love towards the same girl

October 1, 2008 1:15am CST
well how would i say this? I'm a girl and have a friend which is very close to me, she admitted that she is a tomboy,, hehehe,,, i did not turn off myself towards her but instead i feel something strange in me. Whenever she's not around i'm always looking for her and want to be with her always. I like so much being with her co'z she makes me laugh like nobody does in my life, then i started to like her that's not only a friendly love but more than that, but i was so afraid to tell because i don't want to loose her though she's making something that i feel like she love me too, whenever i'm absent at school she always said that she miss me so much and she want to see me, and give me something which i really appreciate. But i can't tell if she likes me too as what i feel. ...'(^_^)...
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@arthi_88 (1518)
• India
1 Oct 08
Well don't hide your feelings...it can be bad fro your friendship even..just go forward and explain everything you feel for her to her...don't forget to mention that even if she refuses you will still be a good friend to her.. This is the process my boyfriend had used to propose me cause he was scared of losing the friendship... Hope I was of some help.. And ALL THE BEST!!
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@rsa101 (16904)
• Quezon City, Philippines
1 Oct 08
Well the way you describe it to me is that you both have the same feelings for each other. I guess the feeling is mutual. Well although that relationship is not an acceptable to our society well I do understand that there is such things that do happen nowadays. Although it may be a taboo but then if you find happiness in that kind of a relationship then go but also be aware that there is a price to pay for that kind of a relationship. I do not need to elaborate on that one as I know you also know it by yourself.
1 Oct 08
ya yah,, you have a point, i should probably stick to the friendship we have, much better... thank you...
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@rsa101 (16904)
• Quezon City, Philippines
1 Oct 08
I did not mean that you stick to your friendship if the feeling cannot be stopped. i just made you aware that when you jump into it you should also prepare yourself for the consequences you've made in your ife. if you can handle it why not stop where you find your happiness in her. That's just it
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@gracie04 (4554)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
cool... well, i must admit that im in that kind of relationship.. =) i have no regrets telling her what i really feel because she feels the same way.. buti nalang, haha. =) i can feel that she likes you too... wait until she holds your hand, kiss you and all.. =) hihi
2 Oct 08
oh my, i just don't know what 2 do, b'coz i've never done ds before, i've been a relationship into diff. guys but now seems diff. w/ her, we hold hands everytime we walk but both of us dont talk about the feelings we have,,. xet..
@chitah (35)
• United States
7 Oct 08
you shouldnt be too hasty to tell her. girls are usually just like that. they care for friends. so they want to know where you've been!
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
Why dont you ask her. Dont torture yourself thinking about it. But i have a feeling that she also likes you. If you want to enter into a relationship with her, make sure that it's because you love her truly. Not because you like being with her or having her friendship. Love and friendship are two different things. Be more sure of your feelings.
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
i think the feeling is mutual..a girl cannot be that frank and honest, telling you that sweet words if she does not feel that to you...if you want to know her true feelings, why don't you try to confront her at once? so that the two of could stop beating around the bush..if she said she loves you too, then that's it.. good luck!
1 Oct 08
i know exactly how u feel. its probably really annoying you at the minute. i belive you should ask her out. i had the same feeling for a friend, i loved him, i could never stop thinking of him all throughout the 2years of our friendship. it was pure torture though. we both went through various boyfriends and girlfriends during our friendship and we always had each other to talk to. i always though that he might like me but like yourself i was too scared to do anything. but then one night we went out and got very drunk and after all that time as friends we kissed. after that night we met up to go on dates and talked everyday and three months later he asked me to go out offically, i was finally his girlfriend and i was never as happy. we're still together and i know now that we were always meant to be together,you always know when you meet the one you will spend the rest of your life with. i say, go for it with this girl, you are going to have to get over her some way and if u ask her out she might feel the same or it could be the opposite, but you should do it. if u dont you'll regret it and always be left wondering, but what if? good luck with asking her out if you choose too, i hope you find happiness :)
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
1 Oct 08
[i]Hi puz, wow...maybe you have mutual feelings then! ANyway, if that makes you happy then I guess there is no reason of keeping that feeling, you tell her and be ready for the consequence! That is life, we always have to face the consequence and be real! After all, you might regret of not doing the things that you can do this time! Good Luc[/i]k!
• Nigeria
1 Oct 08
i can say here that she like you,keep on contacting her,and she will come to you one day ok
@Feiyel (56)
• China
1 Oct 08
Dear girl,your story is very interesting. You and the other girl have much intimate relationship,and both of you feel happy when you are together.I think it's enough,you can keep this kind of intimate ralationship with her,and don't tell you especial love to her so early. You can keep this love in you heart,and you can use more time to stay with her,maybe you can make clear which kind of love in her heart.Is it just the intimate friendship,or same to your love to her. When you make clear, you can have the next step.
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
hi there Pusporu (youre name is cute, sounds like a "match"-as in posporo lol)well, just ask youself if you really badly need to tell her about how you feel.. Do you need to? and why do you need to tell your lesbian friend? I dont think that telling her will make you lose her..In fact, you will open the door of possibilities.. so think harder.."I have been there and done that" its fun,and a very nice feeling but..it leads to nowhere. Maybe I only speak for myself but, we don't want to hurt or disappoint God. We were created to be with a man. Be encouraged!
@weiwei88 (119)
• Singapore
1 Oct 08
EH. I dont know how to react to this post. But somehow i also have friends like that. What we call them are 'butch or bungs'. They are just like girls who tend to dress like guys, hair short and all. Actually to say this they want to be like guys. I guess this is a lesbian relationship. Sometimes girls tend to open up on the same gender i guess. I dont know. I dont have experience myself. But friends like this they are very protective of you, take care of you, be like your best friend and all. Probably wait for her to start holding your hand? Probably if she keeps calling you, asking you to go out and all might be that she likes you? good luck :)
@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Hmmm...its a hard a decision to make...you have to make it really sure to identify if it is love or you just like her because its really hard to make a decision that you will have to regret when the time comes. We all know that, that kind of relationship is not so accepted in our society. So you have to weigh everything first. Are you ready to upgrade your friendship into a romantic relationship? Are you ready to face people's criticism?