I attract just as many men as I did when I was under 40 (now I'm 44). Sometimes, I even get carded going into clubs and casinos. I firmly believe it is in my attitude more than in my appearance.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Sep 08
Great saying! I agree that we are FAR more critical of our body image when we are younger and to a large degree we can thank peer pressure and the media for that! Healthy and happy are definitely attractive features to have and we do need to be more mindful of what we put into our bodies when we get older because we just don't process and elimnate certain foods as well as we did when younger. Thanks for responding cbreeze and I hope you continue to get carded for many years to come!