How often your husband said I LOVE YOU?

Philippines
September 26, 2008 4:27pm CST
We've almost married for 6 yrs after of relationship in 6 years in short we've been together for a total of 12 yrs.My husband, sometimes i felt he never love me so much. I do always say that i love him so much but him, he will only tell that when i ask him. Ever since we had a relationship he's not like that of being showy for his feelings by words but in action, although he's doing everything to satisfy us for everything we need, financially in short he's a good provider for our family. My other friends told me that my husband is not a showy person in words but in action. He can express his love by doing the right thing for us. Maybe my friends are right. Tell me does your husband has an attitude like that?
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
27 Sep 08
Hi there. Well we are not married yet, but we already lost track, as we say it really often on a daily basis so it's hard to remember how many times - i must wander if it passed 1000 by now or not :D If not - it will surely will soon. Perhaps you should talk to him about it ? Anyway it is better to say it only if he means it, but never saying it from his own part can make you wonder...
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
maybe i would just learn to understand him, because he grown up in family that those words are not present inside their home, in other words. He had a family background expressing love through saying those words is none of their business. that's why when he responded the words i love you i felt he is not comfortable, all does he always say to me is "yes you already know that" then with a kiss.
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
27 Sep 08
Well, i can't really say that it's been used in my family either - and i only said it twice or three times before i said it to my current girlfriend and future wife. But hey, that does not necessarily means that something is wrong, perhaps he is just not the kind of person to say it very often - as long as he shows it to you it's still good, isn't it ? I mean i know you would probably like to hear it, but you can see it present in all the little things that he does for you and for your relationship.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 08
thank you so much for your comment.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
26 Sep 08
ok i tell my wife i love her when she wakes up, before i leave the house, when i come back home, and before we go to bed, and all through the day. i would look over at her, and asked her did i tell you that i love you today ? yeah like 30 times, dear. then i be like ok i love ya again. i love you like a fat kid loves cake. lol
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• Philippines
27 Sep 08
good, how i wish my husband like
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• Philippines
27 Sep 08
of telling that 3 beautiful words, because for me saying those words from him is my inspiration to do more relax.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
26 Sep 08
we are soon 9 yrs of our marriage.we say I LOVE YOU evErytime we say goodnight with a kiss and morning kiss with always saying I LOVE YOU.my husband always said I LOVE YOU and if i dont hear him HE said "you dont love me anymore2? and then approach me and tickle me somewhere.
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• Philippines
26 Sep 08
it's nice to know that you had that kind of husband, you will always feel that you're always loved...good luck..
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
26 Sep 08
thank you.
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• United States
27 Sep 08
Every day. Not always gushy professions of deep emotion, but just a simple "I love you" is enough.
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• Philippines
27 Sep 08
i think so, because that words is very powerful words. thanks
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@brisk123 (2826)
• India
26 Sep 08
Same with my partner.It has been almost going to be three years and he is still shy or what I am not sure of though to express his feelings properly to me.I know he love me very much but at times,I would love to hear more from him other than saying 3 letter words.He is good,and he is working really hard for our good future,I can see that,but I want some more of his expressions too,do I sound like I am expecting too much?
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• Philippines
27 Sep 08
perhaps our husband quite the same when it comes to that although we know they are good family person...they just maybe show their love in other ways. thanks for the comment.
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@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
26 Sep 08
You should read this article: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html. Your friend is right about your husband. I assume your primary love language is words of affirmation. You feel most loved if your husband say sweet stuff to you. However, his primary love language is different. His primary love language is probably service. You should send the article to your husband and tell him that you feel most loved when he says that he loves you and needs you, etc. Ideally speaking, everybody should learn all the five love languages so that they can give love to different people with different primary love language. People can have either one primary love language or at least two of them. Hope this helps. My primary love language is quality time and hubby's primary love languages are quality time and physical touch. So I make sure I touch him a lot so that he feels loved (hug, caress). If I feel that he doesn't give me enough quality time, I'll tell him that and ask him to give me time. That way it's a win-win situation. :-))))
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• Philippines
26 Sep 08
thank you so much, i feel at peace.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
27 Sep 08
Husbands and wifes Love is a a matter of feeling.It need not to utter.Many time utterence do not prove anybody's love to wife or husband. Love is such kind of bond that can be felt in heart.The lenguage of love some thing more than body.If your husband really loves you, you feel it by your emotion.Your husband's attitude will tell you whether he loves you or not.
@rosedust82 (2074)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Hi mel... There really are guys who are not the showy type. I remember one of my friends telling me that she had to ask her husband to send her flowers for Valentine's Day because he's not in the habit of sending flowers period. I guess you can talk to your husband about that. Sometimes, it just takes a good talk to get things straight. To answer your question, I'm not married yet but I'd like to share some of my thoughts. Well, my fiance and I love to say those words. Our day is incomplete if we do not say that to each other. It's sort of our "food for the day". My fiance is sweet when it comes to certain things but can be completely oblivious to my feelings on other things. Sometimes, I would tease him about it and he gets the point. Lol. Sometimes, we have to spell it out to men what we want. My fiance tells me that a lot of times. Lol.
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
maybe your right, i would try to talk regarding on that, to get what i am expected maybe sooner or later they would love do it and make it a habit. thanks
• United States
27 Sep 08
I never did hear my daddy tell my mother that he loved her or her tell him that she loved him. Then, there was my ex husband and he did not tell me that he loved except on special occasions if he remembered. I love a man that tells me that he loves me for no reason other than that he does love me.
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
yah you're right.
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@esilanna (168)
• Malta
29 Sep 08
Hello mylotting friend!!! You have to be happy with the fact that your husband shows his affection with attitudes rather than with words. There are a lot of people who speak words and act in an opposite manner. Happy mylotting!!!