Who Should be More Helpful, a Son or a Daughter?

@mjmlagat (3171)
Philippines
September 29, 2008 4:36am CST
Does gender matter when it comes to sharing household chores in your family? In our culture, we tend to rely on the helping hands of female siblings in the family rather than the males because we always have the notion that works at home are intended mostly for girls. They usually help moms to keep the house clean, wash dishes or clothes, etc. It means parents are expecting much more from their girls to help out than from their boys. Do you think this is fair enough? What are yoyr thoughts on this?
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24 responses
@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
30 Sep 08
I think that how helpfull a child would be doesn't depend on the child's gender but on how will the family raise their children. If parents learn them to be helpfull at home they'll be helpfull if they only spoil them neither girls nor boys would be helpfull at home...
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
yes, i believe that the value for work starts from home, the way parents teach their kids and be their own examples for such value. Thanks for sharing!
@underdogtoo (9601)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
When I was growing up I was the only one who would help my mom with everything. I would go with her to the market and do the dishes and the washing. I have 2 sisters who were like princesses and could not be bothered with the household chores.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Hi there! God bless you for such a generous heart! Your mom must be very proud of you. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
• China
30 Sep 08
Hi, I think son and daughter are both helpful to a family,sometimes,we can't choose our sisters or brothers,so,we must accept the gifts that god arranged without selecting!!Thanks!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Thanks for the response. Have a nice day!
• India
30 Sep 08
In household chores female siblings are more helpful. Whatever we tell or whatever accept always girld child will be doing the houseworks. That is what is our culture. Male siblings are always there to earn for the house and they are always demanding and controlling so that is what is the policy in our country from long long ago..So I think that can never be changed..
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Okay, good luck and thanks for sharing!
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
30 Sep 08
i think gender should have nothing to do at all with sharing the household chores in the family... regardless whether you are a male or female, you still have to help out... especially if both wife and hubby are working full-time like what is happening most in today's society to meet the financial needs... take care and have a nice day...
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
You, too my Friend! Thanks for responding to my discussion. Happy posting!
@alankor (479)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
neh i dont think so. children should be helpful towards their parents regardless of gender. we should all be filial to our parents as they are the ones who give us life. personally , i always wash my dishes after i eat finish and clean my own things to lessen my parents' chores. helpful person i am , issnt it?
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
You sure are! Keep up the good work and thanks for the response.
@my125125 (822)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 08
For me, Yes it is true that girls more help parent to do the cleaning, for boys sometimes will do, not every time, they are busy work, For girls, they are more help their parent,(specially the women after married or after have the baby), they are more knowing how hard the parent get them grow up.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Yes, taking care of an infant is really a task done by women this maybe because women already have this maternal instinct within. Thanks for sharing.
@winzpc (2356)
• Indonesia
30 Sep 08
I think son or daughter is the same. In my place, every couple want to have son. They want son because can keep their descent. Because in here, every child has their father surname, so if they have son, the surname will exist until their grandchild. Me myself doesn't matter which I will get. Because son and daughter is the same. They have their equal rigts now. We can find that man can do housework and office work, also woman can do the same thing, house and office work. Keep post Happy myLotting...
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing, Happy posting!
• United States
30 Sep 08
I dont think it should be about the gender of what child should help around the house. If your part of the family then you should help do things around the house as well as the other. I have 2 boys and my oldest boy hes 2 yrs old and he likes helping weather it be cooking or cleaning or building something or helping out with his little brother thats 9 months old. So i dont think it should be about gender.No i dont think its fair but some people do seem to think that the "girls" should do house work and the boys should. Well like i said my oldest he does things because he wants to i dont expect him to but he does it cause he thinks its fun.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Hi there! It's because your kids have been seeing everyone in your family helping out each other that the task seemed natural for them. Congratulations for a job well done in training them. Thanks for your time!
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
30 Sep 08
i really don't think gender matters-i have a partner that works hard outside of the home as well as in the home-he does dishes floors laundry garbage vacumming-everything i do and my 2 boys grew up seeing this and they learned from him-my 20 year old and 26 year old sons also do laundry cooking cleaning dishes etc-i am very proud of my 3 men!!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Congratulations my Friend! You are indeed blessed by their presence in your life!
• United States
29 Sep 08
Actually, I would expect both genders to help out more. One gender doesn't overrule the other. If there's something that needs to be done, both should help out. I guess it just depends on the culture, but in my culture, both genders help out. My daughter and my nephew helps out anyone who need it.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
They must be trained very well! Thanks for your time! Happy posting!
@JayJashG (290)
• India
29 Sep 08
There is mostly gender bias in this. Gals are supposed to do the household chores. I know guys who help their moms and their wives and i am lucky that people like them exist still. My mom asks me to do it just because I am the big sister.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Okay, Thanks a lot for sharing time with us!
• United States
29 Sep 08
Both of them need to help out. Why should only one of them help? That wouldn't be fair and wouldn't be good for the other child to be so lazy. It's important to learn how to take care of yourself.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
..and of others! Thanks for your time and happy posting!
@debbie9 (11)
• United States
29 Sep 08
There are just as many household chores that boys can do as girls. I did have my daughter help more in the kitchen than my son. I also would have him help more outside than I would expect her to. However, I would have them both help with laundry and vacuuming, etc. I am sure a lot of households have children equally help in all areas. You never know when your son or daughter is going to live alone and these skills could come in very handy!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing! Good day!
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
29 Sep 08
In my household, both my sons and my daughter are expected to help out. There is no favortism as to gender. I do, however; expect more out of my oldest child because I feel that he needs to set the example for those that look up to him. Also, with more beig expected from him, he gets more privledges. It works out fairly even in the end.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
That sure works! Thanks for your time!
• United States
29 Sep 08
Personally when I was a child 10-16 I had the bulk of the chores as my sister was taking college classes in high school + Denver Police Explorer+ track. And even before all that I had the bulk of chores. I think that in general the male should be required to do more so Strength involving chores whereas the females should be doing things like cleaning cooking etc. and maybe every now and again switch the two out for a week.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Just Fair enough! This is for exposure's sake! Thanks for your response!
@foxyfire33 (10017)
• United States
29 Sep 08
My boys have always been taught the same things their sisters were taught. I completely disagree with labeling jobs and chores by gender. It's not fair to raise girls to be maids and boys to be lazy.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
True because when they all grow up and have their own lives to live, they won't be able to share about diligence, something they don't have because they were not trained to. Thanks for your time!
• United States
29 Sep 08
i definitely don't think the gender of a child should influence whether or not they help out with chores or have more or less responsibility. i know for some cultures that is the way, but in our family it is not. my husband actually does all of the cooking- he likes to do it and has always liked to do it. he just kindof assumed that role before we were even married. we have two boys- 1 and 3- and my 3-year old helps out with certain chores. he loves to help "fold" the laundry with me and dust and things like that. granted, he really doesn't help much yet, but he wants to. i think every child should be given responsibilities- they teach a child so much. my husband helps out with dishes or cleaning if need be. most of the time it is me doing it, but that is mainly because i am home all day with the kids. if i need him to pitch in and help me out he has no problem doing so, and i think that sets a great example for our children. i have seen guys that think it is the woman's job to do all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the child-rearing, etc. i think that is just plain selfish and inconsiderate. it is one thing to want to do these things because you want to be a good wife/mother, but to have it be expected of you all the time is not fair.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Absolutely right! Men are most admirable if they can show their versatility and being more responsible in helping out with household chores especially if situations require. Cheers to your Family my Friend!Thanks.
@sadlyboy (30)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 08
In my opinion, both are the same. No matter you are females or males, if they are obedience to their parents, no matter you give how many tasks to them they will complete it in sometimes. Most of us will think that daughters is more helpful than son, because son is very lazy than daughter, and daughter is same gender to her mother, her father has to work for the family, so that, the son will follow as his father and do not do any household chores. On the other way, all the household chores can also depend on son or daughter interesting to do it, for example: Son almost like to wiping the floor or sweeping the floor, but for daughters they like clean the windows and wash dishes. That's all i want to share, thank you.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing your opinion! Happy posting!
@rainmark (4307)
29 Sep 08
In the country where i from, girls are always helping the mother in cleaning the house and other households chores and boys are going to help the father in the farm or helping the father in fixing inside the house. Sometimes, boys are be trained in households so they can help too. So it's only depends on the parents how they trained thier kids.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Division of labor is a very good technique to easen workloads at home. But of course, that doesn't mean that there is exclusivity when it comes to which work should be done by either gender, right? Thanks for sharing Rainmark!