first broken heart...

@Zelmarq (11509)
Cebu City, Philippines
September 25, 2008 5:53pm CST
Its one of the most things that I fear in life, to break my heart. Of course i know people wont want their hearts to be broken but there are events and things in our lives that happen for a reason and I believe they make us or break us. I broke my heart almost a year ago, it was somthing i chose to hide and I chose to keep to myself for I know announcing it would make it more harder to cope with. I cried in silence, alone in my room, in the stillness of the night, and there I felt God's hand comforting me, speaking to me, drying each tear from my eyes with His words. Only close people knew about it and I know they prayed for me, and I know it made the healing speedy. Looking back, it still makes my tears fall and I cant stop them, im a better person, broken and healed by the loving hands of God.
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@CAdreamer (118)
• United States
26 Sep 08
A broken heart does mend with time. I have experienced several broken hearts over the years, but I know that they are preparing me for that one love which will outlast all others. When your heart is broken, you will learn from it and gain from it. eventually someone will come along who will fill that aching void left by others. The perfect love is not perfect, rather it is only perfect for you. Everyone has a different sense of what is perfect. But through experience you learn exactly what is perfect for you. This broken heart will teach you a little, and the next one will do the same. Do not cringe in fear from having your heart broken, but rather take heart in knowing that each broken heart you experience is bringing you one step closer to your true love. Rejoice in the moment evne while you experience the pain, for you will recover and you will move on. You cry, you rage, you hate, you laugh, you learn, you love. This is the way of life and the way of loving.
@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Wow, i love the way you said all the things here. I like how you put felings to words and just how they sound so nice like a comforting tap on my heart, after reading this I felt peace and I am giving you the best response. Thank you very much my friend, thank you very much for sharing.
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• United States
27 Sep 08
You are most welcome. Everyone deserves to receive the best from everyone else. At least that's the way I see it. I never want to be so detached from others that I cannot even raise their spirits with a word or two. Life is too short for me to not bring joy or even a little happiness to those around me.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
28 Sep 08
Wow, you have a way with words and i hope you use this to encourage others the way you have encouraged me. God bless you...
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@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
friend, I strongly believed that things happen for a reason..we're all just here to help you mend your broken heart..is it really broken at all? ( jowkz pal) hihiihihi...*peace* Godbless and more power pal. ;) rangics Ü
@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
hehehe, broken oi, di man diay lalim bars, marunong lang siguro ko mag dala. ahehehe, but im ok now we are still good good friends.
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@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
things will get better soon... take care..;)
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Oct 08
Thank you bars. have a nice day!!! Many happy postings....
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@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
26 Sep 08
H[i]i Zel, that is good! ANyway, that experienced will always teach us a lot of lesson and will make us more stronger..We are really lucky that we can feel HIS presence who will comfort us when we choose to be just aloof and keep it within ourselves![/i]
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Theres a song that reminds me of my state, it goes... " you made me stronger by breaking my heart, you ended my life and made a better one start,you taught me evrything from falling in love....: its a nice song... i can relate...
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• United States
29 Sep 08
ohhh...that is a very nice song indeed! Very real and I know everyone can relate to this, I was also!
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
29 Sep 08
Sounds funny but its for real my friend and we are in the same boat.
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@ElicBxn (59635)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I'm sorry your heart was broken - maybe I'm just too much a thinker to let myself get in that situation. I was falling in love once, and I really wanted to know if he was interested in more or not. Even then, I had some red flags up about him, and I was right. I didn't get my heart broken, tho it was bruised for a while, because I paid attention to those red flags and I didn't make the full "investment" of my heart into it. That and I kind of let him know that if he wasn't going to get vested into the relationship - neither was I. We're still friends, he still says he really cares about me, but that commitment isn't there and even tho I still wish I could trust my heart to him, I know better and kept it to myself.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Sep 08
Its was not some other reasons that I broke my heart. It ws something we both agreed on and something that would give us room for more important things, things with eternal bearing, it was breaking our hearts for God, i know he too was hurt but im the one being so emotional about it. We are still good friends, best friends, but we have decided to wait on God.
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@ElicBxn (59635)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Its rough, and I'm sure you are sick of hearing that you are young and have plenty of time. There is, however a whole lot of truth in it. Honestly, at almost 55, I'm still waiting to find the right one - and I am willing to wait till the day I die because I just don't want to make that major a mistake when I can survive just fine with my heat intact.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Sep 08
Thats very true, im 32 and I have a long long way to go. Im praying for God's will in my life but specifically praying for someone. Thank you.
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@belk89 (1105)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
Getting into a relationship is like a gamble. There is no assurance that you wont get hurt. What really matters is you learn something everytime you get hurt. I know for sure this experience of yours will make you strong. In time you will forget about the sad part and you will just laugh about it when you are completely over it. I know coz ive been there before. Every person had experience heartaches. The best thing you can do is learn from it and move on.
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@chiaeugene (2226)
• China
26 Sep 08
i had never understand how it feel to break someone heart until something drastic happened to me which changed my life. i learnt the feeling and misery, pain that goes along with breaking someone heart. and i never want to experience it again nor wish it happened to anyone i knew. my greatest regret is breaking the heart of my ex-wife. thinking back, i was really a heartless and cold-blooded to treat her that way. but life must go on and we must learn to be stronger after a heart break. learn from the experience to prepare yourself from experiencing it again.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Its learning the hard way, im just thankful that we both ended it smoothly and theres no hurt feelings coz we talked heart to heart about the issue and its really for the best of both of us and for our growth as individuals as well.
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• India
26 Sep 08
funny jokes and laughing is the secret of life. now that may sound a bit over the top but trust me humor is the way.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
yes, I guess that how it is that handle it these days. I make it sound like comedy or something, i tell me it was already almost a year ago.
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@chiyosan (29393)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
it is great for you to have shared this with us here in mylot. you know, at some point, we all go through this things in life. i mean, we have to have our hearts broken, have to have felt happiness... i mean it is something we all have to deal it. it is alright not to broadcast it, it is actually better that only a few people close to you would know about it because there will always be comments from people... i am just glad you are healed now... remember do not be afraid to love again...
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Yes,, its only a fe people who know about it. When the newsbroke its not that sensational anymore since it was a long time ago andalmost a year now. hey wee just wondering coz i semed to have handled my emotions well that they were not able to notice that I broke my heart. of course I cried, lots of nights after the break up but its something I would want to keep for myself and its a very private matter to talk about, some knew just this week, they asked me about it but since its not that fresh anymore can just answer them casualy, coz if they asked me the day after the break up I know I would certainly burst into tears. Have a nice day and take care my friend.
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• China
26 Sep 08
Life is colorful for it is full of various feelings, such as happyness, upset, worry and so on. Most of us can not escape from being broken. The more you pay your heart into it, the more painful you are. However, you will find yourself are more adamant after you have exprience something broke your heart. Perhaps it is not a bad thing.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Yes, maybe, its also good that we experience pain sometimes, we learn something from it and it makes us better people in the end. Thank you for sharing and have a nice day!
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
In all our pains and defeat in life, God's loving hands are always there ever ready to carry us through. You are just so blessed my Friend that eventhough you seemed to have fought a battle on your own, you still remember and recognized His boundless love and mercy. Be happy and enjoy life!
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Apart from God I am nothing, He is the strength of my heart and I praise HIm and thank Him for wiping my tears away.
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
26 Sep 08
Yes, He is our healer, in every way..There is a verse, (I believe it is in Psalms, it is a verse I can never remember where it is located), where it says "The L♥rd is close to the brokenhearted" How true this is..
@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
27 Sep 08
Yes, i once read that, theres also a goes. "For he heals the broken hearted, binding up their wounds, its good to bless His holy name." Thank you for sharing....
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@ja_gwen (55)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
i know how hard it is to be broken hearted.I too experienced that, but time will heal all those wounds. There would be times that you would cry and remember those time that you are together. But I tell you, there would be other men, better than him who would love you more and you would love more. Don't be afraid to love. Love always as if its your first.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 Sep 08
I cant think of other men as of now I have to focus on other things.
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@roniroxas (10577)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
that is so sweet. i admire you specially on taking a back and giving yourself a chance to cry and chance to heal. i dont approve on a person who heal their hearts by getting to a relationship again even for all they know they are not emotionally read for a new one. but this is life.... we live we learn and through learning we can be ready to be in love and loved again but more sensitive about LOVE.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 Sep 08
Well, its never healed when you try to cover fresh wounds of a broken heart, in the long run we end up breaking another person's heart. We learn and love and its just the cycle, its a continous process.
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@stephcjh (32387)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I am sorry to hear that. I have had my heart broken several times and I cried my eyes out over it also. It gets better and easier in time but I will never forget it. It does take quite some time to heal.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 Sep 08
Yes, im healing and been a better person after.
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@airl1527 (355)
• China
25 Sep 08
I have had many heart-broken experiences. I thought i will never have tears because all my tears have fallen. Now i am happy because i have a man who loves me so much, more than i love him. In the happy days, when i think of the past experiences, i don't feel heart-broken any more, i just reguard them as lessons. Thank God, he is fair, after i have suffered a lot, he makes me happy.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Sep 08
yes thats true my friend, we learn from them and makes us better person in the end. Life has to go on and we face life again with a smile.
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@lilaclady (28277)
• Australia
25 Sep 08
Yes I think a broken heart is just a part of life, it happens to us all if we dare to live and i think if just simply means there is something else in store for you in the future, I am like you I lock myself away from people when i have a broken heart as well...someone new will come into your life and you will then see the sense of it all...
@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Sep 08
Yes, thats true my friend. Before i thought it would be so painful, yes it was but it was not so painful since I have my spiritual mother who helped me through my tears. Thank you and have a nice day.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Hello te c",) Sorry it took me so long to really believe that you are broken hearted. It doesn't really show kasi c",) I have a brave way of coping it...Imagine! it happened a year ago, but none of us noticed it, not even suspected it. I know you are very brave, and the way i see it... you are fine now. I'm sure you've surrendered your pain to God,and HE never fails because you have that great faith in you. I too have been broken and failed with love but God has ways to help me move on and He'd given me someone who's been taking care of my heart now way more than i do to his.lol! God bless you and i know someday you'll have that someone to share your life forever, might be him (you know na...) or someone whom God chose for you.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
oops! sorry i mean, "YOU HAVE A BRAVE WAY OF COPING IT"
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
7 Oct 08
Yes, I made it appear as if nothing happened to me. I dont want people to ask about the issue for I know they will never understand coz I know the reason for the break up might not be reason enough for them. I thank God for healing me, helping me moving on, He is all that I got. Thank you for the comfort and for sharing here. have a nice day and take care!
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@jb_vete (323)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Very well said zelmarq. I was even teary-eyed when i read your post. I had been in the situation before and thank God i had surpassed it as you did. It was all because of Him. Glory to God.
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@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
11 Oct 08
Hehehehe, im teary eyed every time i read and reply to comments here. It was never easy but God shield my heart that can just smile as i remember those days. To God be the glory.
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