Losing virginity before marriage: Is it normal for you?

Sri Lanka
September 24, 2008 1:17am CST
I have seen that many comments on this in myLot. However, it is a common thing in the western world. In my country, losing virginity before the marriage is against the culture. But it is something very normal in many other countries. It is kind of a surprise for me. What do you think about that? What about you?
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• India
24 Sep 08
I am from India and losing virginity before marriage is against to our culture. And even I am against to it...I dont like personally...and I would teach my kids also this culture only...
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• Sri Lanka
24 Sep 08
I am from your neighbour country and I am with you. Thanks for responding!
• India
26 Sep 08
Which country are you from? Same as mine, right? Well, the youngsters think differently I am afraid. They are following the Western style. I dunno whether it is for good or bad, and personally, I don't care. I do know that most of my young male friends were so scared whether they would get a virgin or not!! I used to tell them to get their brides virginity tested before fixing the engagement, and if they did that, nobody would have married them. My friend, I have every reason to believe that virginity, although important in India, is fast losing its appeal. Simply pretend to be a virgin and things will be fine. What people do openly in the West is done on the sly here, that's all. Cheers and happy mylotting
• Sri Lanka
26 Sep 08
Well, I am from Sri Lanka. Your neighbour. You made a good point. That is many pretend to be virgin. Or they are virgin. But they have done every possible thing other than losing the virginity before marriage. Thanks for the response!
• India
25 Sep 08
Hi..Iam from India....I have a Boy friend....we make love but Iam still a Virgin...Sounds funny......Before I fell in love i never thought i was ready to give in even this much...Culture or not...I would not mind sleeping with Him...But he wants the "Final act" only after the weddin;-)....I am okay with it either ways....But yes our culture is similsr to yours and I am ready to sleep with my boyfriend only cos I am old enough to know wats good for me..... And we have been together for more than a year now....and He is very much interested in getting physical like a typical guy;-)
• Sri Lanka
25 Sep 08
I admire him. Thanks for sharing!
@Sheepie (3121)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Here in the United States, in high school it's rare for kids to be a virgin. Not only that, but most of them lost it in middle school. Parents here know so much less than they think they know. I have not lost my virginity, but I also do not plan on waiting until marriage unless that's what the guy wants. I just would not really ruin my life for a guy I don't know. I would want it to be at least kind of special, with a guy I love.
9 Oct 08
Hi - I'm from London where people lose their virginity very young. But I think it's really wrong, it devalues love and relationships and look at the number of kids born to single mothers. I'm 25 and still a virgin becasue I want to give something special to my husband...when I meet him!!
24 Sep 08
I'm italian...in my country now is not normal lost verginity after marriage! i think is normal too...In the past was the inverse, but now is totally normal even if we are catholics!
• Sri Lanka
24 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing!
@eztuner (451)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I think that physical contact with the person you will share the rest of your life should be as important as loving any other personal qualities. And a couple that knows themselves well in any aspect of the relationship stand a better chance to experiment real and long-lasting happiness? Saying this, I also recognize that in cultures like yours, where virginity is a requirement people learn to be happy with their traditions and find Happiness in their own way.
@elmiko (6641)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Where I live its normal because its so common even though religion disaproves of it.
• United States
24 Sep 08
I didn't wait, I thought I would but I wound up not. I live in America too so times have changed and its much different, especially in CA where there is so much of it everywhere.
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
24 Sep 08
Hier in Italy is normal that man or woman are not virgin, I think that people has to do experience before to complete themself and then the one I take is for sure someone special, like I'm special for the one who takes me...but like you say is a cultural aspect, hier a man or a woman that doesn't his/her experience before is like if he/she has missed something Nun ps(naturally they're also hier woman and man that marry virgin but they're not that much)
• United States
24 Sep 08
personally I see nothing wrong with losing your virginity before marriage IF it is someone you really love and care about. I dotn believe in the whole one night stands and "doing it cause its cool" deal. I believe that your virginity is something special and that you should cherish it and make sure its someone special to you before you just give it away cause once you do theres no turning back on it.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
24 Sep 08
well lost my before marriage, so did my wife. but it kind just happen i think there too much pressure on people back then and even now. it's cool if a person can wait until they get married