funeral home

@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
United States
October 1, 2008 7:05am CST
i had to go to the funeral home last night to pay my respects. a frien's mother passed away & she was alo an aunt to anoter friend. i have never heard some a noisy bunch of people at a plce of mourning. it sounded like there was party going on. don't you think a place like that sound be quiet where people can talk the the family of the deceased w/out having to pratically shout to be heard? there were about 4 children there & they were playing & caring on like they were at the park & while i was standing in line i never saw one adult say a word to them. i just didn't think it was the place for people to be acting like they were. what do u think??
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@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
1 Oct 08
First off, I would have had to say something to those children, the least they could have done was go outside. And actually, would have been better to leave the children at home or with a babysitter. I don't think it has to be totally solemn, I think it is better for people to remember the good times and happy times that person brought into other's lives. I don't mean it should sound like a party is going on, but a few light moments never hurt. And the family being able to see how their loved one touched the lives of others is always a good way of respecting that person.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
2 Oct 08
i just thought it as very disrespectful.
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@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
3 Oct 08
That always bothers me too.. I think just a wee bit of laughter isn't too awful bad. But I can't do it! It just doesn't seem right! It's a time of sadness, for the loved ones, and so I'm always sad too..
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
3 Oct 08
it's just not time for acting like they are at a party in my opinion.
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• United States
3 Oct 08
It's embarassing when people do that..!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
27 Jan 09
also very rude!
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
20 Apr 09
I'm so sorry for coming in so late. Yes I agree with you. People normally are in sad mood at such places and one should avoid taking children to such places.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
20 Apr 09
that's perfectly alright, thanks for your response. the adults were acting as bad or worse as the children.they acted like they were at a party instead of a wake.
• United States
3 Oct 08
Well when one passes away I would think it might be quiet but sometiimes people like to hide thier grief this way by being a little louder and the kids well they usually arn't responsable now are they? Hugs The Imp
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
3 Oct 08
kids are going to be kids. it'd the parents place to see that they behave. greetings from temmessee.
@XiaXueYi (85)
• Singapore
2 Oct 08
Are those "noisy bunch of people" related to you, or were they strangers? Did you say or do anything so that they would quieten down? What happened after that? In my country, it's kind bad enough that whether it be a Buddhist or Christian send-off, the atmosphere always seem kind of light-hearted, rather than heavy-hearted as it should be. Even though perhaps the snacking part after all the paying of respects and/or hymn-singing and/or family/relative testimonials are done is fine. Like, eating of peanuts or a small bowl of curry. But I can't stand people who play mahjong and talk loudly as if it was a gambling den! Those people are preposterous. No doubt that paying respects is not the most 'fun' thing to do in the world, but not everything entails 'fun'. Not to mention earning money or going there for the sake of going...I'd rather such people just stay home and watch TV instead of bringing shame to themselves, their families, and their ancestors.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
20 Apr 09
no, they weren't kin to me. i guess if they had of been i would have probably said something. the lady that had passed away was an aunt to a good friend of mine. of course living in a small town like i do i knew alot of people. thanks for your response.
@salonga (27998)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
A place of mourning should be respected. I am not pleased when people are doing things at the wrong places. I mean if it is mourning then don't party. Right you are a place like that should quiet. We are supposed to console the loved ones with our words of sympathy and assurance of our support. But how could we do that effectively if the people around have turned unruly. If they were to play they should rather go to the park. They are children so they would perhaps not know what is right and wrong yet. In such case,it's the responsibility of the adult companion to tell them to behave.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
20 Apr 09
sorry i have been so long in answering your response that i really did appreciatr. the adults were the ones so loud. they acted like it was old home week instead of a wake.
1 Oct 08
i think it is absoloutly direspectfull, i also think its disrespectfull when people have wakes at pubs where everyone just gets drunk, if that was my family i would be so so angry, it should be a time of mourning a quiet, peacfull time not a patry it is hardly somthing to celebrate about.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
20 Apr 09
i agree. thanks for your response.
@redkathy (3375)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Well, while waiting to pay respects, the children should have been under control. The talking I think would be ok. The party should be AFTER the service and final good byes in my opinion. I told my boys I want a big party because I finally made it to the non stop celebration so everyone should be following my lead!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
2 Oct 08
the children should have been made to mind but so should the adults know how to act. i didn't see anyone shedding a tear but her daughter & her niece.
@bunnybon7 (35524)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Oct 08
i think a lot depends on what kind of person they were and their family, what they thought. personally (and i know not all are like this) i would like to think my grandkids would be not just crying over me and my kids, family, etc. would say shes finally free of pain. now lets have a good going away party.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
2 Oct 08
i guess if i hadn't just experienced losing my dad i wouldn't have been quite so sensitive to it but i thought it was awful the way all of them were acting.
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
20 Apr 09
I'm so sorry for coming in so late.People are in sad mood at such places, so one should avoid taking children to such places.