Dad's home, we're in trouble now!

United States
September 30, 2008 7:06pm CST
Is this what happens in your house? It usually does in mine. My husband gets home right around bedtime everynight. And usually as he's coming in, I'm completely exasperated and fed up with the kids playing around when they should be going to sleep. So I give him a quick rundown of anything that has me overly stressed, and he heads up and lectures and yells. Then they all settle and go to sleep and I can finally relax.
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@redkathy (3375)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Nope not in my house. I think that's because I demanded that the boys respect me. It would be more like "You will go to bed now and your Dad is going to be very upset to hear I grounded you guys from ____." Then if they were still getting on my last nerve I did it! And I did tell Dad and they got a lectured from him about how they needed to respect me, to do what I asked of them! They hated his long speeches. A few of those episodes and they got the message.
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• United States
1 Oct 08
Now ya know, my kids are good kids for the most part. I am complimented by strangers all the time on their behavior in public, which makes me proud. But at home it's a different story. If they are bored for 1 moment, all heck breaks loose, and it becomes uncontrolable. The hardest part is getting the twins to go to sleep. Their bedroom is right above the livingroom, so I hear every noise they make, and by that time I'm drained and just want some quiet, and they won't be quiet. I'll end up yelling up a few times for them to settle down and go to sleep, but after about the 10th time I'm getting aggravated. So he gets home right about that time and I'm ready to snap because they won't listen.
@redkathy (3375)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Twins... I didn't have to deal with two that close in age, let alone twins. I guess I would be a bit frazzled myself. I guess one never knows until they stand in someone else shoes!
• United States
1 Oct 08
I've been frazzled with them since the moment they were born, honest! Luckily they're in school now so I get a nice break during the day. I had moments where I seriously just threw up my hands and said "I quit, I'm not doing this anymore". They drained the life out of me. The oldest isn't so easy either. Granted he's getting better with age, but there's times he's the worst of the bunch, and that's saying something when I got 5 kids of different ages. He's smart, and knows right from wrong, and usually recieves great compliments from strangers... but the boy is just a pain sometimes. He's an instigator and an aggravator, and it's always because he's bored! Just thinking about it is getting me frustrated, lol.
@GreenMoo (11842)
7 Oct 08
Absolutely not! I really don't agree that one parent should be the disciplinarian one and be relied upon to dish out the lectures. I don't have five kids though, so I guess I might change my tune pretty quick if I had to do five bedtimes. Thinking about it, I'd probably drag in any old stranger off the street to shout and yell if it meant I could get the kids to go to sleep LoL
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• United States
7 Oct 08
See, it's not just the number of kids, but the hours he works. He leaves at breakfast time and gets home at bedtime. So all during the day I'm responsible for the discipline. It gets very draining, because I never get a break. Even when the oldest are in school I still have the little ones home and they are so curious they're constantly into everything. When he gets home it's not so much that I've been tallying what they've done, it's more or less I'm exhausted and can't do it anymore... plus I need a bit of back up so the kids know we're on the same page.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
7 Oct 08
I can understand that!
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
1 Oct 08
When my husband gets home it is around 5 pm. Our daughter is 2 years old. She has taken a nose-dive into her terrible twos. I usually tell him all about her day. Then he takes her off my hands for awhile and plays with her. Either that or we will all go out so we can get out of the house. She usually falls asleep in the car.
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• United States
1 Oct 08
That's a great age. I have a 2 year old myself. He's really not much trouble yet. He's actually passed his terrible 2's stage, because I don't stand for that sort of stuff. He and the baby are my best behaved kids. It's the older ones I get aggravated with, they're 5 yr old twins and an 11 yr old. Trust me they are so much worse than a cute little toddler.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
1 Oct 08
This is very sad to me. Your kids are seeing dad as the meany who always yells at them when he gets home. My husband gets home at dinner time. When my kids were younger, they loved it when daddy came home (and so did mommy). When the kids were naughty, I would handle it and dad didn't need to come home to that.
• United States
1 Oct 08
After I wrote this I just knew I'd get at least one comment like this, lol. Problem is nobody understands my situation. I have 5 kids, oldest is 11, youngest is 8 months. Hubby works like 60 hours a week, gets home no earlier than 8pm, usually 6 days a week. My oldest 3 are major trouble makers. Mostly they're pretty good, but when it comes to getting them to settle down.. forget about it. Nothing works! So by the time hubby is walking through the door, unless by some miracle they've actually managed to fall asleep... I'm at the end of my rope. Last night was especially bad for a million reasons I don't need to get into. So I wrote this discussion as he was up there with them, and he happened to notice a few things I didn't catch during the day.. so he was doubly mad. He and I would both love it if he could come home and just greet them with no issues and no yelling or punishments... unfortunatly in our particular case, that is a rarity.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
katsmeow it was never like that in my house when my kids were little, I might be tired but dad was not the punisher at all, in fact he left that up to me, he loved our kids a nd always helped me put them to bed. he never did ever yell at them, he didnt need to.
• United States
9 Oct 08
In our house, my daughter used to be really happy when her Dad comes home from work. And if she has been asleep, she would wake up. Since his schedule changed and he works later, that has changed.
1 Oct 08
This is exactly what happens in my house but not with a husband but with my family, mother and father and two younger siblings. i think its just the way things go in most households because out of most of the people i know the same thing happens.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
1 Oct 08
[i]Hi kats, When I was growing up, Dad used to be home dinner time and that time Sister and I both enjoyed TV so we are no longer restless..LOL! ANyway, I have no kids but I have observed with friends that kids are more behave when Dad is around! LOL![/i]