What would you do if you found out the one you love is related to you ?

[i]Hi sam, I am thankful it never happen to me..LOL! I know how tough it is...ANyway, I have few friends who experienced this situation and the day of their wedding when all the relatives arrived, people exchANGE stories and found out that the bride and groom is related and they decided to just move on and live happily! If ever it's not a close relative, I will move on with my relationship, we will not give it up![/i]

Can't imagine what will happened to me as that really hurt. Actually the bad part is not to have baby as understand some how some way is not good for them. For relationship, if is only known between both of us, then i think i will keep the secret forever as i might not want this to cause any impact on our relationship. =)

Hi sam... If I found out that the one I love is related to me, I would still love him...and if we had kids, I would still love him... I believe we all are related to each other...so it wouldn't bother me...

Being from the south it is believed that this happens alot! lol If you found out that someone you love is your relative chances are they are distant relatives which is not at all illegal. As far as marrying cousins, sisters, and parents I have issues with that. If you fall in love with immediate family members then I would seek counseling. If it is a distant relative, who cares if you love em. Nothing wrong with it.

I suppose it would depend on what the relationship was as to how I would handle it. An uncle would definitely be a no-no. But I'm not so sure about a cousin. Cousins married in the Bible, and marrying cousins is allowed all over the world and in a few states in the U.S.

for me, it will depend on the degree of our relationship. if we are siblings or half siblings or first cousins, i will end the relationship, whether we have kids or none yet, otherwise, i will continue with the relationship considering that we are not aware that we are relatives. it is not our fault.

would probably freak out. don't really think that would be a very good place to be in.

Well, that would certainly make for some awkward moments. I would have to break things off right away until we get it sorted out as to how closely related we are and then figure it out but we probably wouldn't be able to be lovers again. If there were children, that would really complicate things. One or the other would have to take care of said children while the other would get visitation. This would be really hard to accept and I suppose that if they weren't very closely related they could stay together but having more children should be out of the question but all of these things should be decided by them. I know that if I was in this position and I was truly in love with him and he was like a cousin or something I might try to keep the relationship going but there would never be any kids after the revelation, but it would have to be decided by both. If I truly loved him I would have a hard time letting him go. Hugs, Tianna

I guess it would depend on where we are in the relationship. If we have been intimate and dating for some time, I don't really know what the point would be in stopping. The damage has been done and obviously you can't turn your emotions off because of this, new found information. And heaven forbid if there are already kids are involved. This would be akward but what can you do?

Howdy samtaylorskykierajen I think if I was already married to them and we already had kids then there is very little point doing anything about it especially if the kids are ok, if you know what I mean. If I was just dating someone then it would depend how close he was in relation to me but if it was too close then I would have to call it a day.

oh my god that will be hard will for sure this would have to end to find out you are enlove with your relative is somthing i really would want to think about even though i know it could happen at any given time.

Ive seen an experience like this when I was growing up. My neighbor back in Puerto Rico didn't know his family at all and he ended up being with a girl that he meet at the mall. The crazy thing about it its that they were going to have a kid together she was about 6 months pregnant and she wanted him to go to the USA to meet her family. When he came to the USA he ended up finding out that the girl he was with was his 2nd counsin. They were both heart broken but they didnt know anything about it. They ended up staying together and right now they have 2 kids together but hey thats there lifes. I personally wouldn't be with a person I am related to but its sad that some people nowadays don't know there family members and then they end up together and end up suffering because they find out they are related.

That would be really hard, but I think I would have to seperate. If I didn't I would feel really weird for the rest of my life. Hopefully no kids would be involved. It would be really hard on the kids if they were, and if there were kids involved, with how harsh kids can be, i wouldn't tell them out of fear that school kids would make fun of them.

That is a very hard thing to say! I would be very unconfortable if I had a children with my cousin or something - but after all many years ago it was obvious for people to marry their cousins or other realtives (uncles or anything) ^^" If I wouldn't be married with my ,let's say - brother - and no one really would know about it except us I think I would continue a relationship in a way it was, just without anythin including law :)

I would wonder why no one in my family bothered to tell me, before I fell in love with the person. Once two people are in love there is nothing that can be done about it, and if there was something they should have known before becoming involved with eachother, it was up to those in the family who knew to fill them in on the information.

This would probably be the hardest thing to do but I believe that the right thing to do is to separate. If the two people are unaware of their family ties, it is not their fault but once the knowledge is out there then it is the responsibility of each party to do what's right. Now that doesn't mean that it would be the easiest. If children were involved then it would have to be explained to them that mom and dad love each other but in finding that they are related, they are doing the right thing by separating. Children learn from our examples and although it's hard to be a role model, it is our job and that's all there's to it. Now make sure that the children understand that they had nothing to do with this, no one is at fault and that they will have two loving parents that love them and will be there for them. Children are more resilent than we adults give them credit for.

Wow! I would be flattered and nervous! I guess it would be too late now, we have already had kids and have become intimate.. It is just too late to turn back now..

In Bibical times and in other countries they marry distant cousins. So it think it would be ok. As long as you dont go out to deliberately marry a close relative. Even if you found out it was a closer relative it wasnt intentional.

Tough question, I don't know-what would you do?

Oh! The situation when we come to know will be the hardest ever we come across. I would like that this type of situation never come. If we had children then what will be the condition of those children too. God help the situation whenever it come. Still It is very hard to separate and I can't think of such situation. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.