Do you spend a long time talking to friends whenyou meet them?

@Bebs08 (10690)
United States
September 29, 2008 4:47pm CST
OH my goodness my hubby does this a lot of times. When he meet friends, he can spend an hour or more talking to them. It annoys me sometimes waiting for him. There was one time I told him that we will sleep on that place so that he can spend the whole day and night talking. and I tell you what? He even forgot the time of eating, when he started to talk to his friends. Thats what happen when we visit some place and he happen to meet his friends. I end up yawning waiting for him in the car. I don't join their conversation because their topic is not my thing... They talk about work, business etc, my goodness they can spend even the whole day forgetting the time. What about you? who talks a lot with friends? you or your hubby? I can see some husbands also waiting for their wives who are still talking with their friends.. This usually happens after church, when everybody is about to go home. Just curious to hear you story too.
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@salonga (27998)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Oh I hate that kind of situation! Waiting for my hubby to finish his talking with his peers. I'm very impatient when it comes to waiting. It's alright for me to wait for as long as I am doing something productive while waiting like doing some lessons for my Sunday School class , or I have some magazines that I can read while waiting. But if I have no aids like that I'd probably end up going home alone instead of waiting for him in the car. So when we would visit my in-laws, I'd bring along my laptop and lots of books because my hubby would usually engage in long conversation with my brothers in law and that would really bore me the whole day so I have to help myself. I can't ask him to cut short the conversations because we do not visit them so often so that is understandable. In most cases, my husband avoids long conversation because he knows me very well. In my case on the other hand, I make sure I do the same to him. I think we just have to be sensitive to each other's likes and dislikes.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahaha there you go my friend, we are very much alike. I hate to wait for a long time and that I would help myself by doing something while waiting. I usually have books to read, or do knitting or whatever it is just to keep myself busy. I don't want to join their conversation because sometimes I can't understand their accent. hahaha I end up laughing together with them when they all laugh together even if I don't understand why. hahahaha... good if some of my girl friends are around too and then I can also talk girly things.
@salonga (27998)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Ha!ha!ha! That's funny!
@shana123 (2096)
• India
30 Sep 08
Yea if im meeting the friends after a long time then surely it will take long time for me to finish the conversation, i just keep them shooting up with so many questions and i would leave the friend as if there is nothing to talk anymore here then for atleast a month lol, yeah i just keep on speaking with them lol, but if it is a friend whom i can meet at any time or at constant touch i will talk and leave soon , i never make others wait while talking , i dont know how my guy is exactly as he is not too good at talking to his friends though his friends wants him to speak and spend more time with him.I just hate when some one needs my guy when im there lol
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahaha some guys can spend long time talking to friends like ladies do. Sometimes I told to my hubby that he is like a woman keeps on talking hahahaha... Well, I am also talking but wouldn't spend much time if there is somebody waiting for me.
@mommyfied (243)
29 Sep 08
i spend a long time talking to friends also especially those whom i haven't seen for a long time. but my husband is very patient about it. i do not hear anything from him because he knows that i seldom see my friends anymore. we give each other permissions to go out with friends from time to time and sometimes, we join in to their conversation. it is not a bad thing though because sometimes when you talk with friends, you end up planning a new business or that friend ends up helping you on a problem. if my husband sees that i've met up with a friend, he'll find a way to amuse himself like hooking up to an ipod.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
wow!! I like that idea. I admire your hubby for being understanding and patient. sometimes I am impatient specially if I am already hungry and my hubby still talking like an hour more? That's why sometimes, I just bring reading materials to make my time useful while waiting for him.
@checapricorn (16069)
• United States
30 Sep 08
[i]Hi Bebs, Maybe it was long lost friend? LOL! ANyway, I can talk to old and close friends a lot longer...LOL! But not to new acquaintance! My husband has that skills also..LOL! When he is talking to a close friend, they can talk a lot and longer and most of the time, it will bored me! and when I am with them, I feel like I am "mr bean"...smiling to both of them as if I like the and enjoy the conversation...hahahhaha![/i]
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Hi Che, I can't stand that long joining them because their conversation is about work and other things.. hahah that is not my line.. so I have to exit and find amusement while waiting for them to finish. I wish I could drive already so that I can go around the place then just come back when they are done talking
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• United States
1 Oct 08
That is my wish also Bebs..hmm....hopefully soon! LOL!
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
hi there bebs, as for me i would only stay for a long talk if the person that i came across is someone that i haven't seen for a long time and we are really close friends or a relative that i am really close to but if it is just a mere acquaintance i'll just stop for a short chat and bade my goodbyes after a minute or too.going back to, meeting an old friend, there would be a lot of things to consider if i am alone and my friend is not on a hurry maybe we can find some place to talk a longer but if i am with a company or the friend that i met is in a hurry i would usually stay for a while and set a time and date for us to talk for a longer time. :) i would always consider my company and the sked of my friend. have a great day!!!
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
yea, that;s the best thing to do. Well, i can wait for a short time but like hours? oh my goodness!!! that's too much? my stomach usually complains because I am hungry waiting ..
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• Philippines
30 Sep 08
hi there, if you are really bothered about it friend try to talk with your husband about it.. i think it is a matter of communicating with each other. hope this helps. :)
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I spend a long time talking to my friend Bebs. In college, I only have 3 good friends, and in classroom, i want to talk to them than listening to our teacher. Sometimes, when our teacher gets boring, in order to us not to be bored, we get a piece of paper in our desk and wrote there what we want to say:). Funny isn't it?hahaha! Everytime I remember those times with my friend, I missed them.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
oh yes, It is fun to talk to friends but I find it very annoying when I am the one waiting for my companion who keeps on talking. My hubby keeps on talking for a long time even if it's time to go. Sometimes I just bring something to read to pass the time waiting for him to finish talking.
• United States
30 Sep 08
Haha! That's nice to hear. Husbands are like that sometimes. I also experienced that when me and my husband came to visit a friend, at first i'm sitting beside them but I got bored because I can't get in to their discussion and his friend's wife doesn't to sit with them, so I stood up and talk to her wife's friend.
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
I love talking with my friends for hours; we don’t see each other as often so when we got to see each other there are lots of stories to be told. It’s refreshing to see and hear their stories. But, same as you I don’t want to be the one who waits though I’m still single and don’t have a husband yet ( maybe in the near future ) I experienced waiting for my mother to finish her chit chat with her church friends. It’s a little annoying especially when I have to wait standing, I’d try to be considerate for my mom and wait patiently. But sometimes when it’s longer than expected, I would came to them ( it’s like a code so I wouldn’t have to say Mom, we have to go, it’s rude )so my mom would know that we have to go and said her goodbye to her friends.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
3 Oct 08
wow!! you are very good!!! yes, for sure it is annoying when you are the ones waiting for them to talk. Like my hubby, he can spend more time even if it means skipping the lunch. I would never complain if I will not be there waiting for a long time.
• India
30 Sep 08
i also forget time when i am with my friends but still keeping in my mind that my hubby is alone at home. Me n my hubby lives alone so he mostly try to go with his friend with his wife so i can accompany him and not get bored at home. but when he is in tention then he needs his friend and take so much time. I will suggest you one thing that try to take interest in your husband conversation with his friends. U will feel great and u will get rid of ur boringness.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
1 Oct 08
hahahaha!! I couldn;t stand it. when they talk about men thing. like business and work and appointment, I can not relate to that? so I have to exit and do my own thing.
@minwei86 (33)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
Yeah.. I often spend a very long time talking to friends when meet. Is just a different feeling compare to chatting online or on the phone. Tend to talk more under the sun stuff when meet up. And you can show your expression clearly. But for spending long time talking is only applied to very good frenz. I unable to talk very long time to someone that i just knew
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
1 Oct 08
yea, I know how it feels when friends are there, we really enjoyed talking but when there is someone waiting for us, we should also be considerate to limit our talking because it may annoy our companion waiting for a long time. CHEERS...
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
30 Sep 08
My husband is like that also, it never fails wherever we go, there will be someone there he knows and they will stop and talk and talk. He is the only man I ever knew that could talk on a phone more than a woman can, I don't even talk on the phone that much, when his friends call, he will be on there an hour sometimes longer, just talking, about whatever men talk about, usually fishing, hunting or dogs..lol. Mine does anyway..ha. Even at church he talks to more people than I do, so I usually have to wait for him to get done..lol. He's the talker, and I'm the quiet one.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
1 Oct 08
hahaha pretty much like mine, on the phone, at church, anywhere.. when he meet friends that's what he is and like you I will wait.. but sometimes I am bored waiting.
@Jean25 (344)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Well, they are his friends after all. well, i have a boy friend but he keeps it to himself and talk little to his friends. he rather spent more than an hour or two with me instead.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
wow!! that's sweet!!!!
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I am like you my husband like to talk alot to people I usually have to go over there and tell him to come on and he still talks for a little while longer and we take his aunt grocery shopping every 2 weeks and she always says he is like his grandaddy so she says he will adventually come on so I just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one out there.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahahah glad to know I am not the only one who is having a talkative hubby.. hehehe it is just annoying sometimes when I am waiting for a long time. that's it... but i am fine if he will talk longer as long as I am not with him waiting.
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
30 Sep 08
haha,your hubby must be a very interesting person.but its annoying for u to wait for him.i can underatand. i wouldnt do that.if i happen to meet my old friend when i am not alone, i may talk to him for a few minutes and then i will make appointment with him.we can talk other day.sometimes,things also happen that he is not alone when meeting me,we couldnt talk long.i may only talk long to him when we are both alone.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
You are very good!! hahaha at least you have concerned for your companion. My hubby would just say, why you did not tell me that it is time to go home? hahahah what? he doesn't know that it is already time to go home? there were times that we were the last persons in the church after service because he keeps on talking and we are left behind..
30 Sep 08
It depends on how long it has been since we spoke last I guess. Sometimes we can talk for ages, other times we have just a few words to say.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahaha talking for ages!! that's cute if there is no one waiting... I must leanr to be patient anyway.
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Hi! I also spend a long a time to my friends particularly if I haven't see that friends for a long time. We really will talk endlessly for the whole day just to catch up with our lives. Might also spend the whole day forgetting the time too.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
there's no problem dear if nobody is waiting.. but if someone is already hungry?? waiting.. I have to make signs to let him stop and continue the topic the next time they meet.
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
hello there! i spend a long time when i meet my friends.especially now that we don't see each other that much.so,whenever we got the chance to meet up,what we usually do is hang-out in a fastfood chain and talk about everything.well,we usually talk about the new things that are happening with our lives.happy mylotting!
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahaha that's exactly the same with my hubby. Talking about things new in their work and daily activities. And it is like forever .
• United States
30 Sep 08
I'm usually a talker but I try to keep it to a minimum but sometimes I go over. If it seems like its going to be a long time then give him a sign to let him know that its been too long. Come one, you girls have that power.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I did!!! sometimes a go around them while talked, or I walk to and fro. hahaha.. but hen maybe he never notice it because he is engross with his subject. hahaha.. He would just told me after that he just want to spend time with them.. ok Fine!!!! but not that long I am hungry!!!!
• India
30 Sep 08
Hehehe... isn't it funny how much time men can spend with their friends?? Of course, we can't generalize, I have seen women also who can't stop talking once they have begun!! But then, isn't there a saying that women talk more??? ;) Cheers and happy mylotting
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahaha right!! women talked more but i wonder why my hubby is like a woman hahaha... he really has many topics to share to his friends...
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
30 Sep 08
It sounds like a bit of jealousy going on here. If your husband likes to talk why not ask him to make coffee dates with his friends and you can go shopping or stay at home. No one has said you must wait for him ,you have taken that on your self.I am sure you are able to walk so if he is visiting with friends go for a walk and tell him he can come and get you when he is finished. You have to understand you are not the only person in his life, he has friends, business associates, and maybe you do not have and so you count on him to keep you company when he is not working, time to let him have his friends and visits, at least he takes you along he could leave you at home cooling your heels, when life hands you lemons , make lemon aid, don't be sour.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
hahaha, there's no jealousy in here. Sure I will let him talk as long as I am not with him waiting. I can't also go because I can't drive and here in my place, you can not just walk anywhere. hahahaha.. you have to ride and there's no passenger vehicle around us. I have to ride with him and he is the one driving. How I wish I can drive soon so that I can go anytime I need to.