What would you do?
September 26, 2008 1:08pm CST
I have found myself single for the longest time ever now. I sometimes think perhaps I need to go out and meet someone, but then I think not. I mean for 9 years I was in a committed relationship, yet now I am free to do what I please and I can't decide what to do. I miss having someone to hold me, someone to cuddle up with, even just someone to talk with at times, but I also enjoy the privacy, quiet, and solitude of being alone. I don't know if I really want to be in a relationship again. For that matter I don't know how I would go about ending up in one. I don't talk much in person sometimes, and I am very shy at first so I don't really get approached by anyone wanting to get to know me. I want to be with someone but I also enjoy being single. Do you ever feel that being single is weighing you down, or do you prefer it? What do you like most about being single? What do you like Least? If you had the chance, would be in a relationship now, or would you remain single?
• United States
27 Sep 08
Hello CaDreamer, Personally I think you should stay single until you decide what it is that you truly want. Getting into a relationship when your not sure that its what you want wouldn't be fair to either one of you. I haven't been in a long term relationship in a few years now and I'm happy just being single. I get to go out and do whatever and not have to answer to anyone, I don't ever have to worry about having to rush home for anything. But it does get lonely at times and it is nice if you have friends to talk to and go out with. I have had quite a few boyfriends but nothing has really gotten very serious for quite a long time and I am hoping to find someone to settle down with, but I'm not in any real rush. I do have a lot of fun that I don't feel I could have if I was in a relationship. Hugs, Tianna
• United States
8 Oct 08
Thanks for your comment. I agree that you should never rush into something if you are not completely ready for it. I guess I just get really lonely at times and miss what I don't have. However, I think I would be even more miserable if I were to get stuck in something that I am truly not ready for. Again, thanks.
• United States
26 Sep 08
I have been in a similar situation and had very similar thoughts. I am in a relationship right now that is starting to crumble. I miss being single, but will also miss him, even though I realize that the relationship I am in is not a good one for me to stay in. I like being single, but I prefer being in a healthy committed relationship with someone who loves me, more than I like being single. However, I would rather be single than be with the wrong person. What I like most about being single is to be able to do what I want, when I want. What I like least about being single is the reaction of other people who want to know why I am single, and attempt to set me up with their brothers/cousins/friends/etc. I think you'll know when you are ready for a relationship. Don't rush into it before you're ready. That was the mistake I made.
26 Sep 08
You really ought to go out and mix around more. I've got a colleague who is single, and one day, he just broke down and teared, he told me he felt like no girl would ever like him! His nature fits your description, shy, don't mix around well... You really should get to know more people, don't wait till you break down.
28 Apr 09
i would choose single . that will let me have more privacy. everyone don't want someone to get involved his privacy . that's the prevalence of single. when i was a student i feel very happy becasue i can have my priacy. but when i graduated to home , my parents involved my privacy. so sad about that.
28 Sep 08
i can't be single nemore..i've suffered a lot being single..it waz back in 2003 whr a gal called Vicky,admired me n proposed me during my school days..but i didn't care bout' her a lot during dat days cz i waz admiring another gal called Shalu..but i coupled Vicky n she waz quite interesting coz she's cute,preety n very caring n rich 2..but im d total loss guy in school cz i dun study or attend class but dis gal is very smart in education n she dun advise me b'coz she like d wai i am..till i broke up wit her coz Shalu gave me a signal..Vicky come n cry 2 me but i can't do nuthin much..i've tried 2 couple wit Shalu but she waz nt bothered bout' me at d end..afta dat i've tried coupling others but none work n evry gal i c it makes me keep thinking of my ex- which i clash..Mayb its a 'karma'!!but bw im tryin 2 get bek wit her n its been 5 years but she doesnt' sound excited!! i regret n suffered a lot n i dun mind doin nythin 2 get bek wit Vicky!! I want 2 marry her n dats ma aim... Ne idea or sum strategy guide???