long distance relationship + dating = WHAT?

Guam
October 2, 2008 1:04am CST
I am currently in a long distance relationship. Its been only a month since we last spent time together. But here on GUam my sister has been telling me to start dating here, you know to get out, meet other guys, have a wider range of options... because I'm still young and marriage should be something far from my thoughts. My co workers have been advicing me the same thing. I turned 21 this year, and I admit, my boyfriend and I have been planning out when we're gonna get married. Mylotters, help me out... I know a lot of you have something to say. Something that would clear my head and remove all the pressure coming from the people around me.
3 responses
• Malaysia
2 Oct 08
As you may aware, long distance relationship is really a challenge for both parties. It is not only the couple but the 3rd party also. Most of the time, the couple is faithful, but when it comes to a situation where he/she needs helps and accompany but the other half is not around?? That's the time where the 3rd party might step in and cause the relationship into challenge. Getting another date in local or any places for me is not faithful. Somehow, lots of argument for the statement. But definitely i will not accept that. =_
• Guam
2 Oct 08
hmmm.. that seems interesting. i know how you feel, my boyfriend gets jealous really easy. Its a good thing I work for my family's company, almost everyone there if my cousin or a family friend. I've went out with a few new friends, because my sisters want me to go out from time to time, so I won't burn out easily with work and with my life here on island. I am a very hard person to please, especially when it comes to guys. I hardly get attracted to someone, and I tell my boyfriend that.
• Malaysia
3 Oct 08
Hmmm, i believe those words your boyfriend will feel very touch and feel more comfortable for the relationship.
• Guam
3 Oct 08
I love my boyfriend dearly, he knows that, and sometimes he admits he gets jealous easily because he's afraid to lose me, I try to make sure that he doesn't feel that way. As much as possible I would like trust and love to be the foundation of our relationship.
@aquarina (172)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I will tell you that long distance relationships are very tough but most definitely can be done. I am in one. My boyfriend is in the Navy and we are hardly together. But it is true that "love conquers all" and "absence makes the heart grow fonder." At least, those are true in my case. For some people it's "out of sight, out of mind." We are doing great and have plans to marry in about a year. Really, I dont listen to what anyone says about our relationship b/c the only people who REALLY know, are you and him. If you have TRUST and LOVE, it can work out. Now, I notice you are pretty young. I wouldnt jump into marriage too quickly. Def see if you can make the long distance thing work. You both may find that it's just not worth it after a while and would like to date other people. Only you and him will know what's right for your relationship. Good luck to you!
• Guam
2 Oct 08
I know. I had a long distance relationship before, and he broke up with me, he told me that same quote "out of site, out of mind." But I guess with my boyfriend now, its different. Because I see his effort to call, text and chat with me everyday. Sometimes I feel like a time in and out clock, he tells me where he is, and what he's doing. Nothing exagerrated. He informs me when he's on his break and that he'll text me when he gets home. Sometimes when he's having his computer class, he goes online through meebo and checks if I'm online. Since my work revolves around emails and the internet. I'm definitely always online. We plan to get married in 3 years or so. I still need to petition him. He's a filipino citizen and I'm a US citizen. So hopefully the time that will take for me to petition him will last for 1 year. I plan to start the processing end of next year.
@aquarina (172)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Well, it really sounds like you guys are doing great! I wish you very much luck and i hope it works out! If he's your soulmate and it's meant to be, it WILL workout. If not, then... he was not the one.
• Guam
2 Oct 08
Yes, I think so too.. Good luck with you and your boyfriend too. I always know that God has His way and His reasons.
• Indonesia
2 Oct 08
long distance relationship that hard, i have 2 experience with this thing and never work , cannot get some trust and have a little time to hang out make me and my girlfriend tired + Boring :D ... Just searh any new boy or girl around of u !
• Guam
2 Oct 08
We'll see, God has His way of sending out a message of when and to whom I will fall in and out of love with. I just don;t want to jump into conclusions. Plus I don't have much friends here on GUam. Since I spent most of my life in Philippines. So let's see what will happen.