Long Distance Relationship

United States
September 26, 2008 1:13am CST
Who said that long distance relationship won't work? If you will say yes, think again. I have been married now, but i'll tell you, we started out as long distance relationship. My husband is from Florida and I am from the Philippines. We met through a dating site and now we are happily married. Although it's hard at first but as time goes on you will finally see that being patient because you're thousand miles away from each other is rewarding. We've been in love and i am pretty sure that the moment I set my eyes on him at the airport,that the love i felt for him online is true and it grows even more. How about you? Do you have a long distance relationship? How did you cope with it? How did you meet?
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34 responses
• India
26 Sep 08
hey there...well I am also in a long distance relationship;-) Its worked fine till now...we met on the internet too...then met in person...and then became very good friends...My first impression about him...."he is definitely not my type" ...later I found out that we are made for each other..we are the best of friends...Yes it is very difficult...at times you yearn for just a hug from that person....u get distracted more....however its 1.5 years now and we are still together...We meet about once in a month or once in 2 months................However I cherish every moment of being in the relationship...cos he is just AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!
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• United States
26 Sep 08
Good to hear that! Where is he came from?
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• India
26 Sep 08
he is also from south india but a different city..;-)
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• United States
16 Oct 08
oh wow! goodluck to the both of you!
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
26 Sep 08
I am quite surprised that you have a successful distant relationship. Generally, distant relationship lands up in some or the other problems. and the result is fight. Would really appreciate if you could help with the tips as in how to maintain healthy relationship alive when the distances increase.
• Malaysia
26 Sep 08
yeah.I do agree with you on that. Long distance means a lot of sacrifices involve in this manner. We can count the expenses to travel here and there and not to mention the time consumes and wasted. May it works for other couple or maybe I feel like being closer to each other. Sometimes we don't really see what happens to each other just based on the words and who know the girl or guys talking to you saying "I love you" while in another persons arm!
• United States
19 Oct 08
You were both right. Before we ended up into marriage, we have lots of difficulties first. You should be very careful in talking to someone and before ending up into marriage you should know the person better first. And another is you should be yourself when meeting him/her.
@neha2k94u (408)
• India
19 Feb 09
Well anything is possible in this world why this cant be... though I dont believe this thing can happen to me...Because I cant even talk to a person until I can see him... And great to hear about you...All the best dear...
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• United States
19 Feb 09
thank you so much for dropping by and share your opinion..I agree with you, long distance can be very hard and right now, we are still struggling..But because of our love, I know we can survive..
@seraj143 (75)
• India
27 Sep 08
Hey folks I dont hold any such relationship I think this is something like hoax call. Even though this would appear to you good for some time due to your fantasizing of the things you do not know. Like in knowing the person on the other side and this will last till you didn't have physical relations with the person once this is over everything is over. Sorry to say but that is the fact from what I have experienced. At least hope this doesn't happen to you in your relation.Coz i dont know how you peoples manage to be apart after your marriage. If I were to be in a married relationship I would surely need my better half to be with me after I am off my official duty. I would like to hug her,talk to her, touch her...............surely I would want her to be physically connected to me by some way or the other.I specially hate the time when I would have to stand at the airport waiting for someone who is the best part of me.If I were to send her somewhere I would surely pick her up from the place around but I cant wait for her as I cant resist such a thing.Thanks a lot
• United States
7 Feb 09
Hello seraj143! I truly understand what you mean. Yes, we are away right now. We still have to met some immigration requirements for us to be together. But I know it won't take long now. We just talk everyday on the phone and although I admit it's hard sometimes, because of our love, we should be very strong.
@silverpen (125)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
Well! its a case to case basis! Its the trust that solidifies your relationship and its the love that binds all. If your weak on your relationship, or I would say if both of you are having trouble arresting relational conflict I would say you have weak resistance to temptation and if temptation rules you, surely that relationship wont work even your close with each other.
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• United States
12 Dec 08
Very well said silverpen. I do agree with you.
@RAGHUBIR (65)
• India
26 Sep 08
i think relationship is big part fo life and we should respect the all relationship. because relationship make the life happy and now people can not live without relationship.any type of relatio like friend brother father all relation should good and we dont make any long distance.and try to happy and make happy all people
• United States
12 Dec 08
You are right raghubir! Thanks for dropping by!
• Canada
26 Sep 08
I've never had an online relationship, but I don't see why people are so against it. I mean, I can't really see a point if you never intend to meet them, but if you do then I have no problems. It seems like people just don't like them because they see so many fail, but of you think about it, how many short-distance relationships work out? I bet if someone did a study, the percentage of failures of the two would be pretty close.
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• United States
12 Dec 08
Hello thepancake! You have your point there. Long distance relationship is the same as those average relationship. The only difference is that you will sacrifice at first because of being far away from each other.
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
I'm in a long distance relationship right now. We met when we are still in college. Been friends for a year and fell inlove during that stage and we just admit it to one another... Well, we already have long distance relationship because he lives at Laguna, Philippines and I live in Quezon City. He lives in the town and I live in the city. We see each other during school and when there is an occasion. When he started to work, their company send their group to Dubai to work there for almost 8 months. He went back home. After 2 month he went to Saudi Arabia not to work but to take care of his father. After 5 month, their family when home here. Just last September 2007, He had an offer in Singapore. Now he is there working. We constantly text and calling each other and we even videochatting every night to cope for our longiness. Atleast in that method we see each other... I really miss him so badly...
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• United States
8 Oct 08
Oh wow! you look like you were really inlove. Well what a nice thing about your relationship is you could still see each other if you want to. Keep it up :D
@dpk262006 (52377)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 09
It is good and nice to know about your experience, which had a happy ending for you. You found your match through net, therefore, you will advocate that on-line dating sites are good and rewarding. You appear very lucky. Basically, you yourself is very friendly and loving and hopefully so is your hubby, therefore, your vibes matched with each other. My very best wishes to you for a very happy married life. I never tired dated through on-line method. It is a fact that I made some very good friends through mylot and some of them are close and we stay in touch with each other through mails and PMs etc.
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• United States
23 Jan 09
yes, am I one of those online friend of yours?hehehe..
@dpk262006 (52377)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 09
Yes, you are one of dear on-line dear friends, but I have yet to receive a mail from you, which will cement our friendship. Once I receive your mail, it will be easier to communicate and send my photo to you.
• United States
26 Jan 09
what do you mean a mail from me deepak?hehehe
@stormy09 (438)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Feb 09
Hello aisaellis, You know when I came here in UAE I have left my love in the Philippines, at first it was OK we texted its other and called as well but as times passes by our relationship is not working anymore, I have tried to survive it but it didnt work.. I guess the love that we felt for each other is not that strong, thats why our relationship did not last.. Your very lucky to have someone like your husband and I guess your husband is lucky as well to have u.. Goodluck to both of you..
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Oh wow! so you're in UAE now. I know how hard to live with your family. I hope you're ok there. I am pretty sure that you will find the right guy for you who will love you and you will love too. The guy would be very lucky then.
@stormy09 (438)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Feb 09
Yap! I am fine her though it is very difficult to cope up, and you know I miss my family and friends very much. (sigh) Life here is very different, it is more serious than there. Thanks again aisaellis, and I hope I can find someone who is really meant for me.. Thanks again my friend and Wish you more happiness together with your husband.
• United States
8 Feb 09
you're welcome stormy..I would love to meet you one day..are you staying there for good?
• United States
26 Sep 08
Congratulations on that! :) Always good to hear, especially for me. Actually I really like a guy that lives in New York, I live in Arizona. We didn't meet on a dating site; honestly those make me nervous :P But we did meet through a game. We've never met in person, but that's kind of my fault...I'm just worried maybe he won't like me as much when he meets me. We've seen pictures of eachother--but I still worry what he'll think of me. How did you get by the first stages, after you met...how did you get through the akwardness of first meeting?
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• United States
26 Sep 08
The day before his flight to come here, he called me on the phne and we talked about what we are going to do the moment we see each other at the airport. So when i saw him, i waved to him and he smiled to me as if he is relieved that i showed up. Just be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone. Besides, as i can see in your picture, you're a very pretty girl. I am sure he will like you.
• United States
26 Sep 08
Thank you very much for your comment aisa. But since my default picture I've been cursed with some slight acne--it isn't horrible, but anyone who's had it knows how bad it makes you see yourself, no matter how little. So, because of it I keep putting off meeting him until I can fix it...i've tried tons of stuff and nothing seems to help me!
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• United States
26 Sep 08
How nice is Mike to do it. See? Because of what he did he is quite interested with you. Buying a ticket and sending it to you is hassle and he still manage to send you tickets. Don't be afraid Lily. Go and meet him. As early as you can, meet him and know him better and you will really know the person better if you meet in person. If you will take that long, you'll be attach to him because you ideally like him and that you will get very very disappointed at the end. If you're afraid he won't like you, who cares? it's not your lost but his (hehehe). And if you two won't work, go find another guy, you're still young and i know you can find someone better. My husband sent me flowers and chocolates through oredering online last valentines day. I did not expect he'll do it because we're not married yet and he's too far from me. Imagine from Philippines to Florida. it's a million miles away.
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
I'm also in a long distance relationship at the moment, and so far it has worked out just fine. My boyfriend and I met at a previous work became friends and decided to put our relationship to a more romantic level. We have been together up to this day for three years. ^__^ But last year he accepted a work in Dubai with a two year contract. Since he is considered as the breadwinner of his family I did not want to hold him back. So we decided to wait for each other until he finishes his contract. I have to admit it was hard for me to accept that I won't be with him for two years, especially after two years of blissful togetherness. That was really ironic. Up to this day it's still hard to cope even if there's the internet or cellphones to keep the communication between us, I'm just not used of us being apart. But a year has lapsed and it's still an "us". By July 2009 he'll return home so I'm really really excited. I can't wait to kiss him, hug him and just be with him. lol. As the Cheesy saying goes, Distance makes the heart go fonder. ^___^
• India
26 Sep 08
hey thats very nice of u.....i cant imagine me without seeing my boyfriend for more than 2 months...how do u manage?
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• Philippines
26 Sep 08
Thanks, for me long distance relationships means that you both have to sacrifice, be patient and trust each other. It hasn't been an easy road but we've somehow managed to make it through the trials and hardships of being apart. I guess that's how we managed to remain as a couple. ^_^
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• Indonesia
27 Sep 08
ha ha ha.. this is just like me...another respond say that they make a distance relationship before they meet|/know them(ex:from online dating), but i just like u...it's been together with my girlfriend fora 1,5 years but then he must go to another province..but in my case i never know when we can meet again.... i really miss her so much...
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• Malaysia
5 Nov 08
I've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries;).
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• United States
5 Nov 08
I love it and I could relate to it. You just don't know how hard it is for us. We do have our misunderstandings sometimes and I think it happen because of our intense love to each other. I can relate everything what you have said and I really want to be with him now. I even don't want to go out because I just want to talk to him. Are you a filipina?
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
i'm a malaysian ;)
• United States
26 Jan 09
oh i see..thank you..
• India
26 Sep 08
Whew! You people are lucky. I still do not know how to find one. Somebody tell how to find someone special online? What do I need to do?
• United States
4 Oct 08
all you have to do is go to the dating sites. If you want asians, go to asians dating site. Just search how to find an asian wife and you'll surely find a loving wife. happy posting!
• India
5 Oct 08
Ha ha will do as you say ha ha. Thanks!
• United States
19 Oct 08
you are welcome swapan..
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
2 Oct 08
Long-Distance Relationships.. I have stopped believing in them somewhat until and unless they turn out into real life relationships as soon as possible.. I had been in one relationship which ended up after 3 years but we could not see each other even once in 3 years.. I met a girl online, about 5 years back. We had a nice chat and we continued to chat on alternate days for about one month. By that time she had given me her phone number so we started talking on phone. We exchanged our pics and did like each other. I even proposed her after 2 months or so and she accepted my proposal after another month. We went away nicely. But unfortunately couldn't meet each other ever. We loved each other(as i hope) and everytime i could think of meeting her(we lived in different cities) some or the other thing happened which won't allow us to meet. Situations were turning against us.Then after 2 years or so, some incident happened with her due to which our relation started declining. She was not allowed to talk to boys. And i kept on asking her for time so that i can come over to her place to see her. But unfortunately we ended up and i still don't know the reason..WHY?. So as far as i m concerned, i used to believe in long-distance relationships, but i am afraid to take any chances now. I have seen a 4 year relationship ending up in 4 months just because they got separted after 4 years. So you really can't belive.. Whats gonna happen? Its good to see that ur long-distance relationship turned into marriage. But not everyone is lucky enough!!
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• United States
2 Oct 08
Yes, you're right. It's hard at first. We've been together for 3 years without seeing in person and finally, he made it happen. I finally see him in person last July 15 and got married july 28, 2008. The moment our eyes met at the davao airport, we both know that we are really in love. He hugged me tight and most of the people are watching us, but we don't care. We just showed how much our love to each other. Thanks for dropping by and telling me your story.
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• India
3 Oct 08
Got married within 15 days. Wow thats amazing. I am surely impressed by ur love story!! I wish if i would have the same luck!! Anyway, i feel good for you. all the best for ur future life!! Enjoy!!
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@jshekhar (1563)
• India
20 Feb 09
Hello, I am very happy that you shared this little story of yours with us but all of the cases might not last in the same way. It is rare that one genuinely seeks a life partner through the dating sites. Speaking about my friends, many of them want a date just for "fun" and they would turn their backs on the girl after a day or two.Thus, I would not advice any girl to trust a guy initially.
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• United States
27 Feb 09
you are right, jshekhar..In dating sites, we must be very careful and not trust somebody..that's why my husband and I talked online for 2 1/2 years before getting married..
@Ysabel (1202)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
Hi Aisaellis! Wow, that's a wonderful love story and you are so fortunate! Certainly, long distance relationship works FOR OTHERS, and you're one of them, but definitely not for me! I am not into that kind of relationship (distance) but i need to constantly feel my partner's presence. Call me insecure (he he he)... but really, that's just me. My principle is, if i don't have him around, i would rather not enter into such kind of relationship. But that's just me my friend. I have cousins and officemates that are in Long Distance relationships too, and it works perfectly fine for them. Maybe it relly depends on the person, right? Again, that's a wonderful love story you have there!
• United States
20 Feb 09
I understand what you mean ysabel..hehehe..I know that long distance is not everybody..If you only knew how hard it is..now I understand why other people won't be successful with this kind of relationship because it takes a lot of time and patient. Thank you so much for you compliment Ysabel..
@lusirafa (945)
7 Feb 09
I start my relationship with my hubby in short distance. We're at the same college. But after we graduated, we start the LDR cause we have to work at different city. However we've managed to survive this distance for 5 years and right now we've been married for 4 years and having our 2 years chubby son. There's no reason to doubt in LDR if you're in love and willing to keep your faith. I'm glad this LDR also works for you my friend, and hope that you always have a wonderful relationship with your love one.
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• United States
19 Feb 09
Wow! for 5 years you've been away? Oh my..You do really love each other. It has been proven and tested..I hope we will work out too..
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
i think long distance relationship will not last long...in a relationship communication is a must...good communication creates better a long lasting relationship
• United States
8 Feb 09
Well, some won't work some will work..others may not survive because honestly, long distance is very hard but we surpassed it
@rmuxagirl (7570)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I am in a long distance relationship right now and it is so hard. I wish I could see my boyfriend whenever I want, but I am working on this relationship because I don't want to be without him. We make it work when we talk on the phone and when we do get to see each other.
• United States
30 Jan 09
I can feel what you felt rmuxagirl. I felt that too. It's so sad that we can't be with our partner especially the time that we need them on our side. Hopefully we could be together this year.