Speak my mind or let it be?

@madasp (563)
United States
September 24, 2008 10:27am CST
I just logged on to find a discussion that hit very close to home for me and right now I'm absolutly livid with one of the responses. I'm having a hard time not jumping in on the response and letting this person have it. I'm not normally a confrontational person, but I'm having a hard time not venting on this person. Even though I know it wasn't directed at my daughter specifically, as a mother this persons response feels like an attack on my daughter and its hard not to react. So how about you? Have you ever come across a discussion or response that makes your blood boil? How did you handle it?
5 responses
@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
24 Sep 08
Yes I have came across discussion like you say.. But I try to stay calm.. And tell them that some people can get offended by what they say.. Have a nice day..
@madasp (563)
• United States
24 Sep 08
thanks. I'm trying to stay calm, but its not easy LOL
@sunshine4 (8710)
• United States
24 Sep 08
My guess is that the person who wrote the response didn't mean it for you to take personally. I have only once felt this way and someone right out told me that I condone child abuse!!! I was shocked! I totally went off on this person and it sure felt good:)
@madasp (563)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I know it wasn't meant for me personally, thats why I held back, but its hard not to get upset when the subject is about something that is such a big part of my life.
@sabbatha (287)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Well I posted to a response that upset me and ended up adding the girl I was upset with as a friend. The thing to do though is not let the anger rule the message. Just try to say that it upset you enough that you can't keep quite, then lay out the reasons that the reply upset you. Try to let logic and not anger rule. Letting anger rule will just lead to name calling and hard feelings, sometimes without the repler evening understanding why you were upset by why they wrote. Plus laying things out logically, can sometimes help the person you are upset with understand where you are comming from and hopefully maybe even understand your side of things. But I definately think you should reply as that is what the point of this place is. To let your side of things and your knowledge be heard. Though if you do this and they start resorting to name calling and such, then I think then that's when you should just leave it be.
@madasp (563)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I agree with you that I should comment, but I think I'll wait until I've calmed down. As you said I need to respond logically and I can't do that right now.
@carolscash (9503)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I have had discussions that I have came across on here that really infuriated me and sometimes I will speak my mind. Just be sure that if you are commenting on something that you have your facts right and that the person is actually attacking your daughter. If it incvolved my children, I would for sure speak my mind.
@madasp (563)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Thats just it. This person wasn't actually attacking my daughter, just making a judgemental observation about all young girls in my daughters situation. Thats why I hesitated to speak up, because I know this person is entitled to there opinion. Its just hard not to react when its such a far difference from my own beliefs and when it involves a personal situation.
@magnet (2089)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I don't see anything wrong with speaking your mind,as long as there is no name calling and putting other people down. I try not to put people down even when I feel like it.