Forgive and forget, very easy to say but hard to do!!

Japan
October 2, 2008 12:32am CST
It takes two to tango in a relationship but then if the music dies, the tango ends, the pain prevails, so hard to forget especially if during the tango the partner spotted another partner. Ouch! Until now I cannot forget what my ex did to me...after all the intimacy he left me wounded by making me feel insecure all along. And by the time I picked myself again he's back wanting to win me back. I am caught between forgiving & forgetting what he did and running as fast as I can. Which is the best way to go?
5 responses
@j0yc3e (26)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
I always forgive! But, you know, I dont really forget. You can gain my trust easily, but if you lost it, you can never regain that trust. I don't give 2nd chances when it comes on trust.
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• Japan
2 Oct 08
Wow! you must be a hard to please person if that's the case. I had a friend who is hard to forgive especially when it's trust issues...she often frown... Most of the time it's the ego that's being hit especially the one who violated our trust are those people we look up high on and those people we love tenderly. At the back of our head what they did is too unforgiving and even if I turn 40 years maybe i wouldn't forget what he did. Is that grudge?
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
2 Oct 08
can,t say which way to go you have to make this call.however if was me i would be very cautious men have nak of losing interest quick and stsrt having a wondering eye looking at everything that has a skirt.so just be careful if you forgive him ask him why he want to come back you are the same person he walked away from before and see what happens.good-luck
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• Japan
2 Oct 08
i totally agree with you.. what i fear the most is if I forgive him and be back again..we might be making the same mistakes again. You know some men just hard to learn, they're worst than babies
• Malaysia
1 Aug 10
Just a tip to help- I think that if someone hurts you and they do not ask your forgiveness, you should carry on and forgive, do not judge them and do not condemn them but you could avoid another instance by staying away. And if you seek forgiveness a merely 'I AM SORRY' is not good enough. Apologize , forsake and make restitution. In the other words, go the extra mile and there is definitely a good chance you will never do it again
• India
2 Oct 08
I Dont Forgive If ANyone Breaks My Heart Why Bcoz It is Very Hard To Forget Them As They Will Be In Our Minds As Why He/Her Did Like That ........ WE Will Be Thinking About Them Everytime What he/her will be doing without me ......... so its very hard to forget them so i dont forgive them at anytime ...... but i will not take revenge from them as what did for me so just cant forgive them so cant forget them
@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
2 Oct 08
You can forgive, but I am sure it is hard for you to forget. Time will come that you can forgive your ex. It may take for a while but don't rush and just continue healing the wound your ex caused you. But if he is really sincere of wanting you back, and if you feel the same way to him give another chance for him and for your relationship. Don't let pride take over because who knows in the end you will regret it.