Mother Jailed For BITING Her 5 Yr Old Son In "Revenge" For Hurting His Baby Sis

Singapore
September 24, 2008 2:54am CST
Is parenthood really so challenging today? Or are parents today lacking the qualities and know how of good parenting? These thoughts just came to my mind as I read about this young 28 year old mother biting her own son as punishment for hurting his little baby sister. Yes, I was appalled and perplex as I read the article on the Daily Mail UK (see link below). Are children so difficult nowadays and mind you we are talking about a 5 year old here? I am sure that there would be much more better ways and methods to discipline and / or punish a child, I am just against sinking one's teeth into the child as a form of punishment. However, I am equally disturbed by such a harsh sentence - jailing for the mother. What are your views and say on this jail sentence? Is parenthood so challenging and demanding? Or are parents today not really ready for parenthood? For more details: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1060305/Mother-jailed-BITING-year-old-son-revenge-hurting-baby-sister.html
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@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I wish I could read the link but its not working...As for biting your child...well did it say to what extend she bit him? Reason I'm asking is becuase when my oldest was in his terrible twos and biting ppl I bit him as a means to get him to stop (and yes it works)...but if this so called mother bit him to the point of leaving marks, breaking the skin etc etc then ya I have issues with it BUT jail time??
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Yeah, just my thoughts!
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• Singapore
25 Sep 08
There were just 2 visible bite marks measuring 1.5" and 1.3" on the boys left forearm, there were no breakage of skin and the boy did not cry except only asked to be hugged. I think it is alright to bite the child to communicate with him by letting him experience the pain that comes with a bite that he does to his sibling(s) or people. Not forgetting the occasional use of the cane if necessary. I mean afterall, majority parents are doing this for the good and well being and behavior of their child. Some children are just slow and wayward when it comes to learning and over protective child rights and harsh sentences isn't going to go well with and help to good parenting. I just can't see how parents can go about parenting when "both their hands" are tied and when there is so much to consider for the parents-to-be, they may just give up on having children. Wayward thinking? I think otherwise.
@rup011 (726)
• Germany
24 Sep 08
This is a really unfortunate incident both for the child and the mother. I guess mothers are not able to cope up with the stress and hence acting in such stupid ways. Earlier women used to stay at home and take care of the children. Nowadays they have to work and care for the family etc. Due to this multitasking, they are having behavioural problems. But its wrong to put her in jail. I donot agree with such type of interference and punishment. Its ok to keep a watch whether a child is being abused but still its between the child and mother. The mother chose a harsh way but still why should she be put to jail for that?
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@glords (2615)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I know a person who bites her foster kids to teach them rules. I personally think its crazy. She doesn't get stressed out, she just thinks that is the correct form of discipline. Unfortunately, a lot of people were raised with violence and they think it is acceptable. I think all kids should be required to take a child care class in high school.
• Singapore
25 Sep 08
I think the sentiments towards fostered children just isn't quite the same with one's true born ones. However, as this is a true born child I am just quite appalled and the article was not specific what her previous 2 convictions were and I doubt it had anything to do with child abuse. I just felt that the jail sentence is way too harsh for a mother besides the children needs her to be around. I do not like this sentence one bit as this might be conveying a negative message to wayward children and parenting is getting more "handicapped" with times. There are already so much problems with the youths worldwide and the last we need to see is parents being jailed for administering corporal punishments.
@Beruang (1309)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 08
That is one of the craziest news that I have ever heard! Ho win the world that she could resort to such action? It is still normal to punish you own child that was misbehaving but to go to the extend of biting him is definitely out of the question! I know how difficult it is to take care of a a boy or toddler as my son is currently 17 months old and it takes lots of patience from my wife and I just to make sure that he is not up to something bad. Sometimes we just ran out of energy just to take care of him but then we know that all child would go through that stage one way or another... As for the jail sentence, yes, I agree that it is way too harsh. They should have given her some other kind of punishment as taking the mother away from the child is not going to solve anything but it could make the matter worse instead. Judges should be more considerate when passing their sentences...
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@Luchie50 (51)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
in my assessment to this situation, parents of todays world needs to be more equipped of the qualities on how to be a good parents to their children . They need to undergo trainings and seminars before embracing this kind of life.When times like this, instead of putting them to jail they will be sent to the right place or rehabilitate them , let them realize the mistakes they've done.I have my 5 years old grandson and yet hes so naughty but then i should always tell his mother that by giving discipline, do it in a right manner by talking slowly but not as your are like tigers or lions.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
25 Sep 08
When my grandmother had my uncle and my mother, the onus was to show how the action of the child hurt another. So they made that child eat the food he did not want to eat at the next meal, and a mother would bite her child, not that hard, to show how it felt. I am also sure there were mothers who when the child wanted to play with matches, light a match and put it near him so he would feel the heat without actually burning him. She was not using a new method of discipline, this is an old method one that was banished when spanking and grounding became normal, but now as even these methods are disapproved and some children do not respond to sitting on the chair or telling them why such things are bad, the old methods of threatening and actually hurting the child the same way as they hurt the other child is now coming back. I do think taking away privileges is the best way. As for the jail sentence, I think you are secretly in agreement with it because of your shock at what she did. I think that they should have not put a law against spanking or grounding or she would not have felt she had to bite the child. I wonder did it work?
@cherlevi (17)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 08
Absolutely...i don't like something like this.because it will make children hate their parents.i never bit by my parent.
@lizard211 (240)
• United States
25 Sep 08
First off, I must say I do not have kids - thinking about it though :). I do think there are people having kids that shouldn't have kids. My parents used spanking as punishment but biting?? I really don't think government should be interfering with diciplinary actions taken by parents (obviously, abuse is a different issue) but I would consider biting as abuse. I don't think a little jail time is too harsh. As I said before - no kids so maybe I should be answering this question in a couple years! :)
@emarie (5455)
• United States
25 Sep 08
i've heard people say that when your child bites someone, you should bite them back. i never thought that concept would put someone in jail for it. A spanking would suffice for playing rough with a little sibling. When my son was 5 he had a younger brother and an even younger cousin. no matter if he hurt them i wouldn't punish them enough to leave any marks. they are still young. i think people just aren't informed or ready enough to have children. parenting is only difficult to the extent of more things for them to get into trouble with, with cell phones and the internet. BUT there are more resources out there for parents to learn such as classes and books and even the internet as well. people are too lazy to take up those resources. i think parenting should improve over time, the parent as well as the child should grow. I'm younger then that women and i consider myself decent for the time being. i lose my temper, i've spanked my boys, but i would never place that much pain on a child who is still learning the differences from rights and wrong.
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@rainmark (4306)
24 Sep 08
This one of the strange things happens today in parenting. Maybe the mother did that in the wrong place and wrong time that's why someone acused her and put her to jail. Law for protecting kids in Uk is very strick in terms for childs rights. That's why parent's must really careful in parenting specially when you are living in the place which has strick law. In Philippines, you don't have a problem disciplining your kids. You can slap or pinch your kids but not totally abuse them, just a disciplinary actions but here i don't understand why law is overprotected to them, and able kids to accuse the parents. I don't want to comment further more about it coz i don't want to say bad words. Happy posting.
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I am a mother of two boys, being a parent is very challenging,i need to know on how to raise my sons as a good person and even so exhausted still i need to understand their tantrums and need to provide for their needs. every parents wants the best for their children and i was sorry to hear that kind of news. My two boys have only 1 year gap on age and the sibling rivalry is there,my oldest son always jealous when he saw me playing with his brother or when carrying it, then there are times that when we're at the bad he will just hit his brother and sometimes bit the toes,ofcourse i'll be get mad but mad to the point that i'll do to him what he did to his brother, it is not the solution there, first i need to understand my oldest son that he is just jealous and hitting him back well not be good, I keep on telling my on that what he did is wrong, sometimes parents seems to tired to expained to their children about right and wrong but parents need to understand that even if it seems that their kids is not listening saying it over and over kids will remeber it. That is what i am doing to my oldest son, that's why sometimes when he want to hit his brother he will look to me or his father what would be our reaction and when we say it is bad he'll just embrace his brother, being a parent is tiring but seeing own children grow in having a good attitude and smart is a great fulfillment. Maybe there are some parents who are still not ready to be an effective parents, they need to invest time in reading some articles in internet or magazine and that will help them to be an effective parents. I am not saying that i am perfect mother, i have logs too but those logs may be fill through experiences. Every parents want to be good and effective and i hope i will.
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