If you heard harmful gossips about your friends from someone, what would you do?

@sharie16 (2213)
Philippines
September 26, 2008 6:34am CST
Gossip fo me is an evil, it is very harmful...so if i heard someone making some gossips about my friends or anybody else, i tend to stop them or other than that, i just tend to leave and not be part of it...i know my friends better than they do... so how bout you, what do you usually do? happy mylotting!
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@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 08
I tried to avoid these people, however, if i get to bump into these topic, i will try to listen but i won't put my leg in too. I will listen to what they day and if i think there's something my friend did wrong, i will advice my friend about it.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]indeed...we should avoid getting involve into it...if something that we think our friends did something wrong, we should warned them if confront these people... thanks for sharing! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
28 Sep 08
Gossips is aindded evil and they often lead to alot of bad things rather than good.. Thus, we can only hear about bad thing being spread but never the good things.. haha =D If i hear a bad gossip about my frenz and i know it's not true, i will be sure to confront them and make things right on the spot to prevent things from getting bad to worse.. As u know, once gossip starts, ple will tend to add on mroe and more things that is not even related to the actual thing itself, and thus it often causes alot of discomfort and affect the person.. SO it's better to clear it once there's any gossip concerning our frenz as well as ourselves ^_^
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]yes, it's an odd...that bad things spread rather quickly than good things...so if we can stop it, then do it...it's never been a good attitude doing such gossips... thanks for sharing, my friend! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
28 Sep 08
If they were gossiping to me about my friend I would certainly take up for my friend and refuse to listen to the gossip, if they are talking to someone else and I am not involved in the conversation I would ignore them and continue on my way or continue what I was doing, and I would not tell my friend that these people were gossiping about he/she because words can hurt people. And I would not want to hurt my friend. If it come to the point that my friend is still involved with these gossipers in some way I would try to find a way to let her know what is going on.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]well i would say better to stop them before a fight could happen...tell them how bad they were doing... thanks for sharing, my friend! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
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@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
same thing that you do, i always ask them to stop talking things on someone else, especially on my friends, and it really hurt me too, knowing that when my friends would hear wht they saying will hurt him/her.
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]indeed...we could even say to them, how does it feels like if they were the one to be in that situation, do they think it's good...well, they should be aware how bad they were doing... anyway, thanks for the post! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I don't like talking about others either unless it's to edify them. The only time I will talk about someone is when they do something rotten to me and I'm simply letting off some steam because of it. I would not consider that gossip because it happened to me personally and is not hearsay. Other than that it's none of my business what other people do. I could care less. I have my own life to live with my own problems. That keeps me busy enough. It makes me very uncomfortable when I'm with someone who starts bad mouthing another person. In the past I have told people to stop it. More often than not I'll just avoid these people. Here's an important thing to point out that most people don't realize or stop and consider: If you are someone who likes to gossip and likes to hang out with the same type of people.....just remember.....they're talking about you behind your back as well. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
I shall leave and not take part on the gossiping. As you said, it is evil and harmful. A cruel story runs on wheels, and every hand oils the wheels as they run. ~This is by Ouida Have a nice day sharie
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@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
26 Sep 08
i would tell my friend and say something to the person who started it for sure.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]oh don't you think that would lead a fight? that's gossiping, ain't right...i think it's better that if we heard it, we should stop them and say how hurtful of what they were doing... anyway, it's an opinion so i respect yours! thanks for the post! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
• United States
28 Sep 08
depend what it is going around them it can still start a fight, it had to me and a friend. someone started saying i was messing with his wife which cause a big fight with me and him
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
29 Sep 08
The only time I will ever talk about someone else is to edify them. The ONLY time I will talk about someone is when they do something rotten to me and I need to let off some steam. I would not consider that gossip because it happened to me personally and is not hearsay. It makes me very uncomfortable when I'm with people who start bad mouthing others. In the past I've told them to stop it, but, for the most part I'll just avoid them. Here is a point to consider that most people don't realize or have never stopped to think about: If you are a person who likes to gossip among your friends just remember........they're talking about you behind your back as well. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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• United States
30 Aug 10
Thanks, sharie16, for the best response vote!! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
27 Sep 08
i usually try to figure out where it is coming from and for what reason. then, i usually go tell the person that they were talking about that that person said that so they wont be surprised when they heard it from someone else.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]maybe that could help...but it's better to stop them from what they were doing, if you heard it..ain't right? anwyay, thanks for the post! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
27 Sep 08
I absolutely agree with you! To me gossiping is the worst form of rude and cowardly conversation we have. I would, and have, interrupted people I have heard dissing people I know or spouting untrue things and set them straight! That is why I so hate the hoax, and hate, and people bashing emails that float around. If you don't Know it is a FACT, don't pass it on people. Nice to know other people feel the same way about gossip!
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]yes...it's very rude! i hope other people could also realize the harm they were doing... thanks for sharing your thoughts! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
i would protect my friends because they dont even know my friends and they dont know if all they heard are all true.. i would fight for them because i have the rights to protect them and they are my friends or i will clear things out and stop the fight!
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]yeah..better to stop them for what they are doing...these people who make rumors and gossips to other people are envious maybe...so better not clear up the things to them...and we should remind them that what they were doing was totally wrong... thanks for the post! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
26 Sep 08
if it's not true i take up for them & straighten the person out w/the truth.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]indeed...they should not get used to building up rumors to other persons...and we should stop them if we heard it... thanks for sharing, my friend! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
If I hear something bad about my friend, I guess, I would tell that to my friend and validate it. I am quite a frank person, and I am also very protective of my friends to the point that I wish nothing but the best for them.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]yup that's the feeling...but if we can stop what their doing then we should...so that they stop doing some nasty rumors that could hurt other people... thanks for sharing! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
• Australia
26 Sep 08
I don't care usually :D And usually if I heard someone talking about my friend I'll tell my friend, and usually he doesn't care either :D
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]should be! we should not tolerate what they were doing... thanks for the post! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
• Australia
26 Sep 08
If any gossips goes to me I won't care - really I NEVER cares that's why they stoped teasing me. About my friends...hmm I'll probably tell them. There was a guy who always say something bad about others at the back in my school next to my roll call room and once my friend in my roll call room hasn't come he said some really nasty things about him... I told my friend but he also don't care :D
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]your right...for sure someday they'll get annoyed of what their doing...these people who do gossiping have nothing to do good for us...it doesn't even brought anything good for them...i hope they will realize how evil they were doing! thanks for sharing! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
• Indonesia
26 Sep 08
yes, i will do the same with you, i will tell them that my friends not like their thinking about, and if they don't accepted, i will leave them, cause i don't want be a part of people that harm my good friend
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]indeed...we should stop them if we can and tell them how hurtful they were doing... thanks for the post! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I would not be part of the conversation, and I would not mention it to my friend. If I were to say something, I would only be adding fuel to the fire. Especially if I know what was being said is not true. People who gossip, like to have a group of people on their side, so that the rumors can be spread. Gossiping is an evil way of hurting someone and ruining their reputation.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]very well said dear! better not to join the gossiping...that's the best thing we can do, not to add up rumors and fightings...and also, gossiping is an evil act...so we should always avoid it... thanks for sharing, dear! happy sunday! God bless! +rating![/b]
• Malaysia
28 Sep 08
I will just ignore it and won't spread it. I also will ask that person to stop doing that. I will definitely will not tell my friend about that. I don't want my friend to be hurt. If I tell my friend. it will just make the situation worst. I know this by my experience. One day my friend told me that one of my friend is backstabbing me. According to her, I don't do anything for the group work. The reality was, that person didn't do anything. I am the one doing everything. Every time that person need help, I always help her no matter how busy I am. I never say no and try to help. I get so angry knowing she is backstabbing me after so much I do for her.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
11 Sep 10
Hi, sharie16. With me, I will just not hang around them. I will distance myself away from them. I will also, tell my friend to be wary about them. I don't want my friend to hang out with them. They are full of garbage and I don't want to see my friend hurt because of them being deceitful.
@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I hate gossip, gossip is usually wrong and ruins the lives of people who have things spread about them. If I hear gossip on a friend I usually remind people gossiping that they probably don't know all the true facts. One thing about people who gossip, it says more about them than it does the people they gossip about! People gossip to make themselves seem more important, and they don't care if they spread news that is private to others. I have lots of friends, women & men, not one of them gossips about others, and I think that says a lot about them that they're fair to all, and not petty.