Who Are They To Tell Me?

United States
September 25, 2008 4:51pm CST
Ok please be real say what you feel and just no holds barred (except within the TOS for mylot :-) ) I want to know should someone can have the right to tell you that you can not discipline my child in a manner that befits your parenting methods? IMO Heck No- Don't talk to me about all those child abusers out there and how it is done for the safety of children that is Crud they don't get found out until after some child has been harmed so how does that have anything to do with me? How does that give anyone the right to give me parameters and rules on disciplining the life that I brought into this world? I understand telling me that I can not inflict bodily harm leave bruises and things of that nature but if I want to take a belt to my kids like my parents did who are they to tell me? This is why generation after generation gets worse and worse limit my ability to teach - discipline and get a point across to my kids don't come crying to me when you have to deal with the consequences. Now personally I have very rarely had to resort to physical discipline with any of my 4 children but I feel this should be a parents natural right and if you are shown to use it abusively then obviously you should be dealt with accordingly.
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6 responses
• United States
26 Sep 08
IMO the discipline for a child should be given by the parents only. Other people can suggest ideas for the parents to use, but not implement the ideas themselves. :)
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@Latrivia (2889)
• United States
25 Sep 08
As long as a parent isn't outright beating their child with more force than necessary, it shouldn't be anyone else's business how they choose to discipline their child. You can disapprove all you want, but disapproving and telling them they're wrong or bad parents for it is another thing entirely. My parents used corporal punishment with me when I was a child, and I turned out perfectly fine without any mental scars or trauma from it. It didn't teach me that violence was acceptable, nor did it leave any impression on me that hitting another person was okay (regardless of people telling me that such nonsense will happen). Personally, I feel if more parents actually acted like parents and disciplined their child, rather than trying to be friends, we'd have less expectant and self-important punks running around.
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@emarie (5454)
• United States
25 Sep 08
well, i would assume using a belt to beat your child would leave some bodily harm. i've never had it done, personally my house had the 'board of education' which i discreetly threw away when i was a child. i don't believe in using objects to hit a child. spanking is okay when called for. some parents in my opinion take it overboard, but hey, i'm not one to talk either, i get upset at times as well. i would never though tell someone how to discipline their child unless they ask for help. i don't even tell my sister how to discipline her child. each parent has their own method. i think what people are scared of is that if people say, go ahead and hit your child, the unfair child abuse beatings would go up. i would like that to stop but minor discipline without 'abuse' should be allowed. but there is always that fine line between discipline and abuse.
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• United States
25 Sep 08
What gives you the right to strike another person? It's not considered good manners and that's the kind of thing you're teaching your child. You are teaching them that it's okay to hit people that are smaller than you. Wait until he/she overpowers you.........
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@ClarusVisum (2163)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Physical discipline is ineffective (compared to other methods) and needlessly violent. It reinforces aggressive behavior and is, overall, a primitive method of instruction.
@overhere (516)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I don't personally believe as a last resort a short sharp smack ever harmed a child when used in the right circumstances. To me anyone who takes a belt to a child is using excessive force and infact is acting not as a disciplinarian but as a bully. To a small charge an adults hand will always be more than enough force. Strangely rules and retribution way below physical contact when acted upon consitently work far far better in my experience. The majority of parents I see fail in there approach to discpline because it is not consistent something that is wrong today should be wrong everyday and if you put out a threat carry through. The number of times you see a parent say no then weaken and give in is crazy - all you teach a child is that no only means no for the first "x" number of times then it will become yes!!