Live in relation before marriage
September 30, 2008 5:00am CST
In this modern society,so many youths have started living together outside of commitment to marriage.More of couples now live together before getting married and many others live together instead of getting married.Nowadays the rates of living together are even higher for remarriage.Many believe that living together is a good way to test the relationship or give it a trial run,many think it will help them to decide whether to commit to marriage with a particular partner.What is your opinion about this?
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1 Oct 08
I think it is a very sensible idea. It is very easy to think you are in love with someone and yet find that you cannot live with them. Living together first is a great way to discover that you are well matched. There is an old phrase that states that "you never know someone until you live within 4 walls with them' and I think it is very true. I know people who spent a fortune getting married and were divorcing 2 years later because the wife discovered that loving her husband was not enough she found living with him just too hard. People have habits that you just do not see when dating. People who date are on their best behavior the whole time but when you live together you see all them not just the glossy cover. When you are sure you are well matched then go ahead and get married because you know as a couple you work.
1 Oct 08
I would say I disagree with living in before marriage. It's just like finding a loophole to get out from the commitment and responsibilities of married life. If you want to spend a lifetime relationship with your partner, the best way bind and legitimize the relationship is through marriage. There are no tests or trial runs when it comes to a lifetime relationship that's why it takes considerable time for both parties to think it through before they decide to get married. After all, you can still still see how the relationship works when you are still engaged so why skip the wedding ceremony?
30 Sep 08
Hello,Sunil! The Indian does not permit this sort of live in relationship.It has been a borrowed culture from the western countries where marriage is never considered as a social institution for which the relationship breaks sooner or later.If they understood each other before their marriage why these marriages break and cases of divorce mounting up every year?It is not the way of understanding each other but a way of enjoying life before marriage.No culture would accept such farce.So the best system of relationship what is practiced in India is definitely good.I appreciate the idea of love after marriage not before because the society gives social sanction to couples to live together only after marriage.thanx.
30 Sep 08
yes i found myself in such situation four years ago when i was pregnant with my first child, we are living without marriage, and i found it helpful for i had time to think things through and i also found out more about my husband all, negative and positive and it made me realize that i need him in my life, it might not how it is for other people but for me living together without the sanctity of marriage helped a lot, it build our bond, it became stronger and we learned more about each other...