spend the day with family or take Rest day Overtime?

October 2, 2008 4:43am CST
My son is turning 1 yr. soon and we`re having finacial troubles I`ve been taking extra work hours to reach our target budget, sacrificing a rest day each week,I work 6 days a week 12hrs/day,the time i spend with my family,specially my son,is getting shorter...sometimes i feel like i`m not doing the right thing but at the same time the reason why I take rest day overtimes is my family...What do you think is more important? Family day or Extra work day for more money?
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@bowtieguy (5925)
• United States
2 Oct 08
It depends on what your budgeting is. See if there is anything in your bills that you might be able to reduce weither it is food electric or water or something. There are great sites online that will show you how to minimilize it. That might and up saving you enough that you could cut back a few hours. it's not much but it something. As long as your chilldren are getting to see you and spend sometime with you during the day it should be fine. I had to work long hours right after my wife left me, I didn't get to see my sons more than an hour or so each day. I though it would be bad for them and it was at first having no parents only grandparents watching them most of the time. I found that once they were older they understood what I did and how I was doing it for them and they appriciate me a lot more for it. The listen to me very well and have great respect and maners for others. Maybe I was lucky that way I don't know but i wouldn't worry about it too much.
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25 Oct 08
What`s important i guess is to balance work time and family...
@chiaeugene (2226)
• China
2 Oct 08
i understand how you feel as a father of my son. everything u do now is for his future and u want to earn more money so that he can have a better life. there are many ways to spend time with your son. while u cannot see him at work, u can make the most out of your time at home with him. spending time does not necessarily need to bring him out of the house. now my son still sleep with us on the bed in the middle. it really heartwarming to watch him sleep as he looks the most innocent in his sleep (he is a little terror when he is awake) my son wakes up early around 6-7am everyday and i think he is happy to see me and my wife when he open his eyes and cuddle with us in the bed. just try to strike a balance and you will be fine. your son will understand your efforts when he gets older
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25 Oct 08
its really nice to hear from someone who had experienced my situation. thanks for responding and i guess what i`ve learned from this is to balance my time...Thanks!
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
When I was a kid, I did not understand why dad had to spend most of his time at his work. I seldom see him at home. The only times that I would see him would be during the 15th and 30th of the month. I grew up thinking that money is the only important thing in this world.When I finished my college, I practically had the nerve to ask my dad, if he did love us. He said to me in just a few words, " I worked just for you to live." I never understood what those words are until I became the breadwinner of the family. Sometimes you have to sacrifice things up just to show your love. It was then that I realized, quality time with your family doesnt mean more time, it means the best memories that you can share with your family.
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25 Oct 08
Thanks for responding...what i should do now i guess is to balance my time...
@felher08 (195)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
I am a father who always have financial troubles evryday due to insufficient income to feed 4 children in a family. I work 8 hrs a day, but I still look for money during Sunday, an extra work hours. But, I take time for a family day once a month, sacrificing my extra work every week. For me, a family day is more important than extra work for money. Time spend for the children and family is more precious and more significant.
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25 Oct 08
Thanks for responding, I just finished reading all the responses and I guess the most important thing I learned is you need to balance time for your family and work because you can never make up for the time that you spend. listen: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10...10 secs of your life just past and you can never bring it back...=)
• India
3 Oct 08
You have to balance both, at least to some extent. See you are right that you are working for the family that is your son. But the same son who needs money to grow up also needs your fatherly/motherly love to grow. And in future when he grows up you can somehow/with dificulties might be able to fulfill the need of money BUT you can never MAKEUP for the time which you will loose when you were not there for him. So balance. Take care.
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25 Oct 08
thank for responding.. I has read everyone`s response and i learned a lot... I agree that you need to balance both work and family time because you can never bring it back...i marked you`re answer best! Thanks!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
3 Oct 08
actually it is togh situation. some times money is badly needed. but family life is also needed. they need you. so all these should be balanced
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25 Oct 08
I agree that everything should be balanced... Thanks for responding!
@shana123 (2096)
• India
3 Oct 08
Your father? or mother? I guess your a dad of the child , wow in these days i dont think all dads worry about not spending quality time with their children , but your feeling for your little todller that itself shows your true love , what do you actually do on your rest day play with your son or sleep well? people here in my place they work only for 8 hours but they say they have did hard work and they never care for anything just put the blanket over them and sleep well , my mom was a housewife and dad was working , he spends time with me when i was kid i remember that i dont let my dad go to work , i cry when he leaves home :) When your in financial short then you must work , because your son will not know whether your spending time wiht him or not because he is too small, but he will not adjust if your dont get him things when he grows big , remember this !
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25 Oct 08
you felt me here...thanks!
@shoeb000 (321)
• India
3 Oct 08
FAmily is always important, but what if you get lot of time with you for your family but no good money? ? ? AT TIMES, they will be more happy with money rather than your time. but again a growing child dont care about money in any matter, he needs a father to be with him, wether the father earn a crore or just 1000s... he/she dont care.. well its a time you should take for you family.. earning is good, but you can stress it at a latter stage/
25 Oct 08
I learned a lot from everyone`s comments but i guess what`s important is to balance family and work time...
@thejj924 (78)
• United States
3 Oct 08
i would suggest to spend the time with the child, because money is always out there, even though you might now seem like there is. your child is growing up and getting older each day, and learning new things each day, you will hate yourself for everything you have missed. Family is the most important thing in your life even though it is money that gets everything around.
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25 Oct 08
I guess the best thing would be to balance work time and family...
• United States
2 Oct 08
I think it depends on your actual financial situation. If you are working these extra hours just to keep food on the table, roof over your heads, etc, then you probably need to keep that up. But if you are working extra to pay off bills sooner, or have more savings or to buy something special, then maybe taking a day for the family every so often would be more important. It also depends on how you are feeling and how you are handling your workload. If you are always irritable, angry, upset, nervous, and tired, then you need a rest, no matter what. If you are able to handle the extra hours well without irritability, resentment, or extreme fatigue, then that helps you to better focus on your family when you are home.
25 Oct 08
just balance everything...Thanks for responding.