Advice with unemploymet!

@glords (2614)
United States
September 28, 2008 9:26pm CST
My brother lost his job over a month ago. I know that he is a very capable and intelligent person but he is very depressed and is constantly berated and put down by his wife. She constantly insults him in front of his children, family, and friends. I'm not sure why he hasn't found a new job. Possibly because of depression, loss of self esteem, or the poor economy. I am so worried about him. He has two children to support. What would you say or do to help out if your brother was in this situation?
3 responses
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
What i would do to help my brother is boost his self confidence and give him great advice. It's been only a month since he lost his job so i dont think he or you should get alarmed because im sure he'll get accepted sooner or later. Tell him to think positively. Maybe he's being rejected in job applications has something to do with his aura. Since you said he's depressed, people may be sensing that negativity. Assure him that everything's gonna be fine.
@glords (2614)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Thanks for the advice. I just hope that being positive can undo all of the negative that his wife is putting him through.
• United States
29 Sep 08
I would tell him to keep his head up and to not stop trying. I would also tell him to stand up to his wife and tell her it's unacceptable for her to be berated and put down in front of their children and friends. It's one thing to hash things out in privacy but in front of the children is a big no no. My sister recently moved down here from Michigan and quit a job she was in for 15 years. She has been down here for 3 months now and she is still job searching. She just recently got hired in for part time, but as far as full time she is still searching as part time will not pay the bills. Tell your brother to apply EVERYWHERE even if he thinks he is over qualified or underqualified for a job. You just never know. They say you get one call back for every 10 jobs you apply for, which is very little...so tell him to apply apply apply!! I wish your brother the best of luck! The job market is not what it used to be...
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
29 Sep 08
I would make sure that he spends time away from her and offer to help him find a job. Sounds like once he is in the work place he will perk back up. I can understand what he is going through because the same thing is going on with my husband. He lost his job over the summer and a prior employer practically begged for him to come back, and he just got laid off....IF we are lucky he will have a job in 2months, by then we won't have a place to live though