Comunication block with child
September 24, 2008 8:20pm CST
One of my daughters Aliyah is nearly 3 and is having communication problems. She will not put two words together and most of her one words that she does use is half the word so really just a sound. She does say a handful of words properly but not like she should for her age. A great example of a communication block is the other day she kept coming up to me and saying 'ba', and would grab my hand and want to take me somewhere. So we'd go to where she wanted to take me, which was the kitchen and then said 'ba' again. I asked her everything I could think of, 'do you want this?' and she would say no. This basically went on off and on all day and I never did figure out what she wanted. We have her on a waiting list for a speech pathologist but the town I live in doesn't have one right now but are in the process of hiring. It is so frustrating not being able to communicate with your own child. Most of the time we can understand her, probably 80% of the time, others have no idea what she says most of the time. I hope that we will be able to get her help with her speech. I had problems when I was her age too with my speech. Has anybody else had problems with their child's speech? Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
25 Sep 08
:) that is something i would definately look into. My cousins son is 4 and his speech development is very delayed..sure enough, off to the ear doctor they went (finally) and sure enough, he wasnt hearing properly. He could hear you when you spoke to him, but because of a build up of fluid he was hearing everything like he was under water, so he wasnt able to pick up proper pronounciation and sounds of the letters that would actually make up the word as a whole :) I hope all gos well for you, i do wish you the best of luck. Be sure to let us know how it turns out for you and the little one :)
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25 Sep 08
Does she seem to understand what you are saying to her? If she does, then you can teach her non verbal forms of communication. Look into sign language, develop a system so you can understand her, maybe with gestures or pictures. Also, check with your school district and try to get them to expedite things with getting her a speech evaluation. The sooner she starts speech therapy, the better. Call continuously. Don't take no for an answer. Locate your local child services advocate. Talk with other parents in the district whose children have special needs, if possible. Be a pest. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Ask about taking her to a neighboring school district. The school has a legal obligation to provide children with the services they need, so don't let them brush you off.
25 Sep 08
She can totally understand everything we say to her. As for the speech therapy we are not being brushed off at all, we have just started the process of talking to people about her speech and everyone has been very good and helpful to us. Thanks for the response.
25 Sep 08
What thread one has said is true and I totally endorsed it. What I would encourage you and your family to do is not shout at her. If she brings you to the kitchen you should pronounce it and make she repeat it too. Every words that you emphasise on let she pronouce it. I have a cousin who was born with a hole in her gum and this affect her speech. Her son also born with this deficit as well but the doctors were able to mend it. Since you also has this problem as a child ask your parents what they did so that you were able to overcome it. Children are so sensitive and one as to be extra careful how they perceive them. All the best. Kerry
25 Sep 08
yeah we don't yell at her and we will get her to repeat words. My mom has passed my dad said they got me help with a speech therapist but maybe there is some more insight he can give me in the day to day communicating they did with me. Thanks for the response.