October 2, 2008 12:32am CST
Is there such a thing... I went through this friendly heartache and I tell you it hurts. Its so hard to lose a friend, especially if you separated in bad terms. I thought I had a best friend, someone who would be there at times when i was right and wrong. Someone who kept his word when he told me, he won't let any guy hurt me. But look at me, its been 3 years and I haven't moved on from the heart ache my best friend caused. I tried making up with him, thinking that we were mature enough to let go of the past and just stay civil for our common friends' sake. But we act as if we never met, that one does not exist. How hurtful...
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6 Oct 08
haha, different person ate.. Haha.. My bestfriend was my highschool friend. We parted ways when I was still in 2nd yr college.. we were best friends for 5 years.. but the girlfriend got jealous, accusing me that I was stealing her BF away from her, what hurt the most was that my bestfriend did not even defend me, or atleast find a way to make me and the Gf friends. He made it look like I was really trying to steal him away from the girl, but that was impossible, I had a boyfriend then. And he knows how much I cried over that guy, I even introduced them to each other. But that guy you're talking about is very special to me, i don't know if I am to him. No we didn't see each other the last time I was there. That guy is impossible to get a hold of. hahaha..
9 Oct 08
YAH, I KNOW... UNTIL NOW, I CAN'T GET OVER WHAT HAPPENED. i DONT WANT TO THINK BADLY OF MY EX BESTFRIEND. SO SOMETIMES, i THINK THAT MY BEST FRIEND PASSED AWAY, AND THE PERSON WHO TOLD ME THOSE HURTFUL THINGS IS ANOTHER PERSON. sO ATLEAST, i WILL BE ABLE TO CHERISH THE HAPPY AND GOOD MEMORIES HE HAD WITH ME... iT MAY SOUND CRAZY, BUT THAT'S HOW IT HELPS FOR ME NOT TO FEEL SO MUCH PAIN.
• United States
5 Oct 08
If you've been best friends for a long time before your separation, then there is reason for you to still be hurting until now. Especially if you have the same friends and see each other from time to time. I don't really know the whole story so I can't really say. But if you've learned to love and trust a person, be it a boyfriend or a best friend, it hurts more if the relationship does not work. Take care, chicha.
5 Oct 08
Thank you for responding. THank you for saying that I still have reason to hurt. We were best friends for 5 years. Then all of a sudden he called me up and said "Let's stop being friends!", I had a feeling it was because of his girlfriend. Because the day before he text me that, he sent me a message saying "I'm sorry if I am not the best best friend in the world, I'm sorry if I haven't been there for you, I just want you to know that if you need me do not hesitate to call because I am still your bestfriend." So of course the text that other text shocked me. Even if he wont tell me the truth, I know it was because of his girlfriend.
• United States
6 Oct 08
Oh Chicha... that seems to be always the case when a male best friend gets a girlfriend. Based on what you're saying, he really disappointed you there, especially after promising you all those things and I guess it took him only a few days to go back on his word. Sigh! I know it hurts but now, I think it's time to realize that if he wasn't MAN and honest enough to defend your friendship, then maybe he's not worth all the crying and the hurt. But it would still hurt, just try not to dwell on someone who would drop you right away if he gets the girl. My best friend in high school was a guy too and we became even closer during college. But we ended up together for a while and it just didn't work. We tried to remain friends after that, we keep in touch every now and then but the friendship just isn't the same now that we both have other partners. Plus, we're countries apart.