Do you get along good with your family/relatives?

United States
September 24, 2008 8:57am CST
Hi Mylotters! Yesterday, I got into a discussion with my mother over several of my family members that we've lost contact with due to arguements long ago. Frivelous arguements that have caused family to not see each other? Thats horrible. It made me think about how many of our family that we don't have much contact with and whom we have not seen for years. I think it is a shame when families are not close. I strongly believe that families should be very close. If you cannot rely on family, who can you rely on right?
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@austere (2816)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
yes, i have a good and harmonious relationship with my mom and dad, and with my siblings too..hehe we are all happy and living in one roof, well, actually my sister is not in the house, she is in Manila, she works there, but we communicate constantly. and i am really happy with the current relationship that we have, we love and care for each other, we dont really say words of endearment or very showy about our love but we can feel how much one loves the other.. blood is always thicker than water!
• United States
28 Sep 08
Hello austere. That is really beautiful that you have such a loving family! It makes me happy to hear about families that are so close, that's how it should be!
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@austere (2816)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
thank you, i wouldn't say everything is perfect about our family, we have our petty quarrels too, but what's happy is that we never really get to the point that we keep grudges towards each other.. if we can't really keep a close and truthful relationship with our family, then no other relationship will succeed.. the family is always the foundation in the relationship..
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• United States
24 Sep 08
I am glad to say that my family get along good. Sure we have our disagreements but it's not to the point where we won't talk to each other or anything like that.
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• United States
25 Sep 08
Good for you. You are very fortunate to have those good relationships in your family. I think it's very sad when family membvers get into arguments or dissagreements then end up not speaking for so long. There are so many wasted years and it just doesn'yt seem worth it!
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
24 Sep 08
i am not close at all with my one remaining uncle on my mother's side. he is selfish. he is a user. he has taken money from my mother to put on a front porch and did such lousy work that i had to replace it in a year. he has taken money from my mother to paint her bedroom and my daughter and i had to totally repaint it after he left. he has taken money from my mother to replace all her basement windows with glass block and one window he simply cemented over it. no, take money from my poor 81 year old mother and i want nothing to do with you. he lives 3 hours from us and i'm quite happy about that.
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• United States
24 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear this.It isn't right for people to take advantage of others like that...at any age! I can imagine how upset you are, especially being that it's your mother! Some people are just selfish and self-centered.We have a few like that in our family as well, and I don't bother with them. They are actually all siblings, obviously they werent raised with manners and respect! Thanks for your response MOMMASAM!
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@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
25 Sep 08
so far, i don't really have any real problems with any of my family members that cause me not to want to speak with the person at all... i try to respect every member of my family especially elders because we are related by blood... and as you say, when you face hardships, the first person that you would ask for help will be your family and no one else... take care and have a nice day...
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@lizard211 (240)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I must say that I am very close to my brothers and sisters. My parents and I have a decent relationship but I would definitely not call it close. As far as my uncles and aunts? Now that is a different story! I probably wouldn't even recognize 90% of them if I sat next to them! I think there were fall outs between them in my mom/dad so that is why us kids never really knew them. When the s*&^ hits the road, I believe that all one really has is their family. I also believe that family doesn't only mean blood-related (I think someone in this discussion talked about that).
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
good day.. you have a point. Family should be close to one another because there is what we call a blood bond but you should also accept that while families are blood bound they are also people. People who are subjected to greed, selfishness and other unfavorable characteristic. I mean yes we should love and be bonded but that that family member must also be lovable as a person above all.
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@arcidy (5016)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I usally get along pretty good with my relatives I dont think there is anyone of them which I dont like and I have a pretty big family. I think I am very lucky of that since I know a lot of people who cant stand there relatives
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@ebought (56)
24 Sep 08
This is a good topic of discussion. I've lost complete contact with one sister and I only see the other one when there's a family get together. Unfortunately, we just don't get along. I really find them awful to be around!!! It's a shame, but it would seem I'm not the only one who doesn't get on with their family.
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• United States
25 Sep 08
You are not alone ebought! I imagined I would get alot of reponses where people got along really good, but I found, as you can see, many do not! I think in every family there are going to be people that we just dont get along with. Unfortunatly, we dont get to pick our famiies as we do our friends! Thanx for your response!
25 Sep 08
Thanks for introducing such an interesting discussion. I've recently joined myLot and I already love chatting away to very interesting and varied people!
• United States
12 Nov 08
I was raised in a very traditional Italian family. I have one sister and we have always been extremely close, did everything together, my best friend. Untill she married Mr. Wonderful. He has managed to turn her into someone I don't want to spend time with. Too much to really explain on here. I can tell you that her hubby has taken advantage of our parents shamefully, of my husband and I and even my children. He is rude, has no manners. For years now we've all walked on egg shells around him just because he is "family". This year, I took a stand. I hate that my family has to have miserable holidays because of him. SO, I bit the bullet and I"m keeping my distance. I know it hurts my parents, but I"d rather keep my distance than be constantly argueing. Can't take the stress anymore, nor do I want my kids to think that this is a normal occurence. So sometimes as unfortunate as it is, family can't remain in our lives.
• Canada
25 Sep 08
well my dear, i get along with most of my family members, on my side but on my husbands side NO! my mother in law is a monster, my step father in law is a *^%$ , and my sister is laws are those kind of people who think they are better than everyone else. they don't like me and i don't like them. once upone a time we got a long. but i gave up taking their bull, so they started talking about me,saying some really not so nice stuff. I too strongly believe that families should be close, but in my case that is not so. my mom and I don't really get a long that great eather. but we still take and she come to visut all of us. Not haveing anything to do with my in laws is hard because i have 3 children, who love them. they have not seen my kids in 10 months and i like to keep it that way. i am sorry to here about your family, and i agree with you, everyone should get a long but some time people get mad over stupid things, in my case it was over major stuff. good luck to you.
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• India
26 Sep 08
Well, families always fight, don't they? If families don't fight, who should? Actually families are the things that wreck peace the most. And so far, not a single family member has ever been of any use to me. They have just been nuisances. Most of the time, I have been helped by complete strangers. Sorry if I am offending you, Marlena, but I really don't have a great regard for "family." I am not in touch with anybody. My immediate family is living in the same house as me, and we are getting along fine, but nobody else. :) Cheers and happy mylotting
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hello positiveminded. Thanks for your response. I am not offended in anyway. I apprieciate everyones opinion! The more people that responded the more I see how alot of people have similiar situations. I thought before that it was unusual that we dont keep in contact with oyur family but now I see we are far from alone! Thanks for all of your responses.
@esilanna (168)
• Malta
24 Sep 08
Hello mylotting friends!!!! I usually go very well with my family/relatives although I have to admit that sometimes we have some very "hot" arguments, especially with my close family, however after a while everything just comes back to normal. Happy mylotting!!!
• United States
24 Sep 08
Hello esilanna! Everyones family has their own"hot" arguements! You are definitely not alone! We have had our share as well. Happy Mylotting to you too!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
29 Oct 08
For the most part I get along with most of my family and relatives. The ones that I don't I just keep a distance between us...not a really good thing but sometimes it's necessary. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
28 Sep 08
Family are exactly that,and it doesnt mean because they are family that you are all going to get along,there are usually a pretty mixed bunch of characters in every family .There are members of our family that we havent seen or met up with for years,and the likelyhood of meeting in the near future is slim too.But there will always be the family members that we see regularly,the close ones,im sure thats the same for the majority of families.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 08
I totally agree with you! In my family as well there are so many people who are not in contact with us because of some stupid little reason. I really dont like it. Because however they are your own people, they are the one who you were friends wiht, who you shared everything with. And suddenly fro some little reason or argument you will not see them for the rest of your life?? We should realize the importance of our family friends.
@trv231 (152)
• India
24 Sep 08
For me friends are better than relatives. Neighbor is better than distant relative
@RAGHUBIR (65)
• India
24 Sep 08
i like to spend time with my famiely but i like also spend time with my friend.andmy famiely is good and they love me andwe spend many time with and i try to keep happy to them and many time we go out side. and enjoy all people like theur famiely
• United States
24 Sep 08
I'm not really too close with my relatives. When I was a kid, we were all a lot closer. Some things have happened when I was in my teen years, when they stook their noses in things that didn't concern them at all. That's when I really lost respect for all of them. I talk with my parents and sister on a regular basis. She has 3 babies, and I don't see them as often as I'd like, esp. with me having moved. I think that they're all so beautiful, and I definetly want to be a great aunt to them. As fas as relying on family, I really think sometimes that I'd have a better chance of relying on a stranger. lol. Really. I'm married, so I have my husband. But I always like to rely on myself. If there's a problem, there's always a solution.