will u adopt child or hv u own child after married?

@candysky (855)
Malaysia
September 29, 2008 9:09pm CST
me n my dear plan to married but v dun plan to hv our own child... bcoz in this world, hv a children tat really need love.... so, v plan to adopt child... well, all the mylotter, how about u? will u plan to hv ur own child or will u adopt child? or is there any reason tat u wish to adopt child? Let sharing...
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6 responses
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I never think of adopting a child yet. I just recently got married and my husband and i decided to have a child after 5 years of our marriage. We still want to treasure our time of being alone and i still have to help my family so i really have to work har. Besides, having a child is different. I am not against of having a child, in fact i love to have a child but i want it to be in the right time. But if GOd will give it to us even before 5 years, I will accept it, wholeheartedly. happy mylotting!
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 08
Hai friend... thanks for your respond... congratulation .... wish u hv a happy life with ur husband and you two can have a good plan... Thanks for response and have a nice day...
• United States
3 Oct 08
We had our own, but he is an only child. I did not care for pregancy or the first year of mommyhood-- it is way easier now that he is 4, but he really wants a brother. So now is the time to adopt-- If I were to have another child. I would just adopt a 5 year old-- easier to adopt and a great age. s My sister was put up for adoption and found us-- she is a full sister and yes my parents (her parents) are still together. It came down to bad timing for her-- so she was put up for adoption-- she had a great life and her family couldn't have children. So I think adoption is a great thing. It helps children that don't have a family to love as well as helps a family that can't have children. I am soooo for adoption. It is really up to what is right for you.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 08
i agreed with you... it is really true tat adoption is a great thing.... I hope the whole world children have a happiness life.... Thanks for your response and have a nice day...
@maximax8 (27048)
1 Oct 08
I am lucky because I already have two sons, one aged 16 months and one aged 13 years. Yes, that there is quite an age gap there, a toddler and a teenager. I would love to have a daughter. If it was easier to adopt a little girl I would do this. I am a primary school teacher and I have taught adopted and fostered children. I know that the social workers don't always consider the child's feelings. There are so many girls in China that need to be adopted. There are so many children that haven't got a home. It would be so wonderful to adopt one of them and give them a wonderful life.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 08
thanks for your response... me n my dear having the same thinking as you... is true, there a so many children that need to be adopted and they need a wonderful life... Thanks for your response and have a nice day...
@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 08
Nope. I didn't plan to have my own child, so as my dear. We have the same thinking and planning so we won't have a fight over this. We plan to adopt child maybe from other places. There are still a lot of children out there who needs love so we decide we should give a love shelter for these children.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 08
i think both of us having a same thinking as well as our dear also have the thinking.... well, let's hope all the world have a very happy life.... all live happiness.... Thanks for response and have a nice day...
@jsloh1989 (181)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
I will want to have my own kids. Of course, as a guy, it's easy for me to say I want my own kids. I do understand the pain that a girl have to go through during pregnancy and so on and so forth, thus, I often wonder if I will want my other half to go through such torment. But I think I will still want my own kids. I don't know. I am only 19, it's too early for me to plan this. LOL.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 08
well, i think that is nvr too early to have a plan... well, i understand tat wish to hv own kids feeling... coz, tats is ur own kids... there r a relationship tat will never cut off... Thanks for your respond n happy mylotting....
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• United States
30 Sep 08
I'm not sure, I think both
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 08
Thanks for your respond... wat is ur dear thinking? i think if u hv ur own child, for the adopt child, u won't really take care coz they r not ur own... well, tis is just my comment on it... Thanks for repond n hv a nice day... Happy mylotting...
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